Reply To: Failed at No Contact



loveablemd, you wrote in part: “We have to grieve for the ‘idea’ of the relationship,” then you added “what could have been.” Rather than the last part, I would say “what I thought it was.” We were in love with WHO WE THOUGHT HE REALLY WAS — and that is and was NOTHING TO DO WITH THE REAL HIM. A beaufitul and heartrending song we sang in high school choir was “Falling in Love With Love:

Falling in love with love, is falling for make believe.
Falling in love with love is playing the fool.
Caring too much is such a juvenile fancy.
Learning to trust is just for children in school.

I fell in love one night when the moon was full.
I was unwise with eyes unable to see.
I fell in love with love, with love everlasting,
And love fell out with me.

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