How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: I still love the stupid jerk – what is wrong with me?

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman whom we'll call “Lila” she posts as "gruuvygirl." Like many of the women I see on this site, I stumbled here while searching for answers as to why my four-year relationship is so incredibly painful and why I keep going back for more pain and heartache. I feel like I have lost my mind. At the beginning, our relationship was awesome. I was soooo happy because I thought I had finally found “the one” — my soul mate! He was handsome, drove a Harley, liked to do the same things I do, he was friendly and everyone liked him (I thought), he had a house on the lake and a job, but mostly he seemed to adore me. But even at the beginning …

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Reader spots Red Flags of Love Fraud in a woman he meets on a dating site

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Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call “Evan.” I'm coming to Lovefraud again because I'm pretty sure I have just met another sociopath through a religious online dating website. She seems too good to be true, so I think she is ... I'm just wondering what the best way to end the very short relationship would be. Red Flag Reminders: Charisma and Charm Sudden Soulmates Sexual magnetism Love bombing Blames others for everything Lies and gaps in the story Intense eye contact Moves fast to hook up Pity play Jekyll and Hyde personality Facts: - I contacted her via the dating website on Monday (4 days ago she already wants to meet and has told me what feels like too …

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‘Soaked in Bleach:’ Movie about Kurt Cobain’s death alleges his wife, Courtney Love, was involved

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Soaked in Bleach from Montani Productions on Vimeo. Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader. By Sellena I highly recommend you all check out a brand-new movie, Soaked in Bleach. It is a documentary about Kurt Cobain's death in early April, 1994. This movie presents compelling evidence that Kurt Cobain did not commit suicide, but was murdered. Tom Grant, the P.I. who investigated Kurt Cobain's death, and who is interviewed a lot in this movie, thinks Courtney Love had something to do with Cobain's death, if she didn't murder him herself. Grant first got involved in this case when he was initially hired by Kurt Cobain's wife, Courtney Love, days before Cobain's …

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BOOK REVIEW: Combating Cult Mind Control

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  Cult leaders are sociopaths on steroids. For this reason, Combating Cult Mind Control, by Steven Hassan, is packed with information that can help you understand how you, or someone else, fell under the spell of a sociopath, and how victims can escape and recover. The author himself was once a member of the Unification Church (Moonies). He rose to the leadership ranks of the organization, until, with a twist of fate and the help of his family, he escaped. After his recovery, Hassan made it his mission to educate people about cults and help victims leave them. Combating Cult Mind Control was originally published in 1988, and is recognized as one of the best books on the topic. Hassan …

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Texas Monthly profiles international con man Youssef Khater

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Looking for adventure, Callie Quinn, of Canyon Lake, Texas, went to live in Chile in 2011. In a hostel-like home filled with ex-pats, she met Youssef Khater. At first she hated him, but later warmed to his charm and and magnetism. That is, until he cracked her in the head with a pipe, wrapped her in canvas and buried her alive under a mountain of ashes. Texas Monthly magazine just published a story about Callie's encounter. Youssef Khater, it turns out, is an international con man with a long history of fraud and violence. The article describes Khater as a psychopath, and briefly discusses the personality disorder, and what it means for criminal prosecutions. The link was supplied by a …

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Divorce Settlements-Strategically Giving Them What They Want: Financials with a Sociopath Part 5 of 5

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Part of a Now 5 Week Series: Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath Week 3: Preparing for Divorce Week 4: Divorce and Aftermath Part A Week 5:  Divorce and Aftermath Part B Divorce and Aftermath Part B Now that I knew the business was indeed going bankrupt, I had to make a decision.  I knew by this time the only way to get what I needed was to make him think that he was getting what he wanted.  I knew that he would not stop the fighting in this divorce if he did not get what he wanted.  He would not care how much money we spent on attorney's fees and court.  Having someone to fight with was actually a bonus for him.  He liked the …

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Marriage to the narcissist was bad, but divorcing him was worse

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Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call “Mary-Louise.” I was married for 9 years to a man who is a malignant narcissist, very similar to a sociopath. I have 2 kids and we share legal custody. I thought being married to him was bad, but divorcing him is worse in a lot of ways. He had a sex and gambling addiction. He works as a fitness coach for adults and loved the automatic authority that gave him. He took full advantage of the women clients and had affairs with many of them. This was unknown to me until we separated. There were several women he had on-going affairs with over the course of 10 years. Regularly he would invite his fitness clients over to our house …

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