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Another court-ordered visitation, another tragically dead child

Jonathan James died of dehydration in 2011. He was allegedly deprived of water as punishment for bedwetting.

Tina Alberson admits she withheld water from stepson Jonathan James, who died from dehydration, on

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Donna, thank you for posting one more example of how the system is FAILING, miserably. Oh, my god….

WHEN…….just, WHEN will this madness stop?! Children do NOT “need” both parents to become well-adjusted, healthy, and successful members of society. It’s just like court-mandated “family involvement” with criminals!!

Godalmighty….this has GOT to end, at some point.

Ox Drover

I read about this story and saw the photos of the parents of this child, they looked like monsters…I used to live in Duncanville, which is a suburb of Dallas, mostly a nice little town on the edge of a big one….the story I read didn’t have the details that this one does, and I can’t even imagine that poor kid standing there holding a bag of potatoes over his head begging for water. The story I read did say he was kept from water for 5 days though, and that is unbelievably horrific.

I hope and pray that the death of this young boy signals some Courts that some people do not need to be allowed to “visit” with their kids, PARENTS SHOULD HAVE NO RIGHTS, KIDS SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAFETY.


OxD, that the one child died of farking THIRST is horrific enough, but his twin brother was terrified to the point where he could only watch, in horror, as his twin perished. The child was afraid that HE was going to be punished and probably die, too!

WTF is WRONG with people, anyway!

I agree 100% that children need safety, and there seems to be NO advocacy for children, whatsoever. Any parent that has the temerity to shout outrage about the other parent is immediately “SUSPECT” and labeled as bitter and vengeful. Ugh….just…..omigod….

No, it’s never going to end. This is the way children have been treated since the beginning of time. They are considered expendable and WITHOUT RIGHTS.

As long as there are people who feel the need to prey on the vulnerable, (AKA spaths) children will never have rights, women will continue to be abused, and there will be no justice.

I’m so sick of this.

Ox Drover

There are some heart breaking photos here in this article. The two boys in their cub scout uniforms with their arms around each other.

The father may just be an idiot but that step mother is the wicked witch of the world.

Boy describes watching his twin brother, 10, die of dehydration but was too scared of his step-mother to give him water

* Joseph James, 12, testified that he watched his brother Jonathan’s organs fail at his father’s house and then saw him declared dead at the hospital
* Step-mother Tina Alberson confessed in police interview that she was responsible for her step-son’s death from dehydration
* In jail, Alberson befriended Elizabeth Escalona – the woman convicted of gluing her daughter’s hands to a wall and then torturing her to death

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PUBLISHED: 16:37 EST, 17 January 2013 | UPDATED: 19:30 EST, 17 January 2013

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A 12-year-old boy described today how he watched his twin brother slowly die of dehydration, but was too scared of his step-mother to give him water.

Joseph James said he knew something was wrong with his fraternal twin brother Johnathan James in August 2011, but he was terrified of doing anything.

Joseph’s step-mother Tina Alberson and his father Michael James, of both Dallas, Texas, face life in prison over charges that they caused 10-year-old Jonathan’s death by depriving him of water.


Skylar, as much as I don’t like the truth, I’m afraid that you’re 100% spot-on: there will never be an end to this type of thing and the reasons that you provided were painfully accurate.

As long as there is a lust for power and control, legal systems will continue failing in their duties to hold “bad people” accountable and preventing more harm to the abused.

There’s just no advocacy, on any level. How many people would take time out of their days and lives to travel to a local or County Courthouse to SUPPORT someone that they do not know who has been abused?

As a strict aside, OxD’s recent experiences with people who claimed to be willing to care about her refused to take a stand with regard to her son’s possible parole.

People “know” what’s wrong and what’s right, and they’re too self-absorbed, fearful, and/or busy to take a stand even when there’s an opportunity for them to make a difference.

Okay…..rant over.

Brightest blessings


I don’t see a lot of hope of things changing, either. I mean, like the system changing. But I do think we can keep trying to wake good people up. The spaths won’t change. They succeed because good people don’t recognize evil when they see it. And don’t know how to respond. That poor twin brother didn’t know the danger his brother was in and didn’t know how to respond. (beyond that, it is hard for me to comment — there are not enough details given. Was the dad bad, too? Or just in thrall to his evil wife?)

My kids have an evil stepmother. It took me about 5 years to catch on to this. Of course, I cannot say this to anyone: “my kids have an evil stepmother” because they would hear me as being crazy. But it is the absolute truth.

I believe she is capable of anything (including slowly poisoning the children and getting away with it) HOWEVER my daughters now refuse to go over there.

I’m glad they are refusing, because I was not able to refuse FOR them.

I know how normal this stepmother appears. If we ever had to go to court, she would be the one believed, and I would be the crazy, paranoid nutcase.

So we just try to stay off their radar, make some vague evasive moves from time to time (gray-rock-ish) and wait it out. Just 1.5 years to go until the kids are legal adults.


20years, that’s about all a conscientious parent can do when there’s an evil step-parent involved. Seriously. And, good for YOU for recognizing your own limitations and allowing your daughters to “get it,” on their own. No, we cannot refuse for our children, even though our minds and hearts are screaming for us to do so. It takes a whole lot of courage to let things run their course, 20years, and good for YOU!!!

Brightest blessings

Ox Drover

Well, the biatch got convicted, and I hope she goes to prison for LIFE, “life” doesn’t always mean that long though

sharing the journey

20 years

I was in the same position as you. When the mask came off (after 22 years) and I threw him out after being pyschologically, emotionally and physically decimated I had no idea how to respond.

I googled like crazy trying to get a handle on what had hit me and two pieces of advice jumped out at me. These two pieces of advice were NC (no contact) and don’t say anything bad against him to the kids as you will come off as the crazy one.

I was twirling in the wind but I hung on to these even though I wanted to scream from rooftops what he had done.

As it turned out, he did what I was advised not to do. He smeared me to the kids in his rage at me getting away and the kids were turning against me.

I firmly told the kids that it was between me and him and that he shouldn’t be involving them and that I said nothing about him to them.

Although I was a confused mess, this piece of advice put me in the position of a responsible adult in charge and he looked like the crazy one.

Five and half years later he has shown his true colours to the kids. My silence speaks volumes regarding him and I just validate my kids when they speak of his abandonment of them.

They now see the truth but it was a heartbreaking road to get here. For both my kids and I.

Kids can be very resliant when they have one good parent. They are doing well and very rarely mention him.

But I am so glad I followed those two pieces of advice regarding him when I was a mess. I had nothing else to hold on to as I had never encountered anything as evil as this in my life.



SharingTheJourney, 100% spot-on.

Spaths divide and conquer, and when children are involved, it’s the worst abuse imaginable. Victims of spaths are painted as being crazy, bitter, vengeful, etc., and it’s a VERY difficult challenge for a person who is attempting to co-parent (ROFL) with a spath ex to keep those two priceless pieces of advice in context.

The victims-now-survivors feel the need for validation and they (me, included) will speak to anyone who will listen about what they experienced. Well…..when push comes to shove, very few people really WANT to know what happened, and even fewer really care.

So, keeping the children OUT of the spath loop is vital. I used to tell my sons, “These are issues between your father and me, and they are NOT open for discussion.” And, I stuck to that.

Glad you’re recovering well, Sharing!

Brightest blessings

Ox Drover

Yea, Truthy, you did right iin that approach, but you still have one kid who IS a P and another one who is under the influence of that P older brother. The thing is that even WEN WE DO RIGHT we don’t always get the result we desire.

I was not a perfect parent by any means, but I ended up with a full blown violent criminal P for one son and another whose moral compass, though he is not a psychopath, I would not and do not want him as a friend. I’m not afraid of him, and I do LOVE him, but I sure as heck don’t like or trust him to keep his word. He’s not a thief or a murderer and he’s a good employee for whoever he works for, but he is financially irresponsible, and lies when it suits him rather than man up and tell the truth. So he’s a mixture of good traits and bad, but I can’t and won’t tolerate the lies, so essentially we are “not close” and that’s a shame. But I do NOT blame myself for what he chose to become any more than I do for what his brother became.

I think, depending on the circumstances it may be appropriate too tell the kids (depending on age etc) what the sperm donor has done. Not judgmentally, but just FACTUALLY.

Kids have a hard time even then, knowing that daddy robbed a bank, beat mom into a coma, or burned down the house,—- but I know he loves me.

But hiding some of those things especially from older kids I don’t think is fair either.


There’s another little boy who went missing (and is probably dead) during court ordered visitation with his father. His name is Dylan Redwine. I pray they find him, but it doesn’t look good. He vanished less than a day after arriving at his father’s house.

Ox Drover

Loving them, yea I read about that, another sad case. It is amazing when you start to look for them in the news how many parents kill their kids.


He looks like a wonderful boy. I wish they could have found him. I feel so bad for that boy and his family.


I now believe that my (now deceased) mother who had been formally diagnosed with borderline pd, also had narcissistic pd and some traits of psychopathy, deliberately withheld water from me when I was not yet 1 year old.

My suspicions were confirmed when I read my mother’s therapy journal after her death; she admitted there her paranoid delusion that I (her infant) had hated her and rejected her as a mother, she admitted that she’d resented my birth (she felt I trapped in an unhappy marriage) and hated the realities of having a child (having virtually no free time, changing diapers, the mess, the smell, the noise, the expense, etc.) and that she viewed me as (or, had assigned me the role of) her much-hated older sibling.

Without enough liquids, I became so dehydrated that I couldn’t pass stool easily, and wound up literally busting my gut and needed emergency surgery at about 11 months old. A follow-up surgery was required several months later to reinforce the muscles on the other side of my pelvic floor.

I wish there was some way to screen people to see if they’re at least minimally mentally healthy enough to be left alone with their baby, responsible enough and empathetic enough to be raising children.

Maybe in the future, these new brain-scanning tests that appear to be able to show a “signature” brain-wave pattern for psychopathy (and the Cluster B pds, too, possibly) can be run on new or prospective parents, so at least they can be red-flagged for needing a LOT of monitoring and supervision as parents.


Babs: This is just terrible to hear. I am glad you are here and recognizing that you were victimized by a sociopath and that your recovery from all of this type of abuse will bring you some peace.

lost everything

A new meaning to the phrase ‘not divorcing for the sake of the child’. A sociopath and a child is a bad combination. A sociopath with a child, he never wanted and only acknowledged when it suited him, is something I refused to let happen.

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