Reply To: Having a relapse 4 months in




I didn’t feel excited about dating either. In a way I kept trying to date out of spite for the ex/spath. I didn’t want him to be the only one who had ‘moved on’. But the truth was he did, and I was stuck with healing. It’s just how it works. They feel nothing.

Plus, love was my drug of choice when it came to distracting myself from my own woundedness and vulnerability, as a result of being raised by a narcissist. Up to that point in my life I was either in a relationship or searching for one. So I wasn’t just healing from my sociopathic relationship, but from long time trauma and PTSD.

This is obviously not the same situation for everyone here at Lovefraud, but I thought I would share my experience in the event it might help you (or someone else here) to identify things about your own experience. It can take some digging into ourselves to find the vulnerabilities we each have, that these bad sorts use against us.


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