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Many victims grapple with the problem of how and whether to warn the next victim. Every situation is different, with many different variables. You’re right, most of us wouldn’t have believed warnings from the spath’s ex’s at the beginning.

When I was in the worst of my ex psychopath experience, I would have liked to speak to his first ex wife. I came very close to doing so, but wasn’t sure how it would affect her. I didn’t want to cause her consternation so I never did reach out to her.

You might consider sending a short note to his current target letting her know that if she ever has any questions or would like to talk to her, to let you know. That way, if she ever does want the benefit of your input, she knows you are willing to speak with her.

There are a lot of helpful comments on the subject of warning the next victim here:

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