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Isiah Thomas A Sociopath?

Who is Isiah Thomas? For the uninitiated, he was a great college and NBA basketball player, a “hall of fame” legend. If you want to see how superior Isiah Thomas the basketball player was, just go to YouTube, punch in his name and watch the highlight footage that speaks for itself.

In short, Thomas was an electrifying, all-time great point guard and champion at every level at which he competed—from high school, to Indiana University where, precociously, he led the Hoosiers to an NCAA basketball title, to the Detroit Pistons, whose NBA misfortunes he somewhat singlehandedly changed, immediately, after the Pistons drafted him out of college.

Thomas subsequenty led the Pistons to consecutive NBA championships in the 1990’s.

What is less acknowledged about Isiah Thomas is just how seriously narcissistic a personality he is, and possibly how sociopathic he is. It is not that his misdeeds (on, but mostly, off) the court, since his retirement, haven’t been well-chronicled. There was his infamous “dissing” of Michael Jordan at the NBA All-Star Game in the early 90’s, where he organized a “freeze-out” of the great, rising superstar, in effect assuring that Jordan would lack chances to shine during the game.

Continuing his Jordan fixation, Thomas next orchestrated, again passive-aggressively, his team’s “walk off the court” rebuffing of Jordan and the Chicago Bulls after the Bulls defeated the Pistons in the Eastern Conference Championship, a victory that signaled the Bulls’ ascendancy at the time, and the beginning of Thomas’s Pistons’ decline, as the reigning superpower in the NBA.

The power-and-control obsessed Thomas couldn’t stomach this changing of the winds and so, reflecting his emerging grandiosity, he stooped to organizing this childish protest on his way “out of power.”

Were these trifling displays of unsportsmanlike behaviors? Not really. They always presaged much more than that. They were, in fact, early signs of Thomas’ serious, pathological narcissism. Ruthless on the court, he would prove ruthlessly self-centered,  and, most tellingly, troublingly unaccountable off the court.

After retiring from an injury, Thomas assumed an executive management role with the Toronto Raptors, then an expansion NBA team. He left this position, surprise surprise, in conflict with the team’s management and dispute over its direction. Perhaps no big deal? But I note again—when we are dealing with narcissistic personality disturbances, it is the pattern that needs to be recognized, if possible, in its earliest manifestations.

Following his suspect run with the Raptors, Thomas purchased the Continental Basketball Association for roughly $10 million, leading this established NBA developmental league into bankruptcy through what many then (and have since) concluded was his extraordinarily incompetent, reckless mismanagement.

Thomas never owned his responsibility, not a shred of it, for the demise of the CBA. Rather, his abdication of responsibility for the messes he’s made has become a theme in his post-NBA career.

After an undistinguished run, next, as head coach of the Indiana Pacers—a job opportunity he was offered (remember this!) by then Pacers President Donnie Walsh—Thomas assumed a new position as President of Basketball Operations for the New York Knicks in 2003.

Now, a newly minted Knicks executive and given a fresh dose of undeserved autonomy, Thomas commenced to running the Knicks organization like a manic day-trader, dealing players during his three-year reign in a reckless, impulsive frenzy; worse, displaying  utter, arrogant disregard for the team’s fiscal condition which he recklessly, and remorselessly, compromised.

Ultimately, he left the organization, upon his departure in 2008 (particularly with respect to its “salary cap” status) in financially disastrous ciscumstances.

Re-enter Donnie Walsh, the erstwhile Indiana Pacers executive who’d given Thomas his first NBA head-coaching opportunity. The Knicks hired Walsh, a veteran NBA executive, to undo the mess that Thomas had left. Thus, Walsh has spent the last two years undertaking the unenviable task of having to dig the team out of its financial hole, making it possible for the Knicks to compete in the free agent signing market going forward.

It should  be noted that during Thomas’ bacchanalian reign in his executive role with the Knicks, he was also accused of sexual harassment by a Madison Square Garden employee, Anucha Browne Sanders, who accused him of sexual (and non-sexual) harassment. This lawsuit was subsequently settled for $11.6 million, an immense figure for a sexual harassment suit.

To this day, Thomas has taken zero responsibility for the damage he caused the Knicks organization. Just as he denied running the CBA into financial ruin despite damning evidence that that’s precisely what he did, so he’s denied running the Knicks, during his tenure with the team, into the financial icebergs into which he indisputably ran them; and, of course, unsurprisingly, he denied any responsibility in the case of Ms. Sanders, preferring (and yes, this is my editorial position) to scapegoat her in order to protect himself.

In October of 2008, Thomas was hospitalized for an alleged overdosing of Lunesta, the sleep aid. He was reportedly found unconscious at his home, and needed emergency medical attention. Subsequently, he was alleged to have tried to “cover up” this episode by suggesting that it was his teenage daughter, not he, who was hospitalized for this incident, prompting the local police chief, who was also the investigator, to suggest that Thomas had thrown his daughter under the bus. 

In other words, it appears that Thomas may have preferred (and tried!) to deflect the unfavorable attention to himself onto his daughter, who was innocent and vulnerable. But how surprising should even this latest example of the depth of Thomas’s manipulativeness and self-centeredness have been?

After all, Thomas has thrown others in his life “under the bus.” He is reputed to have started rumors that his “best friend,” Earvin “Magic” Johnson, an all-time great NBA player, contracted the HIV virus due to what Thomas maliciously insinuated was Johnson’s bisexuality when, in fact, there wasn’t a shred of evidence to suggest Johnson was bisexual. Johnson has written of his sense of betrayal that his putative best friend drove these rumors. Their once charmingly and publicly close friendship, which was marked by the affectionate kisses they’d plant on each others’ cheeks before intense games against each other as NBA competitors, dissolved on the evidence of Thomas’s treachery.

Johnson has suggested in his biography how difficult it was for him to reconsider the character of Thomas.

Thomas’s ex-coach and Basketball Hall of Famer, Chuck Daly, of the Detroit Pistons, once observed that Thomas could leap from an airplane without a parachute and be expected to land, somehow, unhurt. Ostensibly, Daly was referring to Thomas’s admirable resilience, but what he really was identifying, whether he knew it or not, was less Thomas’s impressive resilience than his capacity to charm his way, snake his way, into one after another opportunity seemingly irrespective of the trail of damage he leaves behind.

Thomas is indisputably a very seductive, charming personality, who exudes tremendous confidence and poise. As famously, brilliantly slippery and smooth as he was on the court, he is just as much so off the court. Thomas’s grin is flawless in its projection of sincerity and playful, innocent mischievousness.

But Isiah Thomas just is not the persona he projects so effortlessly. Beneath his innocent facade is a seriously manipulative personality who has shown a pattern of behaving with defective loyalty, empathy and remorse towards those he’s hurt, damaged and exploited. 

In 2009, after resigning from his position with the Knicks, his reputation having finally taken a serious hit, Thomas finagled yet another seemingly improbable opportunity: he was offered, and accepted, the head coaching reins at Florida International University. This would be his first college head coaching opportunity at a division one school. As usual, Thomas performed flawlessly at the press conference, projecting sincere gratitude for his latest opportunity and asserting his fullest commitment to the program, its players and his future recruits. Thomas sounded as convincing as ever that this was where he belonged, where he wanted to be.

Once again, as his ex-coach Daly had admired, he had landed on his feet with a new opportunity. 

Yet before he’d barely hit the ground running, Thomas was already, according to many legitimate sources, angling for chances to return to the NBA. Hardly established in his new position as FIU’s head coach, Thomas was already self-servingly seeking opportunities to reestablish his NBA employability at the expense of (if not not behind the backs of) the school officials who had just hired, and invested their faith, in him at a time when his personal stock was devalued.

In other words, this was the gratitude Thomas showed his new employers at FIU, virtually flaunting, audaciously and without compunction or shame, his underlying agenda to network himself back in the NBA.

Recently, in an ESPN.com article, Thomas stated on the record that he covets his former job with the Knicks. This is the position his former mentor, Donnie Walsh, who you’ll remember offered him his first NBA head coaching job with the Indiana Pacers, presently holds. Walsh, again you will remember, has spent the last two years undoing the financial damage Thomas caused the Knicks. Yet Thomas is quoted in the article as saying that he thinks about reclaiming his former position (Walsh’s present one) “”¦every day of the week.”

Note that Thomas states this not from a position of unemployment, which would be brazen enough, but rather from his position as employed as the second-year head college basketball coach at FIU!

Howard Beck, a New York Times sports reporter who, in my opinion, has been soft on Thomas in years’ past, finally slams Thomas in a recent piece “The Alternate Universe of Isiah Thomas” (Nov. 6), in which he exposes what I will call Thomas’s sociopathic abdication of responsibility for the false and seemingly self-deluded assertions he makes about his incompetent performance as Knicks’ executive.

Let me be clear: Beck doesn’t suggest Thomas is a narcissist or sociopath. He merely outlines in the article the ways in which Thomas pathologically refuses to account for his past performance as Knicks’ executive.

Beck also addresses the extent to which Thomas holds, unflappably, if not delusionally, to his impunity for his past transgressions and to his fitness to assume new, similar, fresh responsibilities. But again, I would argue that this is less a delusional aspect of Thomas’s personality than it’s a reflection of his seriously narcissistic, even sociopathic, tendencies?

Is Thomas a confident man? Sure of himself? Resilient? Opportunistic?

Perhaps he’s all of these things, and they are qualities that can be admirable. But what Thomas also is—and which turns these admirable qualities into actually destructive ones—is seriously narcissistically personality disordered.

As someone who grew up a big-time basketball fan, and who, like many others, admired his basketball brilliance tremendously, I find it unpleasant to have to come to the conclusion that Isiah Thomas indeed has many sociopathic qualities: he is charming, glib and persuasive; yet he is disloyal, opportunistic, cunning and conniving. Moreover he can be callous and exploitive, seeming to lack empathy and a conscience.

In short, Thomas leads his life with extremely deficient levels of accountability towards those he’s hurt and betrayed.

Thomas’s track record seems to suggest that his “attachments” over the course of his adult life appear to be based on expedience, which is to say that when his attachments no longer benefit him, he appears to be someone who with little, if any, shame and remorse, can easily abandon, detach from, or betray those to whom he formerly professed loyalty.

As I mentioned, Isiah Thomas’s smile can light up, even blind a room, but that “light” appears to be very superficial. Beneath the veneer, inside Isiah Thomas, there appears to be very little light, only darkness. Apparently much darkness. 

(This article is copyrighted © 2010 by Steve Becker, LCSW.)


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Dear Warrior,

GOOD GOING GIRLFRIEND! Keep in mind that a bunch of lawyers are QUACKS so don’t assume yours is doing you a good job, that is part of what is frustrating is that you are not a lawyer and you expect to go to the lawyer and have him/her do what they are paid to do—keep your best interests in mind, and many times they do NOT DO THAT!

I’ve had some “business law 101” courses that have been worth their weight in GOLD to me in finding errors that lawyers made in contracts etc. and WISH I’D HAD MORE training and education plenty of times.

I do know a bit about mortgages and land descriptions though which I picked up because Grandpa did some surveying and egg donor was a CPA and do know a BIT about recording deeds and all that and have been through a divorce (I got financially RAPED by his attorney too but that’s another story) mostly because I was so traumatized and it was all so unexpected etc.

One thing I know is difficult is to FUNCTION while you are in a traumatized state—they know what the hell they are doing and their emotions are not embroiled in it all so they can function fine, but YOUR emotions are traumatized and it is hard for you to keep your head about you—I’ve sure been there and I know EB has as well, she had CANCER during her stuff going on and her kids were kidnapped for 3 months, I can’t even imagine it getting worse than that! She and I are about out of the worst of the TERROR and CHAOS so it is easier for us to sit here and see what might be going on with your lawyer, but believe me, I do NOT trust attorneys in general, though I have found a couple I DO trust that have done me a good job. They aren’t ALL crooks, or incompetents but if it is YOU they are screwing or not working for then it becomes PERSONAL.

I love the way you got in his face, Warrior! That is good, and it does make me feel better (for what that’s worth) that he admitted his ERRORS so maybe he will step up and do what is supposed to be done. I got up in the face of one guy once and asked him “What have you done for me but cash my retainer check?” He admitted “NOTHING,” then I said, “so send it back already!” He did send me my money back.

So hopefully now that you have had the “come to Jesus meeting” with the attorney and he has “repented” maybe just maybe he will do what he is supposed to do.

That Narcissistic land shark my egg donor had represent her when I was trying to get the child sex offender out of her house that beat me up so badly verbally (verbal rape!) came into the local court room the morning my Daughter in law and the Trojan horse sex offender were presented for bail hearing. The judge wasn’t there yet, and only a few people in the court room and egg donor wasn’t there yet, but the prisoners were. Shark had just gotten back from vacation in Florida that day and walked in and saw me there, and said HI and “what are you doing here?”

I pointed over to the DIL and the Trojan Horse Psychopath and said something to the effect that “I’m here to speak to the judge about raising the bail for the DIL and the TH-P who STOLE $24,000 from my egg donor—after YOU fought me about it”

Then he didn’t say much but egg donor came in a few minutes later and he talked to her and ended up getting most of her money back from the DIL who had it in the bank in her own name…at least kept DIL from using it to make bail. It was sort of validating to me that everything I had predicted about the TH-P and the DIL came true PLUS MORE THAN THAT, as they actually tried to kill son C. It was also validating to me that they STOLE from Egg donor after she had accused ME of trying to steal from her. Sometimes we get some validation and sometimes we don’t but we can SAVOR it when we do get it.

I’m glad you put your ADAMANT on and got up in the lawyer’s face. Actually, the thing is I dont’ see ANY benefit to you to get his name off the mortgage for the house at all. As soon as he’s off the DEED, any benefit to him being off the mortgage is to HIM not you. In fact, if there is debtor’s insurance on him, if he were to die, it would pay your house off. AND as long as his name is on the mortgage it is against his credit so it gives YOU a bargaining chip as long as he is on the HOOK for the mortgage payment if you were to not be able to make it.

Keep in mind, you are NOT WITHOUT THAT BARGAINING CHIP.

Also, it depends on the actual worth of the house. Is it worth as much as you owe on it? The market is waaaay down in some areas now where most people owe more on their house than it is worth, so it might be impossible to sell and cover the mortgage. You need to consider what the HOUSE WOULD ACTUALLY SELL FOR, not just what it is “appraised” for.

It might be a good idea to pay for a professional appraisal on your house before you sign anything. I did that on some rental property after my husband died and it cost about $750 per house to have done, but they compare the size, neighborhood, condition, age etc. of the house etc to ones in the area that are sold and what they sold for to your house. You might find your house is a big hole in your assets, and might be worth it to find out EXACTLY what it is worth. If it is not worth nearly as much as you owe, you won’t be ABLE to refinance it or get his name off the mortgage. But in any case, don’t just take what you owe on the house or what you paid for it as the “value”–you might be better off trying to sell it, get out from under the mortgage and getting more money from him. Then buying another place or renting.

If your financial planner hasn’t helped in this aspect you might talk to him/her about it. Good luck. God bless (((Hugs))))

Quote “Thomas’s track record seems to suggest that his “attachments” over the course of his adult life appear to be based on expedience, which is to say that when his attachments no longer benefit him, he appears to be someone who with little, if any, shame and remorse, can easily abandon, detach from, or betray those to whom he formerly professed loyalty”

Sounds just like someone I know who behaves in this exact manner. Amazing.

I agree Genevieve, that quote stands out because it describes all sociopaths in my book. Isaiah is obviously missing his “spath” label but now I have etched a note in my book. The scary part is, I don’t think he will ever know! I remeber watching a movie on television about his home life. He grew up in the ghetto with like 10 other siblings in the house No father and his mother was tuff but loving. His circumstances certainly breeds sociopaths reguardless of how hard his mother tried. Still, no matter how it starts, anyone that shows them sympathy will definately get burned!

Unfortunately too many good women have children by psychopaths who seems to spread their “seed” far and wide, then prance off to let the mothers raise the kids without any help or financial support from the P-sperm donors. Of course not all or even the majority of the children turn out to be psychopaths, but enough do….my P-sperm donor had 4 kids that I know of and 1 turned out to be a psychopath. I know a psychopathic mother who had 5 kids (one was mentally retarded so I won’t count her) but of the other 4, 2 were psychopaths, and two were as good as gold!

I know a gal (not a Psychopath just a nice woman) who has 2 out of 2 psychopathic sons, and one of them had 9 kids by 4 or 5 different women before he was 35. Another one I can think of had 4 kids by 3 women by the time he was 21…

Heard a statistic a while back that said that 25% of the children in public housing in UK have psychopathic fathers….dont know where that stat came from but wouldn’t surprise me one bit.

Sure, lots of psychopaths grow up in poverty, but it is BECAUSE their parents (at least one of them) were psychopaths and wouldn’t work, did drugs/alcohol, and they were raised by someone struggling to put food on the table…numbers of grandparents raising kids in US is sky rocketing too…even great grandparents trying to raise the kids. But I don’t think the poverty itself is what causes psychopathy, though poverty doesn’t help one raise educational or other opportunities, that’s for sure.

I don’t “buy” it that poverty or abuse causes psychopathy…lots of kids grow up poor and/or abused and aren’t abusers themselves. There are plenty of psychopaths who grew up in plenty, with lots of opportunities as well, and threw them away. My own son and my P-sperm donor are two examples of that…but genetics won out.

What you say about Isaiah Thomas is true, supported with much detail. Ordinary people escape such scrutiny. And why is it that these types do have more than 9 lives capable of presenting themselves as good over and over again? But here is your sign – you might be psychopathic, or at least highly narcissistic if you have been seen dancing or watching Dancing With The Stars. Do you think that should be an updated criteria for an abnormal checklist?

Only if your Brandy! 🙂

DancingWarrior:
Why would negotiating at all, in any way, shape or form work with someone who only ever has their best interests at heart? (such as it is…)

I almost laughed at a court conference yesterday, when my x-spath said he was “prepared to settle” for an amount of $ that was around $80,000 MORE than my absolute worst-case scenario would be if it goes all the way to trial, if he runs the perfect case, if they believe all of his lies and none of my truth, if he manages to “magic” up some evidence of the 8,765,342 lies he has so far “sworn to” on paper (so far, he has provided not one scrap of evidence and handed over none of the required disclosure documents; while everything I have stated has had a bank statement, a tax return, a receipt or some other indisputable piece of legally acceptable evidence to accompany it…because…oh THAT’S RIGHT! I’M NOT LYING LIKE HE IS!!!) and if he doesn’t go away for insurance fraud first, which will kind of prove that he’s a liar, won’t it?

I said to the Duty Registrar (Registrars are one step down from a Magistrate over here; Magistrate’s are one step down from a judge) who was running the “negotiations” – and I would consider that a serious offer in WHICH parallel universe? Thanks, but no thanks – I kind of like the idea of a trial.

He is all bully and bluff, trying to scare me into settling because he is paying a big flash lawyer, while I do my own talking and it doesn’t cost me anything but my time…

I read some excellent advice in a Family Law Handbook that I treated myself to (at $70, it was way cheaper than a lawyer – and by the sounds of it, possibly even more reliable!). The advice was to work out your bottom $ line which will typically be at the opposite end of the scale to the opposing party’s bottom $ line. So – when you negotiate (or pretend to), never show your hand and never give a hint of how low you might be prepared to drop. If you would actually settle for 55%, and he is saying he wants 70% (and you to have 30%), start with 75% and drop slowly – say 5% at a time, or not at all after the first drop – let it go back and forth a bit before you move down again. By playing it this way, you are more likely to end up with more than your bottom line than if you drop too much, too fast.

Dear Aussie girl,

We call that “horse trading” here in the South…although there are RULES for HONEST horse trading…one is that you never have to VOLUNTEER information, but if you are ASKED you will answer honestly. So it is up to the buyer (or the other person trading horses with you) to ASK questions…like “does he kick?” No, okay, does he BITE? No, okay, can you catch him in the pasture easily, Yes, okay, will he work to a wagon? plow? sled? etc. on and on. Then the story goes after the trade, the second guy comes back and says WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL ME THE HORSE WAS BLIND? The first guy says, “You didn’t ASK!”

I think you were smart to get the family law book, even if you had hired an attorney because YOU need to know if an attorney is doing their job correctly—and we know they don’t always!

Hang on! Keep on, sounds like you are the ErinB of OZ!!!! You go girl!

Good call, Steve. I just watched a video about him on Youtube, he was being interviewed about the situation between him & Magic Johnson. He kept emphasizing qualities in himself such as “compassionate” and “understanding”… despite the topic at hand ( Magic Johnson’s claim about his spreading rumours). Very odd behavior. He also says “As two african american men” ( In reference to his relationship with Johnson .. while attempting to convey some kind of pseudo-warmth) or something to that nature, as if their being African American has anything to do with the real topic. **Note his glibness.

Note the fake sense of camaraderie, the “knight in shining armor”-esqueness of it all, the lookatmei’msuchanobleindividual-isms… He says in the video,”If Magic Johnson needs me.. I’ll still be there for him.” IE : “Magic, even though I really did spread that rumour, I’m going to sit here and extend to you my *golden* hand in friendship… Now where are my brownie points?”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8z59n2TGnc0&feature=related
Here’s the video if anyone’s interested in watching. He’s a real character.

I’d never heard of him til now, and I’m usually a bit more methodical in discriminating before making a judgement, but his behavior is much too overt to write off.

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