Reply To: How to overcome cognitive dissonance?


Donna Andersen

thirdtimelucky – I’m glad you are working on your recovery. First of all, I think what you are describing is more addiction than cognitive dissonance. Your thinking about this person is pretty clear, and your behavior is in line with your thinking — you know he is bad for you and you are maintaining No Contact. If you were experiencing cognitive dissonance, you’d be making excuses for him and perhaps seeing him even though you know he is disordered.

So perhaps it will help you to view your process as overcoming an addiction. It takes time to overcome an addiction, and you only established No Contact 40 days ago, so you are actually fairly early in the process.

We have many articles on Lovefraud about how relationships with sociopaths are addictive that may help you. I also talk about this in my recent webinar:

Why it’s so hard to get over loving a sociopath and how you can recover.

You also may want to look into our webinar on EFT tapping.

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