Donna Andersen speaks to college and high school students on ‘Love Fraud and How to Avoid It’

Most of us believed, at one time, that everybody just wanted to be loved. Unfortunately, we learned, this isn’t totally true. There are people in the world who pursue romantic relationships not for love, but for exploitation. These people are sociopaths.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve spoken to Lovefraud readers and they’ve said to me, “I didn’t know people like this existed,” and, “Why don’t they teach this in high school?”

Usually sociopaths begin their deception and manipulation during the high school and college years. Lovefraud’s research shows that people who become involved with them at a young age suffer more serious harm—including physical abuse, psychological damage and thoughts of suicide—than those who meet the predators later in life. That’s why students need to know that these disordered individuals exist.

Speaking at colleges and high schools

I hope to make young people aware of social predators in dating relationships by bringing my presentation, Love Fraud and How to Avoid It, to college campuses and high schools.

A couple of weeks ago, I spoke to students at Cumberland County College in Vineland, New Jersey. That’s when we made the above video. Over the next two weekends, my husband, Terry, and I will be attending Campus Activities Conferences to meet with students who bring speakers and entertainers to their schools. We hope they’ll see how important this information is and invite me to speak on their campuses.

The warning signs

The good news is that the dire consequences of love fraud are totally preventable— if students understand the warning signs. Based on my own experience and the thousands of cases I’ve collected, I explain how people get hooked into these involvements, and how to get out of them. Dr. Liane Leedom consulted on the material.

Love Fraud and How to Avoid It covers:

  • What is a sociopath? How many are there?
  • Male and female sociopaths
  • 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
  • Dangers of online dating
  • Healthy dating relationships
  • Abusive dating relationships
  • Why these relationships are addictive
  • How to break up with an abuser
  • Protecting yourself from sociopaths

Arming students with this information will enable them to recognize exploiters and avoid interactions that could irrevocably damage their lives.

Love Fraud and How to Avoid It is appropriate for college and high school students. I also offers a professional development program, Sociopathy Awareness for Staff and Counselors.

If you are affiliated with a college or high school and would like me to speak to your students, please contact Terry Kelly, program manager, at, or 609-945-1384.

For more information, visit Lovefraud’s Education page.

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