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Reply To: she thinks she's the drama queen

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Jan7
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Hi Freedomformydaughter, this is a tough situation because she has her ticket & most likely she is very excited to go on this extended “holiday”. You need to let her know that she is loved unconditionally. That she has a place to come home to, if things dont work out on this trip. That you are worried for her safety.

DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE BOYFRIEND TO HER…this will only bond her more to the boyfriend.

You can copy, cut, paste & print the below article to read (which you can also find on the USA National Domestic Violence Hotline website) just give it to her to read herself at your home or her home.

Our society thinks that domestic abuse is only “physical” abuse. We are not educated on what is emotional & mental abuse. You can tell her that the BULK of domestic abuse is NOT physical abuse but rather emotional, mental, verbal & financial abuse. Phrase this in a question form: Do you know that the bulk of domestic abuse is not physical abuse but emotional, mental, verbal & financial abuse??

just one question to plant in her mind. DO NOT over load her mind. She is under tremendous amount of stress right due to this sociopath in her life, so you need to just be very careful what you plant in her mind. Tell her the most dangerous time in a abusive relationship is when the vicim is ready to leave or has just left. So she needs to be very careful if she is in danger on this remote island and to find the islands domestic abuse center for help or to contact you.

Here is what you can cut & paste on a sheet of paper for her to read & ask her to put it in her wallet (secret spot for her bf not to see) so that she can review it at any time she is confused.

Article From National Domestic Website:

“In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.

Domestic violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to have more power and control over their partner.

Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:

Tells you that you can never do anything right
Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
Controls every penny spent in the household
Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
Prevents you from making your own decisions
Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children
Prevents you from working or attending school
Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets
Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons
Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

Explore the tabs on the USA National Domestic Abuse Hotline website or your countries website to learn some of the common warning signs of each type of abuse. Experiencing even one or two of these behaviors in a relationship is a red flag that abuse may be present. Remember, each type of abuse is serious, and no one deserves to experience abuse of any kind, for any reason. If you have concerns about what’s happening in your relationship, contact us. We’re here to listen and support you!” 800-799-SAFE.”

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