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Reply To: I'm on Day 1 of No Contact – struggling..

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Jan7
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Virgii, DO NOT beat yourself up hon. Breaking no contact happens to almost everyone. The important thing to take away from this last phone call with him is, HIS MASK DROPPED for you to see EXACTLY who he is = a evil sociopath!! . He just showed you his TRUE self. Open your eyes & mind to this right now!!

Write his mean words down that he told you tonight on the phone right now on in a journal/piece of paper, so that the next time you want to call him, you will be able to remind yourself that he showed you his true colors that he is mean.

Remember: When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Also, write down right now how you feel. Are you angry, mad, sad, etc. This way before want to call him again, you will remind yourself it’s not worth calling him.

NOTE: YOU WILL NEVER GET CLOSURE BY TALKING WITH A SOCIOPATH!!

Your closure is finding out that he IS a SOCIOPATH!! That is your closure.

Remember a sociopath ultimately wants power & control over others. By him saying these mean things to you tonight he thinks he gained power & control over you. DO NOT BELIEVE ANYTHING HE SAID TO YOU…sociopaths are pathological liars and will liar about EVERYTHING!! Another reason to slam the door shut by using the No contact rule. You know he is a pathological liar (google term).

TAKE YOUR POWER & CONTROL BACK FROM HIM BY IMPOSING THE NO CONTACT RULE AGAIN!!

You ask:

Coping tips:

1) do a search here on Lovefraud on “Tapping”

2) look at the Yellow box on Lovefraud “home page”

3) Get your health in order. The stress you have been under due to this evil sociopath has caused your body chemistry to be off. Look into the symptoms of adrenal fatigue (google) and look at sites like Dr Lam. com and Adrenal fatigue. org. This can be healed naturally with good food, vitamins & Minerals (b complex, D, magnesium etc), plenty of rest, relaxation & sleep and possible NATURAL hormones replacement short term.

Find a good Endocrinologist doctor to test you for vitamin & mineral deficiency, cortisol levels, hormonal imbalance etc.

Google: “Super Juice Me documentary you tube” and “Sick, fat & nearly dead. cool”, and “Dr Fuhrman Eat to Live PBS you tube” to learn how food can balance your body’s chemistry and get you thinking clearly again. Your local library may have their books.

Symptoms list of Adrenal fatigue:

racing mind
not able to be calm
sleep issues
anxiety
depression
mood swings
brain fog
etc etc it’s a long list so check out the symptoms lis on those sites and the net.

4) Before you call him ever again…come here to lovefraud and write everything you would want to tell him…cry it out, yell it out, get out here instead of on the phone with him. This really does help tremendously just to get it out of your mind. If you dont want to do this publicly then just get a piece of paper out (better a journey) and write out everything on your mind).

Once you get your body back in order and keep the No contact rule in place, I promise you your mind will settle and you will not want this guy back in your life EVER again. Hard to believe this right now but I promise you this day will come.

Sending you huge hugs!!💜💜💜

DAY ONE (Again 😜) NO CONTACT STARTS NOW!!!

  • This reply was modified 2 weeks, 6 days ago by  Jan7.
  • This reply was modified 2 weeks, 6 days ago by  Jan7.

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