Lovefraud books

The tangents and the point

Editor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

Love Fraud: How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is a long, expansive story, and there’s a reason for its complexity. The reason is in the book’s subtitle.

Love Fraud tells the story of my marriage to a sociopathic con artist. It’s a juicy, outrageous tale, full jaw-dropping lies and manipulation. The book focuses a harsh light on the despicable behavior of my ex-husband, James Montgomery. My goal is to give people an up close and personal look at what it’s really like to be targeted by a sociopath. But that isn’t my only goal.

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The Love Fraud book blog tour

Love Fraud goes on a tour of book blogs in February.  What does that mean? A series of bloggers from around the Internet are reading my book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. They will be posting reviews, or interviews with me, or guest posts from me, on particular dates.  On those dates, I will make an “appearance” on their blogs, which means that I will check in throughout the day and respond to comments from their readers.

The Love Fraud book blog tour schedule:

February 8, 2011 – Silver & Grace — Guiding graceful women into beautiful aging

February 21-22, 2011 – Women Explode – Lots of sparks, eruptions and explosions… Read more

Sex in the Love Fraud book

Yes, I will admit, my book, Love Fraud, does include some sex scenes. A few readers have expressed surprise that I am willing to share that aspect of my story. But the book is about my search for love and marriage, and sex is a natural part of love and marriage.

The scenes are handled tastefully. They’re not as racy as erotica—heck, they’re not even as racy as romance novels, with those silly little euphemisms, always preceded by three long, hot, trembling adjectives. But sex did happen, and I did include it, for two important reasons.

Unhealthy sex

The first reason is to illustrate unhealthy sex—the kind of sex engaged in by sociopaths.

I was clueless about … Read more

The pets of Love Fraud

My book, Love Fraud, has quite a cast of characters. Besides me and my con artist ex-husband, there are seven other women who he victimized, assorted friends, family and business associates, my new husband, three psychics, a channeler, an energy healer, and seven pets.

Why did I include the pets? To illustrate the point that all of life is connected. We are all part of the same universal consciousness.

The pets came into my life for a reason—to accompany me through my struggles. In fact, it was with my dog, Beau, that I first ventured into the feeling realm of love.

My dog offered me what is so often difficult to find among the humans in our … Read more

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“Love Fraud” book earns 5 stars in first independent review

In the book publishing business, reviews by respected sources are critical. As soon as we had printed copies of Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, we sent it to about a dozen reviewers like Publisher’s Weekly, the New York Times Book Review and the Library Journal.

The first review is in, from the Midwest Book Review. Founded in 1976, the Midwest Book Review publishes monthly book publications specifically for community and academic librarians, booksellers, and the general reading public.

Of the 169 books reviewed in the Small Press Bookwatch for November, 2010, Love Fraud is one of two books listed as a “Reviewer’s Choice.” Here’s what they wrote:

It may seem

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Donna Andersen’s victory is our victory too

By Thomas

Donna Andersen’s ”˜Love Fraud, How Marriage to a Sociopath Fulfilled My Spiritual Plan’ is the third book in the last year I have read on sociopaths. Compared to the previous two it is not written by an academic, but rather by a victim of a sociopath.

The book is very well written for a first book, and the fictional style of writing, coupled with the matter-of-fact narrative makes it highly readable. Many of the people who would of have bought this book in the immediate aftermath of publication would have been refugees from Planet Sociopath themselves and much of the antics and personality traits of James Montgomery will strike a powerful resonance within them in regards … Read more

The Law of Attraction and sociopaths

In 2007, The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, was the best-selling book in America. The book was featured on two episodes of Oprah, which significantly boosted sales. At one point the book was selling 150,000 copies per week. Total sales: 19 million books.

The Secret has many proponents—and many detractors. It’s described as a self-help book on the power of positive thinking. Some critics say that the book offers nothing but false hope to people who try to solve their problems by wishing them away, when they need more conventional solutions.

The premise of The Secret is the Law of Attraction. Here is how it is defined in the book:

Everything that’s coming into your life you

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Intuition, purpose and sociopaths

In my previous two articles on this blog, I wrote that our awful entanglements with sociopaths often have a larger purpose—our personal spiritual growth.

This is an extremely difficult concept, especially when we believe in a benevolent God, universe, or higher power—whatever term you want to use—who only wants the best for us. Why, if God loves us, would he/she want us to experience the deceit, betrayal and destruction of a sociopath?

In my case, the terrible experience allowed me to unearth internal pain and disappointment that was blocking me from feeling love and peace. My sociopathic ex sensed the negative feelings within me, and promised to be the answer to my prayers and the fulfillment of my … Read more

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I wasn’t that stupid

Editor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

A Lovefraud reader recently sent me the following link from Wikipedia:

Psychological manipulation

The author of the article on psychological manipulation based most of its information on three books: Who’s Pulling Your Strings?, by Harriet B. Braiker; In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, by George K. Simon; and The Psychopathology of Everyday Life, by Martin Kantor.

The first two sections of the article are excellent. First, the author discusses the requirements of successful manipulation:

According to Simon, successful psychological manipulation primarily involves:

  • manipulator concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors.
  • manipulator knowing the psychological vulnerabilities of the victim to determine what
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Why did this happen to me?

As I discovered my entire marriage was a scam, one of the questions that I tormented myself with was, “Why did this happen to me?”

I couldn’t understand it. I am an honest, responsible, forthright person. I honor my obligations. I am considerate of other people. So why did I end up with a lying, cheating sociopath, who took from me almost everything—my money, my career, and even, to a certain degree, my identity.

It didn’t make any sense.

I know other Lovefraud readers have asked the same question. Generally, we are a caring, helpful, empathetic group of people. This virtue, we’ve found out, turns into a vulnerability when we cross paths with a sociopath. Our caring and … Read more

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