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Sociopaths as predators

Women aged 40-70: Be on the lookout for Internet predators like Tom Guida

Tom Guida, of Toms River, New Jersey, was accused of bigamy, but got away with it.

More than two years ago, Lovefraud posted about Tom Guida, age 55, of New Jersey. This guy is unbelievable. He finds women online, tells them he is a Ph.D. psychologist (lie), Special Operations military (lie), and suffering from brain cancer (lie).

He tells the women he loves them (lie) and then proposes marriage. He doesn’t tell them he is already married (truth). In fact, he’s a bigamist.

Here’s the Lovefraud story:

Tom Guida, aka Tom Gatto – fake psychologist, fake Special Forces, fake brain cancer patient – gets away with bigamy

10 things sociopaths want from you (besides money)

Photo by David Castillo Dominici

A Lovefraud reader asked the following question:

If the sociopath is not in it for money (he pays for everything with no access to my accounts) then what are other reasons to stay in a relationship if he doesn’t live with me nor do we share anything financially? Many of the posts I have read involve financial fraud.

If a sociopath has targeted you, it’s because you have something that he or she wants. Often it’s money, but not always. Here are 10 more things that the sociopath may want:

1. Sex

Marriage fraud: Immigrants profess love for U.S. citizens to get green cards

Elena Maria Lopez was a victim of marriage fraud — but she’s trying to do something about it.

Elena met a man from the Netherlands who was “romantic and charming.” (Sound familiar?) When they married, Elena was looking for a life partner. Her husband was looking for a green card.

My ex-husband was Australian, but had four American wives. And I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers who eventually found out their foreign spouses only married them to get citizenship.

Elena sent me a link to a recent investigative report by KPRC Channel 2 in Houston, in which she told her story. Elena has also testified in Congress — trying to get lawmakers to understand that marriage fraud is a serious problem.

Devin Kelley, Texas church shooter, exhibited a pattern of psychopathic behavior, but no one saw the whole picture

Devin Kelley

The stories coming out of the massacre in the First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, Texas, are horrific and heartbreaking.

The shooter, Devin Patrick Kelley, 26, walked into the church dressed in combat gear and killed congregants in the pews.  One survivor reported that Kelley became enraged that children were scared, and shot them multiple times.

Kelley executed 26 people that day, including nine children. Eight members of one extended family were killed. Twenty more churchgoers were injured.

Authorities release IDs of Texas church victims, on ABCnews.go.com

Afterwards, of course, everyone is asking, “How did this happen?” “Were there any warning signs?”

More evidence of Harvey Weinstein’s psychopathic behavior: Hiring spies to out his accusers

According to a new report by Ronan Farrow, movie producer Harvey Weinstein learned a year ago that women were getting ready to accuse him of sexual harassment, and he set out to stop it. Weinstein employed lawyers and spies, including former agents of the Israeli Mossad, to learn what his accusers were saying to journalists. His goal was to stop the story from being published.

It’s a typical psychopathic maneuver — searching for information in which to discredit accusers. Except Weinstein did it on a grand scale.

Harvey Weinstein’s Army of Spies, on NewYorker.com.

Chilling tale of Harvey Weinstein’s spies shows Ronan Farrow’s reporting chops — and compassion, on WashingtonPost.com.

Stolen Valor con man Derek Alldred finally found and arrested

Derek Alldred as a fake Navy SEAL

Lovefraud has been following this story for a year. Derek Alldred pretended to be a war hero so he could seduce women and then swindle them out of their money. Alldred scammed nearly 20 women that he met on dating sites. The victims were from from Minnesota, California, Nevada and Texas.

KARE 11 in Minneapolis first exposed Alldred a year ago, tracking down victims across the country.

Charges filed against alleged swindler exposed by KARE11, on KARE11.com.

‘Dirty John’ – LA Times posts series on psychopath John Meehan and his last love fraud victim

John Meehan (California Department of Corrections)

Two days after being released from jail, John Meehan, a serial con artist, met his last victim. Of course, Meehan said nothing to the new woman, Debra Newell, about his history of stealing from and terrorizing his romantic partners.

Debra’s kids didn’t like Meehan, but she was in love and didn’t listen to their warnings. Then things got nasty.

Read this compelling six-part series by Christopher Goffard:

Dirty John, on LA Times.com.

You can also listen to a podcast about the series:

Essential California: ‘Dirty John,’ the final chapter, on LATimes.com.

Unearthing my repressed memory of being drugged and raped

By Eleanor Cowan

A young woman from my building banged on my door at 3 a.m. “It’s me! Darlene!” Soon on the couch and sipping the hot tea I made for us both, she wept uncontrollably. “I know what happened,” the twenty-four-year-old cried as we waited for the police to arrive.

“I know what happened. He ordered me a night cap at the bar while I was in the washroom. I don’t remember going to his place. I woke up undressed and in pain. Oh! I’m lucky I escaped.”

“Wow, a nightcap knocked you out like that?” I asked, tucking my shawl around her shaking form.

The Swinging Female Psychopath And The Partner Left Behind: When The Fog Lifts

Well it has  been 7 months since our two an a half year “relationship” ended and I am still picking up the pieces.

I never ever could have imagined the rabbit hole I’d fallen into.

The things I now know have shocked and altered me to the core of my very being. It has been like unraveling the giant web of a black widow, one silky strand at a time.

When I met her I thought I had found love at first sight. The connection seemed electric, she was in my estimation perfect. My patchwork princess.

Buzzfeed reports R&B star R. Kelly keeps a “cult” of women

R. Kelly in a photo posted on his website, r-kelly.com

R. Kelly, a music superstar who has won multiple Grammy awards and sold more than 40 million records, allegedly keeps six women living in his properties in Chicago and the Atlanta suburbs, according to a report on Buzzfeed.

The mother of one of the women, a 21-year-old aspiring singer, says her daughter is “being held against her will” in a “cult.” The daughter says she’s doing fine.

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