Archive for March, 2017

Chaos, destruction and murder – the philosophy of a sociopath

Socipathic eyesLovefraud received a letter from a woman who we’ll call Valerie. She met her husband, whom we’ll call Dylan, at age 18, and has been with him for seven years. She thought they were happy together in their wonderful home with their family of pets.

Suddenly Dylan started acting erratically. He said he didn’t want to be with Valerie any more. He picked fights. She asked Dylan to leave, but made it clear that she was willing to do whatever was necessary to help him. So he left, and wouldn’t tell her where he was. Eventually, Valerie’s intuition told her to check her husband’s Facebook page, where she found Dylan’s love letters to another woman.

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14 tactics used by coercive controllers in abusive relationships

Angry psychopath“Coercive control feels like being trapped in a cage and you can’t get out and you don’t know where to turn.” That’s how Dr. Lisa Aronson Fontes described this insidious form of domestic violence. She was one of several experts who spoke at a conference on coercive control in Suffolk, England on March 6, 2017.

Another expert, Dr. Evan Stark, said that around 25 percent of women in abusive relationships are never assaulted.

The program described 14 ways that abusers control their victims, from limiting contact with family and friends to constant phone calls, texts and emails.

‘It’s like being in a cult for one’: Read 14 tactics used by coercive controllers, on… Read more

9 control tactics in a classic story of sociopathic manipulation

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The following letter, written by a young woman whom we’ll call Chloe, is one of the most complete stories of psychological manipulation that I’ve ever seen yet. Chloe wrote this letter secretly while the sociopath she is living with was at the gym.

I met my boyfriend two years ago. I was 18; he was 33. He’s a photographer; we live on an island that is very small. He has lived here forever (10 years) and I had only been here a few months when I met him. Everybody, especially women on the island, adore him, he is THE BIGGEST charmer.

He told me that he had moved here with his fiancée,

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Cops use fake dating profile to catch guy who beat up his girlfriend

Angry Blond ManWhen a woman from Astoria, New York, tried to break up with her boyfriend, he became violent. He punched her in the face with a nail in his hand.

Then he disappeared into a drug treatment program, where cops couldn’t find him because of privacy laws.

Then the guy posted a new dating profile on Plenty of Fish, which the victim saw. She alerted the police.

They set up a sting. A woman, who was actually an undercover cop, arranged to meet the alleged perpetrator at a Manhattan bar. He was arrested and charged with attempted murder.

Astoria cops use dating site to lure guy who beat up his girlfriend during breakup, on

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An unwitting relationship with a sociopath changes us

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 41: Stronger 

Over the next year, with Dr. Davis’s help, I changed, but Paul did not. As my emotional strength and awareness grew, albeit slowly, I started to understand one of Paul’s key manipulation tactics, and I refused to be sucked in.

Paul had a habit of entangling me in things someone else had done to disappoint or upset him. To show … Read more

Man kills first wife, serves time, then tortures second wife and kills 4 kids

Gregory Green

Gregory Green

“You are a con artist, you are a monster.” That’s what Faith Green told her husband, Gregory Green, who killed her four children and attempted to kill her.

Gregory Green, 50, of Dearborn Heights, Michigan, was sentenced to 47 years in prison for his crimes.

Gregory Green had served 16 years in prison for killing his pregnant first wife in 1991.

Burn in hell! Scarred wife confronts husband in court after he murdered their four children and slashed her face, on

Gregory v. Green: Some things to know about dad who murdered his 4 kids, shot his wife then called 911, on

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