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Reply To: I'm on Day 1 of No Contact – struggling..

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allison123
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Virgii,

Try not to beat yourself up too much. Like I said, I’m on 1 mo of no contact, but we broke up 3 months ago…That means after breaking up we continued to contact each other every couple of weeks until I finally found it in me to stop reaching out.

After a month and a half, she asked to meet up to “end on a better note”. I agreed, and I ended up regretting it so much. She seemed happy & like nothing was bothering her while I was still devastated. But in the end, all you can do is let go of the fact that you broke no contact, and try again tomorrow. It helps to take it 1 hour at a time, then one day at a time, and so on.

Also, I have a list of specific instances where she was really cruel to me, and whenever I start to miss the good times, I look at my list and remember it’s not worth it.

Just know that you’re not alone in your experience. It really is like breaking an addiction because of the extreme highs and lows. Hang in there. This website really does help validate your experience. <3

  • This reply was modified 2 weeks, 6 days ago by  allison123.

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