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“I encountered a serial killer and escaped”

Kylr Yust (Facebook)

Kylr Yust (Facebook)

In response to a question on Quora, a writer called “Frances Red” said yes, she had escaped a serial killer, and told the story about her ex-boyfriend, Kylr Yust:

Out of nowhere he bashed my head into the dashboard, zip tied my throat to the back of his seat, and forced himself upon me. I was traumatized, all these years we had been friends and he has never even so much as raise his voice at me now all the sudden he is beating the living crap out of me and stealing a big part of my innocence and Trust. After he was finished he Release Me From the zip tie that was around my throat. He kissed me and told me he had to do that to make sure he could trust me. That was then he told me that he had a girl and the trunk and she was dead.

About — new index of features and resources

Lovefraud offers you a multitude of features and resources, and now you can find an index of them on our new About page.

The page includes links to:

  • Lovefraud’s FREE checklist — is your partner a sociopath, narcissist or psychopath?
  • What’s a sociopath? — the information you really need to know.
  • Webinars for survivors and mental health professionals
  • And much more!

Please visit the new About page. It’s located in the red navigation bar on a laptop, and the black navigation bar on a phone. Maybe there are features and resources you haven’t discovered.

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW to host free conference call support group 1/28/19 at 5pm EST

Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, January 28, 2019 at 5 pm EST. Go to and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.


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Why sociopaths can’t love

caregivingOne winter, my husband, Terry Kelly, and I traded colds. I got sick first, and Terry made chicken soup and did what he could to make me feel comfortable.

Then, despite my best efforts to keep my germs to myself, Terry got sick.

By this time I was feeling better. So I went to the store and bought cold medicine, tissues and orange juice, because I’d used everything up. I made him chicken soup. I even made him a pot of chili.

As I did all this, I noticed a warm feeling within me.

Does my psychopath miss me?

Editor’s note: The following article refers to male psychopaths. Women can also be sociopaths, psychopaths and other disordered individuals.

Does my sociopath/psychopath miss me?

The short answer is “no.” The qualified answer is “yes, in appearance, but only as long as you can afford him.”

Since psychopaths are unable to have true feelings, once you are removed from his picture, you are gone forever. Somebody else with financial security will replace you, and then when the money is gone or things go sour, somebody else will replace that person.

29 excuses that sabotage our instincts about sociopaths

Almost all of us have an instinctive warning that something is terribly wrong early in an involvement with a sociopath (antisocial, narcissist, borderline, histrionic, psychopath). Almost all of us ignore the warning.

Last week I wrote about the physical symptoms that we often feel in 8 ways your body warns you about sociopaths. I included fear, chills, difficulty breathing, crying, pounding heart, upset stomach, nightmares and a nagging feeling. The post was widely shared, and several Lovefraud readers added more physical warning signs: immobilizing exhaustion, poor appetite, nervous tension, tiredness, cloudy thinking, vague upset, tightness in the chest.


Australian woman loses $305,000 in romance scam

Scammers continue to pose as American soldiers. In a terrible recent romance scam, a 34-year-old woman from Brisbane, Australia lost AU$305,000 (US$220,210) to a man posing as a US soldier.

The con man, Cosmos Emeh, 32, claimed to be deployed in Syria, but he was actually also living in Brisbane, with his Australian partner. He convinced the target to send him $200,000 via a money transfer service. Then, in a highly unusual twist, he actually showed up at the woman’s home, claiming to be a “fixer” for the soldier, and collected and additional $105,000.

FREE with Masterclass! ‘Love Fraud and How to Avoid It’ webinar

Upcoming webinar:

The Basics: Love Fraud and How to Avoid It
Jan. 16, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of 

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How a disordered elderly mother expresses love


Browsing, a good day

Mom sat in the store fancy chair hugging the bag in a protecting embrace. She had made an impenetrable Chinese wall with her arms, fiercely defending from me a stolen $2,000 Prada bag. The round mound rested on her lap, while I tried to convince her that the store cameras knew exactly what was going on.

We got some looks from wealthy shoppers that seemed to reprove my pushy, disrespectful behavior toward this 90 year-old.  Perhaps they thought I wanted to keep her money. She, however, felt very entitled to take from the wealthier ones. I felt I was abusing my mother by forcing her to release her “shopping choices.” But this wasn’t our first rodeo at the mall. Stealing in the most abrupt ways was one of her favorite self-esteem improvement methods.

Posted in: Female sociopaths

Webinar teaches you to spot a sociopath or narcissist partner

webinar on sociopath narcissist

Upcoming webinar:

The Basics: Love Fraud and How to Avoid It
Jan. 16, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
$18.75 — or FREE with the Lovefraud 5-part Masterclass
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of 
More info

Sociopaths and narcissists are easy to spot, once you know what to look for. That’s exactly what I’ll teach you in this 1-hour webinar, so you can keep them out of your life.

The Basics: Love Fraud and How to Avoid It

This is the original Lovefraud webinar, and I’m presenting it again for the first time in almost three years, updated with the latest information. Here are highlights of what you’ll learn in the webinar:

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