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Donna Andersen

7 steps to breaking emotional ties with a sociopath

If you’re like most people who read Lovefraud, you may know, or suspect, that the person who is creating havoc in your life is a sociopath. Whether the offending individual is a romantic partner, parent, another family member or a friend, he or she checks all, or most of, the boxes of the sociopath checklist.

You know the individual is bad for your emotional and psychological health, your wallet, and perhaps your safety. Still, you may struggle to break free.

Sometimes there are financial or legal issues that make it difficult to escape. But often the ties that bind are emotional.

Lovefraud Survey: How did you deal with a female sociopath?

I am currently working on a book about female sociopaths. I’ve collected a lot of data about the experiences of Lovefraud readers with disordered women — perhaps you completed my previous survey.

One of the topics I’d like to address in the book is how to deal with this type of person. So I ask you: If you have, or had, a female sociopath in your life, how did you escape, cope or move on? What techniques or strategies did you use to manage destructive behavior or get the person out of your life?

I’m looking for information in the context of any type of relationship:

How to clear the emotional pain of your experience with a sociopath

I am so excited. Now, Lovefraud offers you a way to relieve all the painful emotions that result from tangling with a sociopath — betrayal, despair, anger, guilt, shame, grief, disappointment, depression, even PTSD.

Yes, I said even PTSD. In fact, this technique is being used to help combat veterans suffering from PTSD. It can help you.

For years, I have been recommending that Lovefraud readers check out EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques). Now, Lovefraud offers you a webinar on tapping that is specifically designed to teach you how to recover from a sociopath.


Donna Andersen talks about relationship abuse in the Press of Atlantic City

All year long, the Press of Atlantic City, my local newspaper, has been running a series of stories about domestic violence. A couple of months ago, I wrote to the reporters — not everyone who is abused suffers physical harm.

In fact, Lovefraud’s research shows that people who sought therapy because of an abusive relationships reported the following types of abuse:

  • Emotional – 98.1%
  • Psychological – 95.7%
  • Financial – 70.1%
  • Sexual – 49.3%
  • Physical – 40.9%
  • Other – 18.4%

I was interviewed for the most recent article in the series, which appeared today. You can read it here:

Patrick Giblin does time for scamming 132 women, gets out of jail and does it again

Patrick M. Giblin

Patrick M. Giblin

Meet the original large-scale dating scammer, Patrick Giblin, 53, formerly of Ventnor, New Jersey, but most recently residing in a Philadelphia prison. Lovefraud first wrote about him in 2007, when he was sentenced for scamming women that he met on telephone dating services.

Patrick Giblin trolls phone dating lines, taking money from 132 women, on Lovefraud.com.

Giblin was paroled in 2013 and went right back to scamming women. Now he’ll spend another five years in prison.

3 Steps to begin dating again after the sociopath

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A reader posted the following comment on Lovefraud’s Facebook page:

“This website helps me too, but now, as I venture into the world of dating again, I find that my past is terrible hindrance. So difficult. Any advice gratefully received. Just want to be happy.”

Many times I’ve been asked, “After what your con artist ex-husband did to you, can you ever trust again?” Yes I can. I do. I am remarried, and I am happier now than I’ve ever been, in fact, I’m much happier than I ever was before the sociopath.

Back to school – learn to help students (and yourself) avoid sociopaths

Lovefraud Continuing Education
Love Fraud, Abusive Dating and Sociopaths – Vital Information for Education Professionals

Love fraud is really scary stuff. But here’s the good news: Love fraud is totally avoidable, IF you know what to look for. So I love teaching people how to spot and avoid love fraud. I know that just a little bit of education can make a tremendous difference in someone’s life.

Especially for young people.


10 facts about your romance with a sociopath that you must believe, even though you don’t want to

Couple making heartYou’re shattered. You thought you finally met your soul mate, the person you were waiting for all your life. This charming, charismatic and attentive romantic partner swept you off your feet in a whirlwind romance. It was good — no, it was fabulous — until it wasn’t.

Perhaps you were subjected to the “devalue and discard” routine. Or you discovered that your partner wasn’t the person he or she claimed to be. However it happened, you are heartbroken.

What sociopaths want from sex

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Many, many people who were romantically involved with sociopaths have told me that the sex was amazing. Earth-moving. The best they ever had. At least, that’s how it was in the beginning, while the sociopath was still reeling them in.

The targets thought this amazing sex was proof of the real connection between themselves and the sociopath, proof that the two of them were wildly, deeply in love.

The truth is that sociopaths are incapable of love. Oh, they’re capable of feeling attraction. And they’re capable of proclaiming love, very convincingly (especially when they’re looking for sex). But they are not capable of genuine concern for another person’s welfare, which is a key component of real love.

One trait or behavior does not make a sociopath – look for a pattern of traits and behaviors

sexy man and womanI once heard from a man, whom we’ll call “Jeff,” who wanted to know if the woman he was involved with, “Amanda,” was a sociopath.

It started as a friendly involvement, with Jeff trying to help Amanda out. Amanda, who was from a foreign country, called Jeff her “best friend.” Jeff eventually started to have feelings for her. But then came a series of unsettling experiences:

  • Amanda made pornographic videos, which were posted on the Internet.
  • Amanda worked as an escort. Jeff offered to pay her rent, so she wouldn’t have to be an escort, and Amanda agreed—and continued being an escort anyway.

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