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Lovefraud Professional Resources

Dr. David McDermott: What people targeted by psychopaths need most is information

Lovefraud would like to welcome our newest member of our Professional Resources Guide. Here’s a Q&A with Dr. David McDermott to help you get to know him.

By David McDermott, M.D.

What experience have you had dealing with sociopaths or other disordered personalities—personally, professionally, or both?

While working as a hospital doctor some of my bosses were psychopaths, I got caught in a marriage by a psychopath and when that relationship broke up I was recruited into a personal development cult where I lost 10 years of my life. I was number 2 in the cult for most of those 10 years and I often sat beside the leader while he was doing group trainings and he taught me how he was changing peoples’ beliefs, emotions and behaviors.

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free support group March 18th at 5 pm ET

  Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, March 18, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to meet you there!

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free support group on March 4, 2018 at 5 pm EST.

  Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, March 4, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to meet you there!

 

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW to host free online support group Jan 7th at 5 pm ET

Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online video  support group Sunday, January 7, 2018 at 5 pm EDT.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  Include your Skype user name so we can confirm it and you can be added to the contact list for the group call.  If you cannot open a Skype account, send your phone number.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to see you there!

Here we go again — holiday drama time

Amber Ault, Ph,D., MSW

By Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

Our ancestors in Northern latitudes exercised deep wisdom when they burrowed in during the dark of winter, reflecting on the turning of the wheel of the year through its previous cycle of renewal, harvest, and loss, gathering with loved ones to share warmth in myriad ways, and beginning to dream of spring.

Mandy Friedman, MS LPC NCC: The True Sources of Trauma

Editor’s note: Lovefraud is pleased to introduce a new therapist in the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide, Mandy Friedman, MS, LPC, NCC. Mandy is located in Cincinnati, Ohio, and specializes in helping survivors of toxic and exploitative personalities.

By Mandy Friedman, MS, LPC, NCC

My interest in learning about exploitative personalities began as I was trying to make sense of experiences I was having in my personal life. Then, as a mental health counselor, I began connecting dots in therapy sessions as clients worked to overcome painful experiences from their past. A large percentage of clients come to therapy to address anxiety, depression, unhealthy behaviors, difficulty with relationships, problematic patterns of decision making and low self-esteem. As I assessed for instances of trauma in the client’s past, I found that some clients dealing with such symptoms had experienced punctuated trauma at some point in their lives. At the same time, many clients had experienced years of ongoing, normalized abuse and repeated trauma.

What criminal profiler John Kelly says Stephen Paddock’s motive was in the Las Vegas shooting

Criminal profiler John Kelly

By John Kelly, Profiler
STALK INC.

Psychological Autopsy

The first thing to do when looking at a complicated mental problem is to examine and eliminate any physical problems.

Before getting into the psychological and pharmacological dynamics of a persons murderous behavior, one needs to eliminate any physical precursors to such behavior.  Paddock’s autopsy should determine any brain abnormalities such as tumors or cancer. We have seen this play a role in a similar mass murder, Charles Whitman, the Texas Tower Sniper, who shot 16 people from a high vantage point in 1966.

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Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers free online support group Oct. 8th at 5 pm EDT

Mary Ann GlynnJoin our online video/voice chat support group (your choice) on Sunday, October 8, 2017 at 5 pm EDT.  Please let us know if you’ll join and send your Skype user name asap to www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com using the contact form at the bottom of the home page (even if you have done this before).  A Skype account is the most reliable way to join, so I encourage you to get one.  If that’s a problem, send your phone number.  Sending your user name or number in beforehand enables us to add your contact to the call.

Experience the support of people who know!  It’s free and confidential.  Hope to see you there!

When am I going to stop being angry?

Mary Ann GlynnBy Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT

After being in a relationship with a sociopath, clients are often conflicted by the idea of forgiveness as recommended by their faith system (I checked and all the world’s major religions admonish to forgive) as opposed to the perpetual anger they feel. As therapists, we never pressure someone who has been abused to forgive their perpetrator, because we don’t want to minimize the impact of that abuse. While someone is moving through the emotions of healing from abuse and trauma, they are going to experience quite a bit of anger, even rage, which can hang around for a long time.

My 3 sociopathic relationships — I am a therapist, and they fooled me

Spath TalesThree of my most serious relationships have been with sociopaths: my second marriage, an engagement, and most recently, with a man I was in a serious relationship with, lived with, and became pregnant by.

My second marriage was with a man I met at work, who had been sober for 5 years in AA when I met him. He suffered from (diagnosed) borderline personality disorder, but I believe was also a full-fledged sociopath.

He was a convicted abuser and had done jail time and anger management for that. He confessed to me that he was a prostitute for many years (with men), a porn performer, and a jewel thief. But because he was in AA and I believed honest, I thought he had changed.

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