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Girl busts Indiana lawmaker looking for gay sex

Kameryn Gibson, 20, of Indiana, posted an ad in the m4m (men for men) section on Craigslist, looking for a sugar daddy. Forty-seven minutes later, Indiana state Rep. Phillip Hinkle, offered him $80 plus a tip for a “really good time.”

When the two were in a room in the JW Marriott hotel, Hinkle told Gibson who he was. Gibson freaked out and called his sister. Megan Gibson came for her brother, cussed out Hinkle, and then told the whole story to the Indianapolis Star because she thought Hinkle was “creepy.” Yeah!

Read Email rendezvous entangles state Rep. Phillip Hinkle on IndyStar.com.

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This whole thing is so creepy, this is a guy who had been very ANTI-gay in his political stance…..sort of reminds me of the minister guy that I knew who got busted in july for kiddie porn and soliciting a minor on the internet for sex. I put the link up yesterday.

I am glad to see these crooked politicians and crooked ministers and crooked lawyers and judges exposed….how about the cop arrested lately for rape at gunpoint while on duty I think he was. I swear, these people in authority who abuse others and their positions of trust should be hung, drawn and quartered!

one/joy_step_at_a_time

well oxy, the best place to hide is behind a projection!

gay folk know that the peeps who scream loudest (no pun intended, but what the heck, let’s go with it!) about the ugly homos are those most ignorant about the forces that drive sexuality, especially their own.

I feel bad for this boy though – a sugar daddy more than 2 x his age does not speak to a high sense of self esteem.

One/Joy, it doesn’t matter if it is a girl/woman or a gay guy looking for a “sugar daddy” person, it is SELLING your sexual favors for money/support/security. It is a shame that anyone is willing to do this, but the boy is the one who put up the ad looking for a “sugar daddy” (someone to pay him for sex etc. rather than the free exchange of sex in a loving, trusting relationship)

The boy did sound rather unsure of himself though, by calling his “adopted sister” when he found out the guy was a legislator….of course the man is screaming “shake down” but I think it is hardly a legitimate claim since there are so many electronic “bread crumbs” leading directly to his door! LOL

Yea, it amazes me how creeps like this (gay or straight) get on the “family values” band wagon or the homophobic band wagon and too the horns the loudest while living life actually in the sewer. Personally it doesn’t make any difference to me if a turd is a gay turd or a straight turd, sheet is sheet and it all stinks.

My husband’s grand daughter is gay, and she is in a committed relationship with a woman, they’ve bought a home together and live life together. They don’t conceal their relationship in any way, but they don’t go stomping around saying “I’m gay, so wanna fight?” any more than I go stomping around saying “I’m straight, wanna make something of it?” LOL

When people make being gay (or being straight, or black, or white, or male or female) something that they are “proud of” and –the SINGLE focus for identification– in their lives I think they are not balanced and healthy. Though I firmly believe that women are “just as good as men” the early feminist movement was pretty radical and off putting, the “gay pride” thing is sort of that way now as well, and the racial pride –black or white– etc.) That is just my humble opinion, but I am what I am, and what I DO with that determines who I am. In the end, I am just a HUMAN BEING who also happens to be white, straight, female, old and fat! LOL

Yuk, sounds just like the kind of thing my ex would have done if he had have been clever enough to have been in a job like that. Amazing how these so called homophobic men end up in sleazy stories with men young enough to be their own kids.

One joy/step, my spath is a homophobe. Yet he always claims to have gay porn spam pop ups on the computer, porn spam emails, etc., etc., etc. Funny, I use the same computer, go in under his log in- nothing. Not one pop up. Hmmmm….

Going thru the pic’s on his cell phone one night- there it was. Larger than life itself. A picture of another mans junk, fully erect, but his face was out of view. I went through the photo album and it had been in there for over a month. The next morning I tried to get a picture of his phone with the pic on the screen using my cell phone camera- he had erased it.

I still don’t know if he took the picture, downloaded it online or if someone sent it to him email or text, but it was there and had been there for some time.

Nothing surprises me anymore. Nothing.

Dear Phoenix,

There is a good article here about psychopaths being “neither gay nor straight” that Donna put up a while back—and I think it is pretty close to the truth. The thing is that they will more or less “fark anything that will hold still” animal, mineral or vegetable. They are not picky.

Many of them are also “bi-sexual” though they will deny it, so nothing surprises me. The homophobic ones are just trying to put up a screen to cover what they are really wanting to do….fark anything that walks or slithers. The legislator is a perfect example of a slimebag…and the thing is it doesn’t matter if the boy was a girl, he is still a slime bag looking to pay for sex with someone younger while all the time pretending to be this “upstanding” member of society. PUKE!

Also remember that bi-sexual people will not have sex with everything that moves. They might love both genders because if they identify and love someone, then gender means nothing to them. They don’t want sex all the time, either. No more than normal.

The exact opposite of the spath, who has none of those feelings and will have sex with pretty much anything. These types are often hyper-sexual and will have MANY obsessions and partners.

Oxy & Near- the funny part about it is that he never seems to want it. Never initiates, nothing. Which may seem out of character for a spath in some respects, but I know, there is no set mold for them. No absolutes. (Unless you are talking about the vodka!)

After finding the pic on his phone- I may still get the urge now and then, I just don’t want it with him.

Phoenix: Yeah, it sounds like he doesn’t fit the normal mold, but probably just means he is bored and you aren’t one of the obsessions. Did he ever show interest?

One thing is for sure, don’t try to spice things up in the bedroom with him! Who knows what you’ll end having to do! ^_^

Maybe get a hair cut and boy scout outfit? Then ask him! He’ll probably jump at the chance to “roleplay” with you.

Keep in mind that there are more diseases out there that are Sexually transmitted that are FATAL than one (HIV) so be sure that you do not let him “bring home” something from one of his visits to a hooker or who knows what.

It used to be that most if not all of the STDs we knew about at least would be cured by penicillin but NOT ANY MORE….HPV, HBV, Hep C and many others are viral and no cure, and can prove just as fatal as a bullet, only slower.

So keep in mind that crawling into the rack with these guys is playing Russian Roulette between your thighs. Just Nursie-Oxy here on another one of her rants! LOL

Pheonix,
actually that is classic spath. The spaths all have madonna/whore syndrome.

They have the wife at home but never have sex with her.

Then they have sex with whores and everything else outside the home.

I was 17 when I met the spath and by age 20, he had an excuse not to have sex with me for over a year. He said he was mad at me for saying that he only used me for sex, so he would prove otherwise. At that time, I used to work out so much, I had nearly zero fat and a hot young body.

He did, however come up with a plan for me to prove that I loved him, after I left him the 2nd time. He said that I had to have sex with several men which he would bring home. That’s the only way I could prove that I was sexually satisfied because he said that everytime I left him, he was sure it was because I wasn’t sexually satisfied.

Interestingly, the guys he brought home were blonde skinny guys. Just his type, as it turns out.

The point is, Pheonix, you cannot attribute normal thinking to the spaths. There is nothing normal about them. Yet they will come up with all kinds of story lines to excuse their deviant behavior and try to appear normal in your eyes.

The reason he won’t have sex with you is because it’s part of the whipsaw (hot cold) treatment. He will have sex with you just enough to keep you bonded and wanting more. Your emotional bondage is what he is really after. My spath called sex with me “maintainance” – a psychopathic tell – because he would only do it often enough to maintain the bond. The last 15 years it was zip, but that was my decision. No more orgies.

All the while, he was out fucking everything in sight and making sure that all his friends knew that my lack of interest was the reason. Of course he made sure they didn’t know about his sex with blonde guys. or little children. Or his inordinate interest in sex with horses.

Sky, you got lucky he wasn’t having sex with you, and bringing home gosh knows what diseases……

Oxy,
Yep, I know it.
Because he didn’t wear condoms – ever.

A lot of my decisions were made, I think, from the fear which I denied. Though I denied the fear, it affected my decisions, subconsciously. I didn’t want to have sex with him when it meant I had to trust him with my health and my life. Even though I believed that he was also abstinant, that was something I couldn’t control, so I chose to abstain from him.

Such a dick.

Skylar: Wow, that’s some disturbing stuff. Did you fall for it and have sex with those guys he brought home and if so, what did he do while it was going on? I know you said no more orgies…

I am NOT trying to be a jackass, and you don’t have to answer, but something here kind of reminds me of my dad, but I don’t really want to say yet because I may have not read into this correctly. Ugh.

Near,
yes I fell for it a few times and he said he just liked to watch. but I’m sure now that the first time, he made a video. How do I know? Because just before he came up with this idea, (like 3 months earlier) he told me his video camera had been stolen from a storage locker. He never filed a police report (not that that would prove anything if he had, but it’s another clue). Everything that happened was pre-arranged. Before he “put the camera in storage” he had kept it at my apartment for months and I never used it nor did I want to. Then suddenly, one day he says, “I’m taking the camera and deck to put in storage because I think you’re gonna break it.” WTF?

Yep, whenever you get a WTF? moment, you KNOW. Your subconscious is talking – YELLING at you.

Skylar: I’m sorry I had to ask you. I was just so shocked that I couldn’t connect the dots of what you were saying. It’s like trying to connect the dots while the dots are are flying everywhere, the paper is moving, and somebody is slapping your pencil while you try. Impossible.

Then you said it, that he just liked to watch. It’s the exact same thing my dad said to my mom one time, except he wanted her with women too. That’s pretty fucked up.

Yikes, if he filmed it then what if he shared it with others!? He could mail that to anybody! This is just too sick. I wonder what joy they get from this? I’d think their ego would be too huge to want to share or have some other dude humiliate them this way.

Maybe he wanted you to be humiliated? I can’t make sense of it.

Near,
yep humiliation, I’m sure was the whole point. He expected to use it to make me commit suicide.

What a dumb ass. I couldn’t care less. In fact, just to make sure he knew what a worthless card he was holding, I told everyone first. LOL!

So now when I write a book about him, if he shows the video, it will just increase sales of my book. 🙂

Skylar: Might increase the sales of the video too! 😛 Aw, that joke was too soon. 🙁

What did everyone say when you told them?! Wow, a risky move, but at least he couldn’t wave it over your head. It’d just suck if you had kids(or maybe you do?) and that video was out there, or online! Think of the children! *shakes Skylar* 😛

How old were you when this happened? It kind of reminds me of this story on the news now with some actor dating a 16 year-old. No telling what he could get her to do through manipulation. You know, if she wasn’t actually manipulating him and not 16, that is. 😛

Well, my parents were shocked. They couldn’t believe he could convince me to do something like that. Everyone else, who knew him, were not surprised because they already knew that he was a sex addict. The only one who had not known that he was a sex addict, was ME! I actually believed his lame story. I was 25 when it happened. We had no kids.

I’m not ashamed because my reason for what I did was out of love for him. His reasons for what he did, cannot be explained by any normal person, only a spath would do that.

Another reason to tell everyone is so that people can see how perverted and cunning the spaths are. Eventually all red flags will be known and we can just look at them and laugh at them.

Skylar,
Yep, increase in sales and you’ll become famous like paris hilton…etc. So, now he won’t use it because it will benefit you…d**k head.

Near!
How the heck are ya??? 😛

It is not unusual for the psychopaths to talk “us” into doing something we normally would not have done that is contrary to our moral compass. It is difficult to forgive ourselves some times for the things we end up doing “for them”–but important to do so.

Yeah! I’ll be famous, or infamous! LOL!

The reasons WHY you do something are what makes it wrong or right. I did what I did out of selflessness, not selfishness. He begged me. I loved him. That was enough reason to do it, in my mind.

He did lots of “nice” things for me, but all of them done with a duplicitous intent. That negates all the good in what he did and actually makes his actions evil – no matter how good they appeared.

It works both ways. They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions, but I don’t believe that. We are judged by what is in our hearts and intention is in the heart.

My dad must suck hard at convincing people then, because my mom and I never went along with his schemes. I told you all he tried to get me to have sex with a hooker as a college gift, right? Yeah! My dad sure is a winner, forget those loser kids that have real dads! ^_^

Skylar: You sure are strong. Lucky you didn’t have kids with that guy! That would have been a disaster, especially since he is a sex addict. My dad can’t get woman anymore, at all. So funny, he can’t hide his red flags either or his prison record. I’m with you, let’s just sit back and laugh! *sips Sunny Dee* Buh huh!! ^_^

Ana: Woohoo!! Ana in the house! *raises the roof* Yeah! I’m doing pretty good. My first day of college was today and it was awesome! I’m all tuckered out, though. How have you been?

Skylar: Those good intentions can become too extreme, though. Plenty of sociopaths in my anime shows start with good intentions and then BAM!! Oh jeez, I just nerded out all over the place, my bad. *cleans up nerdiness while being ashamed* ^_^

Or maybe they were just selfish intentions disguised as good intentions… No clue!

Skylar,
Yes, I do believe you acted out of love for him. See how selfish they are??? Is Selfish one of the big traits in spaths?

I’m glad you don’t feel bad about any of that. HE should!

From what I’ve read/learned here; they are all (men & women) lying, cheating, dangerous, low-down, no good for nuttin a**holes.

Now, doncha feel grateful you’re not one of em’???? I do!

Near,
Howdy, doo. Glad you had your first day at college WOOT!! Good for you. Of course, you will ace college cause you’re so darn smart now just starting off. I betcha you could give those profs. a lesson in spaths..lol.

Glad to see you back. Best of luck to you.

Near,
my spath was pretty good at convincing me and everyone else. But he has slipped a bit in the last few years. His old tricks and pity ploys don’t work as well now that he’s old and still using a young man’s excuse for why he’s broke or breaking a law. His evil is showing more and more on his face too.

His mistake was hanging on to me too long. If he had just left me 10 years earlier, I would never have seen his decay.

Ana, Yeah I’m grateful I’m not one of them. It must be hell to be so empty. I’d rather be miserable me, then him.

Selfish is a huge red BANNER.

Skylar,
It’s funny you mention intention coming from the heart. One of the women I work with said to me “I’m starting to believe that intention is everything” I agreed with her.

Esp. working on other peoples bodies. You must have the utmost in ethics, the massage therapist holds that space for people to be able to relax in therapuetic environment, it really is amazing work and truly gratifying because we see the results of it immediatly. Sorry…I’m rambling here.

Ana: Oh, you! Always sounding like my forum mom! My mom says the same stuff about me going into college smart and teaching the professors about spaths! *huggles* ^_^

Oh and you said howdy, doo! I didn’t even know people said that anymore! IS that even legal? 😛

Skylar: Yep, it sounds like all spaths start to lose their ability later on. Same with my dad. They seem to age quickly because of everything they do and he has nothing! No house, no car, barely a job. Even after 50 years, and everyone knows his ploys! You hit the nail right on the head! Looks like they are falling apart right when we all start to recover. ^_^

Near,
You crack me up! Yes, it’s legal if you’re over 50 LOL.

I like that last line you wrote about them falling apart as we all start to recover!! Makes me feel good 🙂

Ana: That’s what I’m here for, comedic relief! Sometimes I have good thought sand insights to share, but I’m 95% nonsense. Enjoy it! ^_^

Yeah, that last line will really resonate with anybody that has actually been with a spath.

Do you want to have some Sunny Dee as well? We can sip it while laughing! Well, that may make a mess, but we’ll sip it after laughing! ^_^

Skyler-WTF moments…yep I think that should be dubbed the biggest red flag.

Near,
Why, I’d love some sunny dee. Thanks! We can laugh, drink, laugh how’s that? 😛

Skyler-Do they really fall apart with age? I sure hope so. I know mine has indeed aged in looks beyond his age, but I wonder if he’ll ever fall apart…he is one (book) smart cookie. Still quite slick too.

Justus5,
Yep, WTF moments come so fast and furious..all amongst selfishness..Just those two alone..should scream red banner, helloooo, red baaaannnneeerrr. LOL

I think they burn out with age. Not their personality or attitude, that’s still messed up, but their ability and looks. Not too mention everything catches up to them.

Ana: Good plan! Bwahahahaha! *drinks* Bwahahahaha! Yes, feeling better all ready! Thank you Sunny Dee, the anti-spath drink! No.. I’m not advertising or being paid by them to say this, stop your nonsense! ^_^

Justus,
I have heard that they fall apart and witnessed it, in part, with my exspath.

Since the narcissist is nothing but an overgrown infant, it makes sense that the older they get, the worse their diaper is going to look on them. Plus the fact that they never change it…. well … it starts to stink.

The narcissist doesn’t change. why should he? He’s perfect already. My spath said, “Other people change, I never have.”
and He said, “I never wanted to grow up.” and also, “Other people should pay me to play, so I don’t have to work”. These were huge red flags that I didn’t understand, until I read, “Why is it always about you?” by sandy hotchkiss.

So, my spath looked really good and actually smelled good, when he had the 2-day beard and hadn’t showered. He had a Clint Eastwood in a spaghetti western look.

Fast forward 25 years. FAT, crooked teeth, dirty old man. The look just doesn’t cut it anymore. The pity ploy doesn’t work as well. He can’t adapt as well. Yes, it’s true that he did manage to go from rock star to helicopter pilot, but the allure is not there without the sex appeal.

He still has the sympathetic ear of the uninformed, though. Donna’s work to educate others about spaths, should take care of that, in time. Their are many many books about spaths now. Back in 1983, when I met him, the only book was “People of the Lie”

We have to starve these parasites of their supply sources. They can’t change, so we have to.

Skyler-you make me laugh, thank you. My N/P is in this weekend (he just became a truck driver in his 40’s). I’ve handled his N/P attitude pretty well but I needed the laugh.

SKYLAR

I did buy PEOPLE of the LIE because you mentioned it, but I found it to be a difficult and not terribly helpful read. Nowhere near as helpful as snakes in suits and without a conscience for example.

Maybe because it was just the START of the conversation, groundbreaking in it’s own way, but not as accessible as work that followed.

You bought and read that in 1983? That’s amazing. At 17?

I can’t imagine how your personality and your body has survived the 25 years of your spath. Most of your life has been spath influenced.

And yet you are so sane, you are so smart, you are doing so well, you help so many people, you’re so insightful. How you’ve come so far, on your own, with all that you’ve been through, absolutely amazes me.

SK

Thank you ((SK))
You are so sweet. It was 1983 or 84. I was 17 or 18. I met the spath just before turning 18.

It IS a difficult book, but I didn’t buy it, I got it at the library. Before the internet, the library was my only source of knowledge. I’ve always been a book worm, or a knowledge worm, whichever. AFAIK, there were no other books about liars and spaths back then. Scott Peck got the conversation started. For that I’m grateful to him.

I can’t attest to how sane or smart I am. I try to put out whatever information I gather, so that others can pick up the ball and roll with it, because every day is a challenge. Every day, I don’t know how much more I can take. And yes, it’s my body that just wants to give in. and my emotions are reaching their limits.

SK, some books will resonate with some people at some times, and others they will resonate with later (or maybe not at all) but it is the same with various articles…part of whether or not something resonates with us is WHERE WE ARE on the healing path. Things I read 30 years ago are resonating with me NOW….they are no less true now than they were then, but I am just now getting to a point that I can USE what they were saying.

It is like climbing a ladder, you cant reach step 20 until you go through 1-19, and even if someone gave you step 20 NOW, it wouldn’t be helpful to you. So it is a path we must travel and each of us does it at a different rate, which is okay. Just read and read and take what resonates TODAY and you can always reread the other later, or have an “ah ha” moment.

Good god. well kudos to the sister for blurting it all out 🙂 I’m really surprised though, at how fast these scumbags are coming out of the woodworks in the realm of politics. And if you think about it, these are only the ones that got caught!

Geeze, is this guy related to Anthony Weiner? You’d think that if nothing else, Weiner’s blow up and monumental mess would have taught people something – but, not.

Guess this guy thinks he’s above the law and nothing will happen to him. This is the beginning of the end for him. Watch it unfold in the media.

Kspencer,

Yep, I saw an article the other day with the posted semi-nude pictures of several politicos all pretty much posed the same way as these two…and it was funnier than heck really. Psychopaths don’t generally learn from their OWEN MISTAKES much less from other’s mistakes because they are “too smart to get caught.” LOL yea, right!

Awww, I missed the party…. Catching up throught th eposts though…

Oxy, Near & Skylar- He never really initiated much. He’s the kind that plays hard to get because ‘people want what they can’t have’ is how it is in his mind. I actually enjoy sex, but he holds out on me as Skylar said, hot/cold game of control.

Even when he did ‘put out’, he was never any good. Some things- he was so bad at I asked him to stop and never do that again. It’s almost like he put his worst foot forward first so he would never need to go there again.

It has worked well for him. I don’t want it, at least not from him. Consider the disease factor- that really puts a kibosh on any amount of desire I may have had.

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