My first book, Love Fraud – How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, tells two parallel stories—the outrageous tale of my involvement with the sociopath James Montgomery, my spiritual journey to understand why it happened, and how it helped me return to wholeness.
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About the book:
What is it really like to be hooked by a sociopath? And if it happens, how do you recover and rebuild your life?
Donna Andersen thought she’d married the man of her dreams. James Montgomery promised her love, wealth and a happy family. But the promises were lies, which cost Andersen almost everything she had—her money, her self-confidence, her identity.
With the skill and lavish description of a fiction writer, Andersen paints a picture of the sociopath spinning his web of deceit. But this story is completely true, and with unflinching honesty, Andersen reveals how she fell for the scam, and her own deep vulnerabilities that made her susceptible to the sociopath’s charms in the first place.
She takes the reader along as she fights on two fronts—trying to hold her sociopathic husband accountable, and trying to reclaim her sense of self. The effort sends Andersen on an unexpected, and somewhat unwelcome, spiritual journey. Slowly, she learns that there is a reason for the experience. It is part of a larger plan.
Love Fraud is more than the story of a woman betrayed—although the depth and breadth of the betrayal is shocking. It is a highly personal account of dealing with, and ultimately overcoming, the betrayal. It is a story of triumph.
Millions of sociopaths live among us, yet most of us don’t know they exist. Donna Andersen was once one of the uninformed. But after her disastrous marriage to a man who she now believes is a sociopath, she has written this book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, to tell the rest of us what they’re really all about.
“It may seem like one of the worst relationships ever. ‘Love Fraud: How Marriage to a Sociopath Fulfilled my Spiritual Plan’ tells of author Donna Andersen’s unique journey with marriage with who she deems a sociopath lead her to a better and more fulfilling life. Strange in concept, Andersen explains her journey well and reminds readers that even when dealing with horrible people, you can emerge successful. ‘Love Fraud’ is a fine read with intriguing ideas, highly recommended.”
—Midwest Book Review
Selected as a “Reviewers Choice” in the Small Press Bookwatch
- Donna Andersen missed many red flags that James Montgomery was not the man he claimed to be. Did the same thing happen to you? Did you believe someone, and then, after learning of lies, wonder why you believed him or her? Why do you think we fall for exaggerations and lies?
- The author describes communicating with “Guidance” through meditation. Who do you think Guidance is? Do you think the messages Andersen received were real? Have you ever received similar messages? How could secular humanist or atheist readers be encouraged by the story?
- Donna Andersen left James Montgomery, but later felt that she couldn’t discuss what was going on in her divorce with her family. Did you have this experience? How did you deal with friends and family who didn’t understand your situation and trauma?
- The author describes visions of several past lives. Do you believe in reincarnation? If yes, have you ever felt that you knew a person or place from a past life? If no, what do you think the author was describing?
- Another of James Montgomery’s victims, Sylvia Banning, initially reported James Montgomery to the FBI. Then, she and Donna Andersen turned over evidence of his fraudulent activities. The FBI was slow to investigate, and when they did, the U.S. Attorney declined to prosecute. How do you think law enforcement views romance scams? Do you think people who engage in romance scams should be prosecuted? Do you think victims of romance scams should be protected or compensated?
- James Montgomery met many of his victims over the Internet. Match.com says that one out of five marriages are between people who met online. What do you think of online dating? Did you meet someone online who turned out to be lying about his or her identity or accomplishments? If you meet someone over the Internet, how do you know if he or she is telling you the truth?
- James Montgomery convinced many people that he had served in the military. How did he do this? In 2006, the Stolen Valor Act became law in the U.S., which made it illegal for anyone to wear or claim military medals that he or she did not earn. Do you think that this law is necessary and appropriate?
- Andersen writes that her soul had a plan for her life, and it included marrying James Montgomery. The experience was intended to be part of her spiritual evolution. Do you think our souls evolve? If so, towards what are we evolving?
- In her divorce, the judge determined that James Montgomery had defrauded Donna Andersen and was responsible for her credit card debt. The credit card companies, however, said that Andersen was still responsible. Do you think laws should be passed or changed so that people have more protection from the irresponsible or fraudulent spending of their spouses? If so, how do you think credit regulations should change?
- Throughout the book, Donna Andersen sought solace from her pets—a dog, hedgehog, chinchilla and sugar gliders. Where do you think pets fit in the web of life? How can our pets help us, and what can we learn from them?
- In the epilogue, Andersen refers to the Law of Attraction—the idea that we create our experiences with our thoughts. She states that the process is not limited to conscious thoughts, but also reflects our energy fields. What do you think about the Law of Attraction? Have you ever seen it work in your life? Do you think the Law of Attraction may be influenced by the lessons we came into life to learn?
- In the epilogue, Andersen writes, “The purpose of everything that happens on Earth is individual growth.” Have you had difficult or traumatic experiences in your life that turned out to be valuable opportunities for growth? If so, how did they change you? If you did not get the happy ending they desired, how could you feel encouraged by this story?
- According to Andersen, the spiritual solution to her battle with her ex-husband was giving up the struggle. Shortly after she did this, she met the man who became the love she always wanted. Are there times when the best answer to our problems is letting them go? If you did this, what happened? How did you feel?
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