How to break a “culture of silence” – remove everyone

In another shocking case of child sex abuse, a teacher at the Miramonte Elementary School in Los Angeles was accused of playing sex games in the classroom for 20 years. The response of John Deasy, superintendent of the Los Angeles Unified School District: He removed the school’s entire staff, from the principal to the janitors.

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FANTASTIC article, Sky. Thanks.

There are statements in there that could be just as easily applied to the US political parties.

“‘The culture is deep,’ she said. ‘The culture is making decisions based on how others will react, not based on what’s right and wrong.’ It focused on the interests of those at ‘the top of the chain,’ she added. ‘Others at the bottom didn’t matter.'”

Mr. Wonderful wasn’t wonderful in many areas.

“She noted that Paterno preferred to keep the public in the dark about player infractions involving violence, and he pushed for not enforcing the student code of conduct off campus…

“…Tensions reached the breaking point in 2007 over how to discipline half a dozen players who’d been arrested at a brawl at an off-campus apartment complex. Several students were injured; one beaten unconscious.

“Triponey met with Paterno and other university officials half a dozen times, although she preferred to remain neutral as the appeals hearing officer.

“At the final meeting, Triponey urged the coach to advise his players to tell the truth. Paterno said angrily that he couldn’t force his players to ‘rat’ on each other since they had to practice and play together. Curley and Spanier backed him up on that point, she said.

“Triponey recommended suspensions; Paterno pushed for community service that included having the team clean up the stadium for two hours after each home game.

“In the end, four players were briefly suspended during the off-season. They didn’t miss a game.”

Sky, they’re not using “psychopathic culture” because they don’t know what psychopath means. My guess is that they wouldn’t even conceive that a psychopathic culture could even exist.

Don’t forget that most of the world thinks Ps are all violent serial rapists and murderers with scary eyes and easily recognizable. They don’t have cultures. They’re rare aberrations that pop up every once in a while. There aren’t that many of them, you know, and most of them are in prison, thank goodness. BLEH!

That’s why I sent the email that I did to that author explaining about psychopaths. It’s safe to assume that the world really doesn’t think along those line because they don’t know. The word hasn’t spread enough yet.

Breckgirl, I await your thoughts.

Regarding that author, if you want to copy and paste what I wrote into an email and send that to him, please do. Maybe if he hears from enough people about psychopaths, he’ll look into the subject.

Good luck with your moving!

You’re right, they just don’t know like we do.
It’s so frustrating to see people living my life over again.

the ignorance is frustrating.

HOW do we DEFINE psychopaths to people who are determined never to see it?

I wonder if Vicky would see it. Her life was ruined for many years because of psychopaths. It was only the luck of this HUGE media disclosure that brought light on it. Will she ever know that she experienced a spath?

I hope she does and WRITES A BOOK ABOUT IT.

I saw your comment: “wow just wow! they have not learned a thing.”


how is it possible? Cog/Diss should dissipate after a certain point. The point where you are shown emphatically that you WERE WRONG!

These people don’t give a flying fuck, about wrong or right. They know that time changes the way people think/percieve.

Let’s prove them wrong. Let’s make such a stink that nobody stops thinking and feeling the slime. Not ever. Let’s make a change — and not the obama kind of change.


Skylar, my job includes having the skill of “dealing with the resistance to change.”

The approach is not to even waste time on the people who are “determined not to see it.”

You work with the people who are most interested. The people who volunteer or come forward by asking questions. You tap into their enthusiasm. You give them the information. You teach the receptive audience.

What then happens is they pass this information along to others. Others see their enthusiasm, which is catching. A lot of people wait to see what others think. They don’t want to take the risk of appearing foolish, but if braver souls have been sold on the subject, then they’re open to hearing what’s so great about it. In other words, it isn’t your enhusiasm that convinces them, it’s the enthusiasm of the initial converts.

If you think of this first group as the top tier, you convince them, and they, in turn, convince the tier beneath them, who, in turn, convinces the tier beneath them. It is a snowball effect

The people who are determined not to accept your message are at the bottom tier. They may never change. On the other hand, once they see that everybody else is convinced, they may come around.

There is nothing that you can do about those who have already made up their minds and won’t budge so don’t even waste your energy on them. Target the ones who seem the most receptive. It’s less work for you. You can keep things simple and friendly.

Eventually,a lot of people will end up being convinced if the message is clear and well delivered.

You’re right – you need to go after the people who are at least willing to listen.


G1 – what an amazing concept to add to the conversation here at LoveFraud…

Here is a video on social and technological change…

This tool of course has been used by government to control citizenry via using a crisis and then offering a solution designed to guide us away from what we would choose naturally and towards what they want us to choose which is in my opinion not benign or good for us but rather good for them… But as we all know we have the nuts running the asylum.

Anyway – here is a snippet on the concept:

And we can use these same tools to fight back whether it is the culture in the university ir the culture of death and corruption in our government.

We are the early adopters and second wave here and we need to educate the rest…

I smelled a spath in the Zimmerman case from the very beginning. His obsession with law enforcement and need to “play cop” was a HUGE RED FLAG. My spath has the exact same obsession.

Now it’s starting to be revealed that Zimmerman is a manipulative liar and the cops gave him a free pass after the murder because he had connections. This is exactly what spaths do. They always have connections so they can get away with murder.

Edit: oh jeez, there’s more. total spath.


Skylar, a friend of Zimmerman’s family is claiming that he molested her over a 10 year period.

He was also accused of bullying a fellow employee.

We know that he feels the law doesn’t apply to him or he would have stayed in his car when he was told to stay put and his help was not needed. Trayvon Martin would be alive today if Zimmerman had done what he was told.

Breckgirl, you are right. We are the first wave and second wave. We can get the word out.

yeah I saw that. The abcnews link goes to that information.
I’m ashamed to say that I couldn’t decide who was in the wrong for a while. Now I see the total spath in Zimmerman.

Not saying that Treyvon Martin was an innocent. I don’t know anything about him because he’s dead. But I do know a spath when I smell one and Zimmerman stinks.


I agree with so many of the above posts. I would like to chime in on my appreciation for the school superintendent in LA. Bravo!

Post 9/11 I was jobless. I passed out cheese at the local supermarket and then I began a subsitute teacher position in my local school district. This district has one of the top 50 high schools in the country. Academically, extremely successful.

I did notice an incredible level of apathy with many of the teachers however. I noticed that they appeared to have no interest in many of the behavioral problems with the students. I also noticed this with most of the school administration. No one seemed to stand up to the bullies that I recognized immediately in the classroom. Violence gets my attention.

My point here is not to anger any teachers as my sister has been one for over 30 years and I have two good friends that are special ed teachers. I admire the people that choose to do this profession for the pay that most receive. However, I do think once again as I posted on this blog we are also seeing a huge apathy epidemic in our culture.

Mr Deasy probably figures that SOMEONE knew about this guy but didnt take the time to report his 20 year “odd” behavior to the administration.

So what is it? Apathy gone crazy or has psychopathy taken over our culture and we are not noticing? Perhaps both.


Oh, and about George Zimmerman and all the other “strange” people that do seem to gather in Florida.

No offense Floridians…but come on.

Follow the trail. Look at the histories of these folks that are in the news, causing havoc in their families, yelling the loudest in the group.

Robert Hare states that even he has trouble spotting a pathological in prison. Really? Then we have no chance. Does he not have this persons’ rap sheet? Ask a few questions about jobs, family, and education and we might get a clue.

The longer I educate myself about personality disordered people the more I wonder how the heck I missed all of the red flags. Many are extremely deceitful, but in this day and age, there is little excuse for one getting away with any long term “con.”

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