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Donna Andersen
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sqytteq – I am so sorry for your situation. Perhaps you can try to clarify how you feel about your father. You said that he let you down over the years – was it because he was self-centered and couldn’t be bothered with you, or was it because of weaknesses or circumstances? Is he like his new wife – or is he being brainwashed and manipulated?

If he is self-centered and perhaps even disordered, you may want to keep your distance from both of them. But if he is basically a good guy who is under the control of a sociopath, if you want to help him, the best thing to do is to try to maintain contact with him.

In any event, I suggest that you work on processing the negative feelings towards your stepmother. you should do that no matter how you feel about your father. If you’re angry at her, do something to get rid of the anger – punching bags are a good option. If you are sad – allow yourself to cry.

When you get the emotion out of your system, it allows you to feel centered. And this will help you get through the wedding.


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