How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

LETTER LOVEFRAUD: Countermeasures to deal with the sociopathic ex

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Editor's note: Here is a letter from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "GI Joe." This reader is in the military, so July 4th seemed an appropriate time to post this article. First, I want to acknowledge him and all members of the military for their service. Secondly, the answers to his questions have to do with freedom. My ex-wife and I divorced in 2012. The marriage was a nightmare that lasted more than 11 years and left me financially ruined, emotionally distressed and alone. To make matters worse, my ex moved out of state with my children, making it impossible for me to see my children on a regular basis. Since I was in a financial hurt locker, it took me years before I was able to …

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Holidays with a Sociopath

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There's no exact formula for spending life's special events with a sociopath, but one thing's for sure. It won't be good for you. With the 4th of July coming tomorrow, I decided to spend some time talking about life's biggest events and sweetest moments. Weddings. Birthdays. Funerals. Births. Christmas. Hanukah. Anniversaries. And any other special time or ritual that gives our humanity a chance to feel the deeper meaning of life. To watch the fireworks. To celebrate our bonds to each other. To remember our heritage. To take a breath and step away from the daily grind so we can look around and appreciate what's most important to us. And feel the joy that comes with it. And because our …

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Pro-arrest policies for domestic violence show women arrests growing

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When it comes to domestic violence, the traditional scenario has been of men abusing and beating women. At the Gainesville Police Department in Alachua County, Florida, arrests of women on domestic battery or assault charges have sometimes outpaced the arrests of men. Bruce Ferris, a former Gainesville police detective who investigated domestic violence cases, said many women charged with domestic violence are themselves victims of batterers and are defending themselves or striking out against repeated abuse. Many states have a mandatory pro-arrest policy, where if police are dispatched to a domestic violence call, the aggressor must be arrested. For officers answering a call, it is …

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Why I Wrote ‘Discarded: One Mother’s Journey with a Psychopath’

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By Indie Mom I never started out to write a book, let alone a personal memoir, laying bare the most intimate and personal details between my husband and me and our children. Looking back four years since he left our family home, I can barely believe the repressed stories that have surfaced, and even more, stories that make complete sense to someone other than me. Because I had endured years of gas lighting, projection, triangulation and manipulation at the hands of my husband and father of my children, I looked and felt like a very unwell person when I tried to share anything with our closest friends and family members. Eventually, when our house of cards came tumbling down, there …

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Glen Whitter: a piranha allegedly targeting lonely women on Plenty of Fish dating site

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Same scenario, different victim. A single woman in her 50s looking for love. She's been healing from a divorce for years, and is now finally ready to stick her toe in the dating waters again. She chooses Plenty of Fish (in the sea) to try her hand at online dating. Unfortunately for Monica Draper, a 55-year-old web designer from Ontario, when she stuck her toe in the Plenty of Fish pool, she was targeted by a piranha named Glenn Whitter. Whitter first approached Draper as a romantic partner, then became her financial adviser. He conned her out of more than $100,000, and then he disappeared. Draper has become a one-woman detective agency, searching for Whitter. She has uncovered a …

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