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Denver’s Pastor Gil Jones and his destructive pursuit of women

Westword.com profiled Gil Jones, most recently pastor of The Village church in Denver, “where ordinary people bump into Jesus.” Jones, who was divorced, apparently pursued multiple women in his congregations at all times. When the women discovered that they were not exclusive and broke off involvement with Jones, he exploded with angry and profane text messages not exactly what he preached to the faithful.

Although the article doesn’t state this, Jones sounds like a classic sociopath pretending to be a spiritual leader.

There’s nothing holier-than-thou about Gil Jones, on WestWord.com.

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Gil Jones sure knew how to appeal to the eyes and ears of his congregation!Evidently he was good at appealing to fleshly desires too!But what he wasn’t good at doing was covering over his feelings of anger and betrayal!Well,how should those young women that he dated feel?!!! He fails as a spiritual man!!! He’s a ‘wolf in sheep’s clothing’!

Such men really concern me.My husband is one.He has fantasies of being “chosen of God”.Thus far those fantasies haven’t been challenged.But I have a feeling they will be soon.I don’t think his reaction will be a peaceful,care-less one.

I know I read somewhere when a friend first suggested my ex was a sociopath that most CEO’s are one. And I believe many lawyers, clergy and other high profile jobs are as well. It is a power game. And sadly even as I am clergy,ministry provides the perfect storm, because your only real boss is “God”, and people are feeding on your every word. It is easy to let it go to your head.
My ex has managed to play a similar game as the guy in this article, because even after loosing standing in our denomination he still managed to get employed at a church from another denomination. And it is my understanding the sr. minister has taken him under his wing as a mentor. Believing my ex has been unjustly treated by my denomination.
My ex is very charismatic and a powerful preacher, able to think fast on his feet. He never used notes and often had props. When we worked together I was all but invisible and opted to do the more behind the scenes stuff, because of this. I remember now how he was often trying to trip me up in worship. He would often tell me he wanted me to do x, y and z this week, only to ask me to do a, b, and c once we were actually in the sanctuary beginning a service. And he would violate my trust by telling stories about me that I thought were private between husband and wife, intimate embarrassing stuff.
He loved the shock factor in worship. He would show movie clips that were R rated and he would often keep count of how many swear words he could get into one worship service. I may be a prude, but I want to get away from the worlds profanity at least while I am worshiping. I do not know what it says about our culture that it is these type of services that seem to draw in the crowds.
As a person of my generation I love the more upbeat music, sermons that are more than a talking head, and new things like drama, poetry readings and dance in worship, but not vulgar stuff.

Readers’ comments on a news article are often instructive, for better or for worse. It’s just too bad that some of those responding to the Westwood article, people personally familiar with Gil Jones’s conduct, are nevertheless inclined to see alcoholism as his root problem, as though it were somehow the cause of his other behavior. Apparently they’re trying to blame his pathology on his alcoholism instead of blaming his alcoholism on his pathology. Clearly this is one more place where some of the people could use educating about psychopaths.

On the other hand, Stephanie Engels went to the heart of the problem when she remarked that

you can’t help someone who looks you in the eye and tells you one thing, and then goes off and does something else.

Worst experience ever on a job: a young female sociopath ‘whose only boss was God’ and now at 43 she is proselytizing via radio and telecommunication. I saw through her from the beginning. I am firmly convinced she stole an antique brooch off of my coat (she had even admitted to a life of theft beforehand) and ‘did herself over’ until she became much more glamourous. She paraded herself in front of the guys at work and managed to get me removed from that scene so that I was stuck in a ‘hidden’ office area. Not one of the our supervisors would recognize what had happened and I was only a temp.

I located a book titled “Sisterhood Betrayed” as it was all about women in the workplace. It taught me that the best thing to do about this is to find a better job and be successful at it. Since my husband worked at the same place as ‘little Miss Phony-Baloney’, it was easy for my success to reach the ears of said sociopath. I was, indeed, very successful at a company near our home that was written up in the papers daily. My job was also much more fascinating and I frequently acted as receptionist. I even met our state representative as he was curious about the company that was making all the news.

My husband told me that the resident sociopath acted angry at work, frequently slamming things around and not talking to anyone (he liked to brag about me at work).

I think religious sociopaths are easy to spot and see-through, but only a handful of others than myself recognized this girl for what she was. Hope she has matured since then…

It scares me how this kind of thing just does NOT surprise me any longer. Yet another pastor or priest is screwing around with his parishioners? ((( Yawn ))) At least this one hasn’t been sexually violating children.

Even that doesn’t surprise me any longer, either, but hearing/reading about a person in an authority position who uses their power position to target children for abuse or exploitation can still rile me up pretty strongly. Anyone who hurts kids better not be doing that where I can get at them.

I think the older I get, the more cynical I get about… a lot of things!

Well this hits close to home, as I live in Denver and have lived in Lafayette as well. I probably know people who attend these churches. I had no idea this was going on but it doesn’t surprise me. I have become very cynical of churches themselves and those who hold power there. In fact any place called “Scum of the Earth Church” is probably a bright beacon to sex offenders and other sociopaths.

In reading several of the articles about this guy, not one person gets that his lack of moral character and pathological lying may point to an actual disorder. They all think he can be helped with rehab. There still needs to be more education about sociopaths – if parishioners knew exactly what they were dealing with, getting him out would be a slam dunk. There would be no confusion or ambivalence. I think churches who by their very nature advocate forgiveness especially need to be educated about sociopaths. They need to hear the word, linked up with the behaviors, and “no cure”. The duped parishioners still don’t get it. There needs to be education in every walk of life.

The spath I once dated would also apologize every time he behaved badly. The seemingly sincere apologies can be quite endearing.

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