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Christie Brinkley-Peter Cook divorce flares again

She was a supermodel. He was an architect in the Hamptons. They married, had children and then nastily divorced. Now they’re back in the news, lobbing accusations at each other. Who is disordered? Are they both disordered? From the media reports, it is impossible to tell. Read:

Christie Brinkley on the brink: I’m still being harassed by porn-crazy Peter Cook, she tells court, on NYDailyNews.com.

Christie Brinkley is a ‘second-rate celebrity starved for attention,’ ex-husband Peter Cook’s lawyer says as war of words continues, on NYDailyNews.com.

Also, watch an interview on ABC news: Peter Cook on his Christie Brinkley divorce.

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I can relate to Chrisite’s history/story. Not because I am tall and gorgeous and rich. Not because I have kids. Not because I live in the Hamptons and sell stuff on QVC.

But because I have attracted multiples of addicted and outright disordered men, in a variety of ‘costume’. And I have looked like a total crazy for my ‘bad’ choices.

When I broke it off, or was dumped by, these crazies I also acted crazy. I defended myself in some of the most dysfunctional ways. I behaved badly in the relationships. I was so out of control myself I was easily influenced to behave in some pretty reprehensible ways.

AND, my own blind narcissism was part of why I think I was attracted to, and was a sympathizer with these abusers and users.

It wasn’t until I went through a transformation, via therapy and painful self-assessment, which facilitated an opening in my defenses and my heart, that I woke up and started to truly manage my own life.

And I ended my last spathic relationshit with dignity and awareness.

Spathic/narcissistic behaviors, traits, and wrong headed thinking exist on a continuum. Cook certainly seems to present as the one with the classic red flags of a disordered man: porn, lying, cheating, not having sex after married (lots of spaths with hold sex, and blame it on the spouse), mooching. Chrisitie doesn’t seem to me to scream ‘disorder!’.

To my way of seeing things it is likely Chrisite has some level of narcissistic disturbance. It would be pretty hard not to considering her circumstances, and all the accolades she has received, just for being born beautiful. This doesn’t mean she is ‘disordered’. But could mean she has some serious poop to work through in order to change her life, and make better choices.

That’s a really brave confession there.

And well put, that Christie, though not a spath or complete narcissist, probably needs to work through some stuff herself.

sistersister,

I guess I posted this because I think it’s important for all of us to be able to accept and work through our own issues. We didn’t all come to know these Bad People through the same set of experiences. But even if we came to know them when we were in ‘bad’ psychological spaces ourselves, we still did not deserve it, and may have suffered more than our fair share of blame for our attraction to them.

Some of us were in relationships for decades, with one spath. Some with numbers of them, for shorter periods of time. Some of us had only one brief encounter.

Regardless, we all, from exactly ‘where we were’, suffered the cruelty of deception and devastation.

Christie seems not to be an exception. She is just rich and famous. But just as human as I am. As we are.

Some of us here have led pretty thoughtful, honest, and perhaps ‘conservative’ lives. Some of us not. Most are inbetween.

I came from a very coflicted background, and suffered alot of narcissistic injury as a tiny one. This left me with some deficiencies in knowing who I was, how to handle my emotions, and how to live honestly in the world. My mother was a teenager, and was prone to high levels of narcissism herself. She was not fully disordered, but it was a rough ride for an infant and toddler. Not a nurturing, mirrroing, loving mother. The rest of her family were addicts, spaths, PD’s, and child molesters.

I vacillated between what I learned from her (being cold and selfish and histrionic), and trying to be a saint and forgive EVERYONE, every indiscretion. Neither one is balanced. They both felt inauthentic. Both came from a lack of healthy narcissistic integration. Also some extreme guilt and shame (beyond what might be considered helpful in creating an empathetic person).

I hope that my sharing can somehow validate others’ who may have also had the experience of being a not-so-together-person, attracting users, and feeling they ‘deserved’ it.

No one is stupid and deserves it. No matter our age. We just don’t know what we don’t know. Whether it is about ourselves, or about others’.

I love this site!

Slim

Slimone,

Your post above is very thought provoking and caring. Thank you so much for sharing that deep part of yourself. I feel sure it will be helpful to any number of people here. Thanks again.

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