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Love Fraud book excerpt: What I did about my husband’s cheating

Love Fraud book excerptI had been married to James Montgomery for about a year and a half, and he went on overnight and weekend “business trips” the entire time. I didn’t want to think about what he was doing — until I had to.

By Donna Andersen

My husband was cheating on me. The letter from the Bank of Boston credit card department confirmed it.

This was the credit card I had given to James. He spent the money; I paid the bills. On the March statement was a charge for the Berlin Motor Lodge. I knew exactly where this place was and what it looked like. It was a small highway motel on Route 73 in Berlin, New Jersey, 35 … Read more

Love Fraud book excerpt: If my family knew what was really going on in my marriage

Love Fraud book excerptBy Donna Andersen

We married secretly in Australia. Then six months after we met, had another wedding, complete with a reception and band, attended by family and friends. By this time I had already spent more than $53,000 on my husband’s projects, much of it on my credit cards.

My brother’s birthday was in March, and on a Sunday afternoon his wife planned a small celebration in their home. James said he had to work, as usual, so I went alone. Toward the end of the party, my brother cornered me in the family room.

“You know, Donna, Dad is concerned about James,” he began.

“What’s he concerned about?”

“He thinks James doesn’t have any money and you … Read more

Love Fraud book excerpt: Was the relationship moving too fast, or was I just afraid?

Love Fraud book excerptBy Donna Andersen

Not long after we met in person, James Montgomery proposed to me — he was smitten with me, and proclaimed we’d make a great team. But it felt like he was taking over my existence. What was I getting myself into?

Life became a spinning tornado, with James at the center of it. He was working at full speed on all his projects, yet called me many times a day, keeping me apprised of his progress. He told me about his meetings, forwarding reports and faxes. He also asked for my help. James wrote newsletters for the American Legion, Vietnam Veterans Association and his new Lions Club. He wanted me to use my vendors to … Read more

As Valentine’s Day approaches: Why was I betrayed by the sociopath?

When you’re single, Valentine’s Day is rough. I know, because from my teenage years through age 40, I never had a romance going on Valentine’s Day. I was lonely, and loneliness sets you up as a fat, juicy target for a sociopath.

The commercialization of the holiday doesn’t help. When you’re “between relationships,” all the advertising for jewelry, flowers and special restaurant menus is painful — a constant reminder that romance is missing from your life.

When I was alone, I couldn’t figure it out. I was reasonably attractive, nice, considerate, successful, active and loved to have fun. What was the problem? Why couldn’t I get a date?

So there I was, single and about to turn 40, … Read more

Outrageous lies my sociopathic ex told me — what whoppers did you hear?

James Montgomery Soldier of Fortune

James Montgomery with his fake Soldier of Fortune magazine cover.

My sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery, lied from the very beginning of our involvement, right through to the end. His first lies were in his online profile — age 49 (he was 55), financially secure (he had no money at all), an entrepreneur (never built a successful business in his life).

When we met in person, the lies continued nonstop. Here’s some of what I heard:

Lie: I won the Victoria Cross for my heroism in Vietnam (complete with a commendation).
Truth: He was never in Vietnam, in fact, never in the military. His commendation was forged.

Lie: I will be the next Walt Disney.
Truth: He couldn’t get Read more

Anniversary Sale on all 3 printed Lovefraud books — save 57%!

All 3 Lovefraud books

Lovefraud.com launched in July 2005, so we’re celebrating 13 years online! In honor of our anniversary, you can buy all three of Donna Andersen’s printed books for $24.50 — a savings of 57%.

Red Flats of Love Fraud – 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath

This self-help book reveals, for the first time, the tactics of social predators who pursue romantic relationships not for love, but for exploitation. You’ll learn how sociopaths seduce their targets, why it’s hard to escape the relationships, and how you can protect yourself.

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Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook

The scary truth is that sociopaths can’t seduce us without our own involvement. Why did you believe his or her story? This … Read more

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Donna Andersen makes the cover of ‘Chat It’s Fate’

If you’ve read my book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, you know that my experience with a sociopath has an important spiritual dimension.

Through my journey, I learned that I’d known my ex-husband, James Montgomery, during multiple lifetimes over multiple centuries, and every time he was evil. This person beat me, raped me, and lead me to be killed.

Now, my story is being featured in the UK publication, Chat it’s fate.  In fact, I’m on the cover with the headline:

BETRAYED by my dream man for CENTURIES
But it was my destiny

You gotta love the British tabloids.

But my marriage to the sociopath was my destiny. This time … Read more

Donna Andersen’s story on Lifetime TV – watch the full episode online

Back in 2012, I was featured on Lifetime TV in a show called, My Life Is a Lifetime Movie.  I have just learned that Lifetime is airing the show again. You can watch the full episode online.

Each show covers the stories of two women, and in this one, called Husbands Gone Wrong, mine is the second story. The first one, however, is also a story of a sociopath—they actually call the guy a “psychopath,” and I’m pleased to hear the TV show using the word. My story starts at 30:45, although it plays better if you watch the entire show. Here’s a link to the show:

Husbands Gone Wrong on My Life Is a Lifetime MovieRead more

Holiday discounts: Save 20% off webinars, 57% off printed Lovefraud books!

Give yourself the gift of education and healing this holiday season with webinars and books from Lovefraud!

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Courses for survivors help you understand how you became involved with the sociopath, how to extricate yourself, and how to recover.

Courses for therapists offer continuing education credits for psychologists and social workers. Plus, when you earn 8 CE credits with Lovefraud, you get a free one-year listing in the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide.

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All 3 Lovefraud books

Save 57% when you buy all 3 Lovefraud printed books!

Save 57% on Lovefraud printed books!

Donna Andersen’s three printed books are … Read more

‘Alertas Rojas de Estafa Amorosa’ ha sido seleccionado para ‘Mes Indie’ en Amazon!

Amazon quiere celebrar el fenómeno de la autopublicación por todo lo alto, por lo que estan organizando el “Mes Indie”, una promoción especial de libros Kindle en español que celebran mundialmente del 1 al 31 de octubre.

“Alertas rojas de estafa amorosa — 10 señales de que estás saliendo con un sociópata”, por Donna Andersen, ha sido seleccionado para la promoción.

Este libro revela, por primera vez, las tácticas de los depredadores sociales que buscan relaciones sentimentales no por amor, sino para explotación. Este libro explica cómo los sociópatas seducen a sus víctimas, por qué es difícil escapar de las relaciones, y cómo las personas pueden protegerse.

Durante todo el mes de octubre, la promoción “Mes Indie” ofrecerá … Read more

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