For Halloween: A real monster who liked to dress up

Russell Williams, used to be a pilot and commander in the Canadian military—until he was convicted of two murders, sexual assaults, and breaking into the bedrooms of women and girls to steal their underwear. He took photos of himself modeling the underwear—and stored them on his computer.

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Williams will probably spend the rest of his life in jail. A good article in the Vancouver Sun discusses his sexual predation. Most of the experts don’t think he will ever change.

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WHO is telling you that YOU are a “dependent” personality disorder?

Sounds to me that your daughter is more “dependent” foisting her daughter off on someone else (you or your son) while she takes off.

Back when egg donor was “offering” to give me money “if you need it” I didn’t need it, but IF I HAD I would NEVER have taken a dime from her because it wasn’t a “gift” but a DOWN PAYMENT ON CONTROL and I knew it. Pithed her off too, and she did get it, she said “You wouldn’t take it if you did need it would you?” and I said “No, mam, I wouldn’t.”

Back when I DID need help she never offered me a freaking dime, when she KNEW I NEEDED IT after my divorce. When I did ask for a loan from her for the kids private school tuition, I paid her back WITH INTEREST. She said “Oh, you don’t have to pay it back” and I said “NO, I DO have to pay it back, and by the way, I calculated the interest at !0%, here’s a check.”

She has never been beaten out of a dime by me but yet she told her attorney and everyone who would listen that I was trying to take all her money from her. LOL She even accused me of that to my face, then later admitted she had “only said that to hurt you” because she KNEW I knew the truth….but what she didn’t realize was the FACT THAT SHE WOULD TRY TO HURT ME, let me know that her intentions were not good. What mother that loved her child would DELIBERATELY SAY SOMETHING TO HURT HER CHILD, EVEN AN ADULT CHILD? That was when she became the “egg donor!” NOT my mother. Mothers do not try to hurt their children, mothers nurture their children and are friends to their adult children. Egg donors just contribute the DNA without the nurturing.

I also realized when she canceled my power of attorney that I am NO LONGER RESPONSIBLE for taking care of her. In fact, I dont’ have the legal authority to take care of her, so no authority=no responsibility. No responsibility=no guilty about not taking care of her if and when the time comes, she can hire someone, or her POA can hire someone if he doesn’t want to do it. She has enough money to hire a paid care giver but she’s had all the FREE care she will get from me, and I’m not interested in a PAID job either. Either of my sons C or D would have also been her unpaid caregivers too, until she lied to them and devalued and discarded them in exchange for my P son. So, she’s sort of SOL about people caring about her now and she can use all the money that “we were trying to take from her” to hire caregivers.

Oh, when I first started trying to figure out what was going on regarding my PX and seeking counseling, I had several counselors and people start off with the ‘dependent personality’ routine, even before I sat down good. I walked, because I knew it was not so and whatever was wrong was not going to be continually blamed on me. That’s what led me on the journey of knowledge and understanding to where I am now. Women Who Love Psychopaths REALLY opened the door for me!

Not my younger daughter that says that, it’s my older one. The one that would not give me a pound of hamburger meat, unless I EARNED it. She doesn’t have any children. Cruel to my younger daughter. Talking about a drama queen! When she goes to a family gathering or anything of the sort, she immediately starts scheming how she can create drama. She sets scenes up and plays them out. I figured this out only this last year. I keep my contact with her very limited for this very reason.

Ox: I understand what you are saying on your mom. No, mothers don’t hurt their children! Something very unnatural about that! *shudder! And they do finally get themselves down to nobody but paid people. That’s basically where my first PX is headed. His heart is blown out now, from all the years of partying. His lone brother is the only one basically left that cares and he has had a stroke. Wonder who will care for this old boy when he goes…..? Then the old tight wad that never paid any child support to me, will be forced to open that rusty wallet and pay to stay alive and get his butt wiped! ;p

Dear Ox,
My hats off to you, you are quite a resiliant women, such challenges and yet you kept on going. I actually do not think I could have done what you have done under such circumstances. I do however truly believe that we must always keep cash in reserve, its so important.
When I look back at my situation, before I married the spath, quite financially secure and a job which paid decent. Had just purchased my own own house, and then met the spath, was just about to move in, but he moved in instead because he did not have a place to stay, I did not move in with him because my parents did not approve. We all felt sorry for him, he was such a nice guy, very unfortunate in life, just divorced, bankrupt, what a sob story, and we fell for it. Well, instead of moving out, he married me, he was so in love with me… we moved in to my home, which i co-owned with two other investors. He lived the good life, my furniture, my household stuff, which my mother gave to me because I was moving out….the marriage was such a sudden thing. Anyway, I always kept my finances seperate, never did we have anythign together, he tried a few times, but I felt very insecure, my spidey sense was telling me not to combine anything. All the bills were under my name (maiden name, seeing that it was meant for me to move in before I met him) and I never changed anything. Everything was seperate, like that until he left. So it was not that hard, fortunatly I did not have to change anything over, even my credit cards were my own. He did not have any took him over 5 years to establish credit after his bankruptcy. I guess thats why he hung around, to get reestablished. So now that he is gone, financially I can take care of myself, always did, but thank goodness that I kept everything seperate, I had cash for my kids to feed them. I need to haul his butt in court for child support ( but he professed to love them, would do anythign for those kids ! ) but no support. Go figure. So now we are currently battling the house in court, he wants half, however its a bit complicated seeing that he cannot get his hands on it. Not likely that the other investors will let him walk away with a part that is not even his. Maybe half of my part which is very minimal after all is said and done. He is so upset that his anger has been manifested in various ways, scary actually. Anyway, the point of this is to let ladies know that hey must always keep things a bit seperate, just in case he bangs his head on the sidewalk and does not know who you are or better yet….you marry a spath. Take care of yourselves, never underestimate life and the turn of events. Love is great but you cannot buy groceries with love in your heart. Hugs to all.

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