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Reply To: New here — help!

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Jan7
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Hi Steph66, sending you HUGE HUGS!!! 💜💜💜

My ex h, a sociopath, was the SAME exact way with regards to boiling tea water in the microwave no less. You cant mess that up…but he made me feel like I was not able to fill up the tea cup with water, place it in the microwave & push a few buttons. I was broken down by this constant belittling just like you hon. Sociopaths do this to have POWER & CONTROL over us.

I know you feel like you are stuck in this toxic environment, broken down emotionally, most likely emotionally, mentally & physically exhausted from this daily chaos & drama he creates. We have ALL been exactly where you are now. Everyone one of us. Some how we all were able to muster up enough strength to crawl out of hell, thank goodness. And YOU can too hon. You have this amazing internal strength that you just need to tap into further. Once you do, you will RUN out of this horrible toxic relationship and NEVER look back.

How do you get to that point?

One day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time or one minute at a time. Be kind to yourself every step of the way.

I want you to know that YOU HAVE MADE AMAZING STEPS OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP SO FAR!!😊 You researched his abusive ways which lead you to Lovefraud, you are researching things here at LF and most importantly, You had the COURAGE & STRENGTH TO POST HERE!! THIS IS HUGE!! These are amazing steps out of this abusive relationship. PAT yourself on the back & give yourself high fives!! See what you have done so far out! It’s not easy to post on a site…it’s scary, you might feel embarrassed that you are in this type of relationship but never the less you had the STRENGTH to post!! 💪💪💪💪😊

1) First things first…get your health in order.

The daily chaos & drama a sociopath creates on their mate will harm your health, so much so, that you feel mentally, emotionally & physically exhausted and this will keep you in the stuck mindset & physically suck in this toxic abusive relationship.

Most if not all victims of a sociopath have PTSD. Most likely you are suffering from this right now. I believe the root issue of PTSD is Adrenal fatigue.

Look up the symptoms of Adrenal fatigue:

Dr Lam. com

Adrenal fatigue. org

just google symptoms of Adrenal fatigue.

Some of the Adrenal fatigue symptoms include: racing mind, brain fog, memory loss, feeling stuck, anxiety, depression, sleep issues etc etc.

Look into a Endocrinologist doctor to get tested for vitamin & mineral deficiency, cortisol levels, hormonal imbalance etc etc.

2) Contact your local abuse center & GO to free counseling & free women group meetings. Both will allow you to not only have a place were you feel safe but also have a place to get help with a Domestic abuse safety & exit plan out of this abusive relationship.

In the USA Domestic Violence Hotline website/ 800-799-SAFE. If not in the USA then just google “domestic abuse hotline”.

you can also google: Domestic abuse Exit plan you tube, Domestic abuse Safety plan you tube and then without the words “you tube”. For more info.

BE SURE TO CLEAR YOUR COMPUTER HISTORY EACH TIME YOU SEARCH EITHER LOVEFRAUD OR ANY OTHER SITE. FOR YOUR SAFETY!!

3) Look at Lovefraud’s home page & scroll down to the Yellow Box section & read everything. Ask question here, vent what ever you need to know post here.

4) Tell your most trusted friends & family what is going on in this toxic relationship. Ask them to come to Lovefraud to educate themselves on what you are enduring everyday.

Ask them for help formulating a Exit plan with the help of your local Domestic abuse center.

Please know that the most dangerous time for a woman in a abuisve relationship is when she is either getting ready to leave or has just left her abuser. SO PLEASE HAVE A SAFETY & EXIT PLAN OUT.

5) Find a counselor that is extremely knowledge with domestic abuse not all understand personality disorders or how the abuse effects a vicim. If you are in the USA look into Mary Ann Glynn (Lovefraud) free online support here at Lovefraud just do a search up at the top right corner of Lovefraud. She is excellent

6) Watch Donna Anderson’s videos up at the top of LF. Watch them over & over to open up your mind from this evil man’s brain washing & Mind control.

7) look up these terms here at love fraud & the net:

Gas lighting abuse
No contact rule
sociopath smear campaign
sociopath triangulation

YOU CAN DO THIS…ONE DAY AT A TIME MAKE LITTLE STEPS OUT. During this time BIT YOUR TOUGUE do not fight with you mate what so ever. Just tell yourself I’m getting out in your mind. Or vent here.

WE HEAR YOU, WE BELIEVE YOU, WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!! 🌺💜🌺💜

Wishing you all the best!!

Take care.

ps. He treated his ex wife the SAME exact way that he is treating you now. He abused her to the point she crawled out of his hell and RAN!!

YOU ARE NORMAL HON…he is the one that is disordered! Remember that. DO NOT take anything he says to you to heart. It’s all to control you…dont let him control you mentally. Dont let him rent space in your mind.


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