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Hi Fairynurse, sending you huge hugs hon. I know it’s hard right now for you. So happy that you found the courage to post your story. This is a huge step in your recovery.

Please know that sociopaths target intelligent, kind hearted, hardworking people. Why? because they know they can ride on your coattails for financial support & also tap into the victims empathy to manipulate us.

How can a human being do this to another?

Their brains are literally wired differently. This is a scientific brain study fact. Their brains also do not function in the emotion region. So they feel no emotions for other.

I think the scariest thing is that we are not educated about these evil people in school. Very sad that every generation ends up victims of these evil people simply because we are not educated.

Hon, you were not a fool. You were not educate on these evil people. Just like me, Donna and everyone else that comes here. Thank goodness Donna Anderson changed this by writing her books & creating this wonderful education & support site.

Now you know that these evil types are in very race, religion, country etc. And that you must follow your gut instinct the second that you meet someone new. You now have one of the keys to how this planet operates = powerful!!

I think that hardest thing to get over after being with a sociopath and becoming educate is the “wasted time” spent with a sociopath riding on a hamster wheel to nowhereville.

With time this pain of wasted time will slowly fade. I know it’s heart wrenching right now for you.

I saw my ex h manipulation tactics from day one!! YES!! from day one!! His lying everyday. But I still stayed too. Why?

They know how to use “pity play manipulation” (google) from DAY ONE!! To keep you sucked into their con game. Every time you call out their bs they give you the same old sob story about their “childhood” and you end up backing off.

What these evil people also do is use Trance & hypnosis!!

YES!! They use trance & hypnosis to keep a vicim into their con game.

SO CRAZY!! Read up on “Sociopath trance” and “Sociopath hypnosis” on the net. I read this in a book that my counselor gave me.

After I witness my ex h during divorce court using this in mediation with the mediator. It was a shocking moment. But a WIDE EYE moment into his evil behavior of how he kept me controlled.

Do you know that sociopath use brain washing & mind control also?

YEP! They are the cult leaders of the world. Whether a small cult like a family or a large say religious cult of 1 million or more.

You were his cult follower and he was your cult LEADER.


They also use “Gas lighting abuse”, “Sociopath triangulation” and “Sociopath smear campaign” to control everyone from seeing their mask drop to expose their evil ways. Look up all of these terms here at LF and on the net.

The blessing hon is you know the truth now!! I know you are broken now & in emotional pain but please know you are strong.

How do I know this?


Give yourself a high 5!!! Pat yourself on the back!! You escaped his evil grip!!


Everyone that leaves a sociopaths is exhausted. emotionally, mentally,physically and spiritually. Myself included.

I could not sleep. Could not focus. I was a shell of my former self.

I was lucky enough to have a friend directly me to a Encrinologist Doctor who tested me for cortisol levels (fight,flight or freeze response mode), vitamin & mineral deficiency and other test to see how my body was.

My test results were off the chart BAD!!

I had Adrenal Fatigue.

The Adrenal glands regulate our body’s blood pressure, blood sugar, cortisol & adrenaline levels and over 50 hormones.

With continual stress the adrenal glands become fatigue and in return wreak havoc on our bodies and mind.

Look at symptoms of Adrenal fatigue on sites like Dr Lam. com and Adrenal Fatigue. org. Both have books. (I have zero affiliation to these sites expect my doctor giving me Dr Wilsons adrenal vitamins.

How do you heal your adrenal glands?

Good clean diet, no alcohol or drugs (obviously if you are on Doctors orders for drugs you need to talk with your doctor), possible homornal balancing, plenty of rest, relaxation & sleep.

Look at the video “Mia Lundin sleep issues you tube”.

There is a medical issue due to the stress your ex caused you.

All of these sociopaths intentionally keep us on the emotional edge with constant chaos, drams, mind games ALL to control us. If we are stressed out they have more control over us.

SO take care of your body right now!! TOP PRIORITY!!

Look at “Dr Amen PBS you tube”

“Dr AMen depression you tube”

Also if you go to the Home page here at LF scroll down to “Recovery” and read that section.

Do a search on LF for Donna & Mary Ann Glynn video. Mary Ann has group internet sessions. She is a licensed Counselor who gets sociopath abuse. She has a new online group session next week I believe. Just look on the main post section Donna just posted a post about this session.

Just know that you are not alone. We understand the hell that you have gone thru. So keep posting questions or just vent your emotions out here if you would like.

Wishing you all the best💜

Take care.

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