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Jury says Australian man pushed his rich wife off a cliff

This guy was the worst type of sociopathic slimeball. Des Campbell of Australia, a debt-ridden disgraced former policeman, met and married a woman who he called “filthy rich” and “pig ugly” behind her back. Then, when he got all the money he could from her, he took her camping and pushed her off a cliff.

Read Womaniser pushed wife off cliff: jury, on au.news.yahoo.com.

Link submitted by a Lovefraud reader.


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Ox Drover

Typical psychopathic conman whith enough arrogance to think he could get by with it! On that same newspaper there is a link to a WOMAN who killed her 2 sons by using drugs and smotherinjg them to punish her husband—once again proving that a psychopath, regardless of sex, is very capable of murder in the most vile ways. Both of these criimes were in Australia.

Thanks for the link, Donna.

Elizabeth Conley

It is encouraging that the Jury stuck it to this sociopath:

“He (the defense barrister) noted both the crown and defence experts said Ms Campbell could have either tripped or been pushed.

The jury decided on the latter.”

After all, even if he didn’t push her, he did pitch the tent in a very, very dangerous location.

sotired

PLEASE. Help me find a post from someone that described what forgiveness isn’t. Whoever posted it said they didn’t know where they had copied it from, (maybe LF). It ended with a quote from .
This is off topic but I need to read that post. I thought I booked marked it.
Thank you.

learning

Dear Sotired…

I will try to look for it, but also if you Google “what forgiveness isnt” there are so many interesting and informative links…including the 6 myths about giving forgiveness…

learning

Wow… I put those words in the LF search box and this post came up…from Maria Lisa…maybe its what you are referring to?

about forgiveness: i read this great piece about it and i will paste it here for you. i must be honest and say i cannot remember where i copied it from, there is a GOOD chance it might be from the Lovefraud site! ( or maybe its from Eve Wood’s site, i cant remember!!!) Good stuff!!

Forgiving is a decision we make and then gradually follow through, adapting that decision to our own comfort level. It is a decision we make from a position of power over the one thing we truly have power over, our own choices. Especially that supreme choice of where we place our attention.

Forgiving is something we do, knowing that we cannot totally control fear, because our bodies have their own agendas and they will generate fear if they feel it is necessary. So it also involves a deal with our bodies that we will listen to their fear, that we will not become airy-fairy pseudo-Buddhists who try to stuff their fear because they think it’s unfashionable. But we make a deal with our bodies that it’s better for the entire organism if we manage our fear, reducing our investments in fear about things we already know about, and saving our big extravaganzas of fear and anxiety for the surprises.

Forgiving is about trust at two levels. First, trust that certain bad things will happen. We can look at this statistically, if we’re inclined. A certain fraction of people we meet will be destructive emotional cripples. A certain fraction of things we buy will turn out to be unusable junk. A certain number of conversations with our relatives will include uninvited comments about our choices, our characters or our weight. Trusting that these things will happen eliminates the surprise factor and enables us to plan around these statistical likelihoods.

Second, forgiving is also a kind of trophy we get for doing the work and coming out the other side of the trauma processing. In that sense, it is about renewed trust in ourselves and in the universe. What was once a huge deal is now fully digested and just a learning experience attached to some unpleasant memories. We are whole again and on generally good terms with the big intelligence that runs everything.

In all of this, you’ve probably noticed how little I’ve talked about the perpetrator. And I’m sure you understand why. Because this is really something between the various forms of intelligence in ourselves, and it is something between us and the big intelligence that runs everything.

But still we need to get down some practicalities too. So here is what forgiveness is NOT:

• It is not condoning or acceptance of anything we find hurtful, unethical, uncaring or anything else that is bad for us. (We may find ourselves releasing negative feelings about something, when we come to understand why it happened, but we don’t have to. This is not ultimately about them. It is whether we’re ready to move on.)

•It is not about compartmentalizing or denial. We are not “stuffing” it or pretending it never happened. We’re not trying to convince ourselves that we haven’t just been through a battle or deluding ourselves that we’re more powerful than we are. We are just gradually shifting our attention away from it, as we feel comfortable doing so. We are gradually reclaiming our interest in other things.

• It is not a reason for re-involving ourselves with people or situations that hurt us. We don’t forgive so we can jump into that pool again. The only reason we would do that is if we have evolved past the point of being hurt by what hurt us before (something that doesn’t often happen) or if the person or the situation has gone through some kind of cosmic surgery and is now something else. Remember, forgiving comes AFTER we have learned self-protection in the angry phase and let go of whatever got us into this situation. If we forgive because we want to do the same thing all over again ” well, you don’t need me to tell you what you’re volunteering for.

• Likewise, it is not a social cure. If we’re forgiving because we’re embarrassed about being such a bore, or because our bad feelings are alienating our families, or because we want to get along better with people who just don’t get it, we victimizing ourselves all over again. We’re giving away our authority over our own feelings, and trying to force ourselves to feel something we don’t, in order to be accepted. If it’s really important that we not communicate the full force of the outrage or grief we’re dealing with ”“ like in a work situation or in court we can do that. We can selectively choose where, when and how much we share, while we continue to work through our trauma privately. The ability to do this letting some people in and keeping others out is good practice in developing the skills of conditional trust.

• There is no reason that we have to forgive people to their faces or even let them know about it. In fact, if we’re really ready to stop wasting energy, we probably won’t. We don’t just stop bothering with them in our heads; we stop bothering with them in real life. We avoid engagement. If we have to spend energy on some kind of mop-up or dealing with continuing drama from their side, we handle it with an eye toward ending all of it, because we want to be done with it.

Finally, forgiving is not an all-or-nothing thing. Nor is it a carved-in-stone solution. We don’t say, “Oh, I’ve decided it’s not worth caring anymore about what he (or she) did to me, and now I have to not care about the new thing he (or she) is doing to me.” It doesn’t work that way. Forgiving is a way of allocating our own resources. If new circumstances require us to grab a sword and slay a few dragons before dinner, then we do it. After we come home and shower, we can decide whether we’re ready to forgive the loss of our afternoon, or if we need to spend more time processing that little irritation.

And if we absolutely feel like we must announce our decision to forgive to the sociopath, here’s a suggested forgiveness note:

I’ve decided not to give you any more attention. I’m not going to track you down, hire a hit man or sue you for theft or mental suffering. I’ve dealt with my losses by myself. But don’t confuse this with weakness. The next time you show up, it won’t be such a pleasant or profitable experience for you. I also advise you to you grow up, for your own sake. Not everyone is as forgiving as me. As Henry the XV said to a murderous friend, “I pardon you, but I also pardon whoever kills you.”

bulletproof

Donna

Feel upset, and once again need to pause to acknowledge the suffering of that woman who was pushed to her death by someone she most probably adored..as she fell what did she think? could she feel the shock? did she know what had happened? I just want to hold her in a light of love as she falls, and say to her face, it’s not your fault. but for the grace of God go I, really feel for her, really want to acknowledge an innocence and a loving energy being violated by evil…it’s heart breaking, ONLY IF YOU HAVE A HEART

sotired

Learning,
That’s what I’ve been looking for. I googled but didn’t get to it anywhere. Thank you so much. I wanted to print this out again so I can read it when I need it on the spot.

learning

Bulletproof,

For one split second, I went there in my mind… the horror, the fear, the confusion…the sheer shock and disbelief of it all … it is truly heart breaking… these monsters will stop at nothing…they actually think they can get away with ANYTHING. Plotting and planning all the while she was living and loving and giving to – a murderer.

sick…just sooooo sick…

learning

Dear Sotired,

Glad it appeared from using the search box!! Donna IT WORKS!!!!!

bluejay

Even though he is locked up (probably for the rest of his life), it is doubtful that he will ever have remorse over killing his wife. In his mind, people are disposable, to be used for profit. My heart goes out to the victim – what an awful way to die, knowing that you’re plunging to your death. Too bad the killer couldn’t be pushed off a cliff, payback of his crime (s), letting him experience the sheer terror of falling to one’s death.

jeannie812

“Pushed his rich wife off a cliff”.

I gotta comment on this in a very different way.

My son’s dad was trying to push me emotionally off the cliff. He was driving me nuts every day of the week. He even tried to talk me into driving down into a ravine. I am not rich. Yet he saw me as rich because I had a job. Yeah, I made a whole $7.00 an hour.

I think sociopaths are deep seeded mooches who will suck off any life form no matter what the income.

Jeannie

GettingIt

Learning, this definition of forgiveness I can live with. Thank you for posting it.
While Booletproof (not so proof?) feels for the woman, I want to point out that the five years he lived “free and clear” she had been dead. Our laws are broken. Our investigators are not doing a good – enough job (I had one tell me he’s to retire soon and did not want to chase an armed rubber). Our lives went on as this poor woman’s life was shortened.
Can’t forgive this. Why are they still living & breathing? What can we do to educate and prevent? These are remarkable truths we should direct our anger and hurt toward. Not to deny either one of them, but to ensure being heard and listened to.

Dani S

Thanks Donna for posting this… I have been following the case and so very please he was found guilty… Des Campbell is a discusting scum bag and hope his souless being is tormented every day in Prison for what he did to his poor wife…

He didn’t even go to his wife’s funeral and was back on a dating site by that day and took one of his 3 girlfriends away on a trip straight after his wife died…

I saw a taped interview on the TV today of him crying when questioned by police if he murdered his wife… Huge big crocodile tears, oh except there were no tears just a lot of noise/drama that could have been interpreted as someone very upset!

Also in the news was the horrible mother that drugged and killed her 2 boys and got a retrial, her poor husband had to spend another couple of years going through another trial, he said on the news today that she was a manipulative women ( ha, sounds familiar)

And with Donna’s Jim/James what a week to be an Australian!

BTW I got divorced today yay! what a (hell) of a ride my marriage was…… Finally all finished… good riddens evil spath!

Buttons

Dani S!! Congratulations on your divorce! Good riddance to bad rubbish!

ErinBrock

DaniS:
Congratulations on your divorce!!!!
Now….let life begin!
🙂

Up days/years ahead my dear……

bulletproof

DaniS

Yay! congratulations! free at last…to realise your hopes and dreams.

Dani S

Buttons/Erin & Bullet thank you so much for your messages! Onwards and upwards it is another feeling of empowerment another step forward.
I look forward to the next stage, the next chapter…
I still have good days and bad days but the tears have dried and the grey skies are further apart, my heart is still battered but I have so much love and joy around me today and I am smiling….. He cant hurt me ever again and I have my life & my kids and he is no where to been seen… I am happy 🙂

Buttons

Dani S………God love you, girl. Fits and starts, good days and tough ones – it’s all a part of “getting it.” What a delight to read that you’re feeling happy!!! Happy IS GOOD!!! Now, laugh with all of the joy in your heart – Life Is Good.

Dani S

Big HUGS to you Buttons!!!!!! so nice to have a place to go where people (get It)….. xxx

one/joy_step_at_a_time

the original thread – i went to the news article and read that the ‘husband’ had an online presence and therein said that his ‘wife’ was stocking him.

ppath uses this shite ALL the time.

this one is stalking her, that one is stalking her.

GGGRRRRRR.

bluejay

I tried imagining myself standing behind my h-spath at a cliff’s edge and I realized that no matter what, I could not push him off a cliff. Despite all the rubbish that my h-spath has pulled, I am incapable of willingly ending anyone’s life. Something happens inside of me, barring me from doing the ultimate to another person, ending their life. In the end, I am thankful that I have this resistance within me, making it impossible to do the act.

Psyche

Hi Bluejay,

I’m grateful for the same thing, and was just thinking about that this morning when I was watching a film about someone who took vengeance out on her abuser. I couldn’t judge her for it, especially not after what she’d been through, and how awful her abuser was, but I realized vengeance wasn’t for me, partly because it just doesn’t sit right on about 100 different levels with me, but also because taking vengeance seems to me like admitting you’ve lost, and that you’re on the same level as the abusers themselves — like you’ve lost hope of rising above the terrible things that your abusers have done.

Psyche

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