Announcing Lovefraud’s program for high school students about sociopaths and teen dating abuse

Thanks to the generous support of Lovefraud readers, our high school education program is underway. Over the last few weeks, I made a presentation called Sociopaths and Abusive Dating Relationships to three groups of New Jersey high school students—about 150 kids in all.

I had their full attention, and that’s putting it mildly. As I talked about my experience of being married to a sociopath, gave examples from the Lovefraud case files, and outlined the warning signs of sociopathic behavior in romantic relationships, I could see the reaction on their young faces: Shock. Incredulity. Horror.

In the end, though, the students realized that they had learned something really important: Sociopaths exist, and they can be anywhere.

I asked students to fill out evaluation sheets after the program, and their opinions were overwhelmingly positive. Here are some quotes:

“I think the presentation was very informative and important to learn about at our age.”

“It was very informative. Will benefit students later when and if they come in contact with a sociopath.”

“It was very interesting and educational. It taught me things I would never know and opened my eyes to reality.”

“I really learned a lot from this presentation. I think this should be taught everywhere to help people understand.”

More importantly, about a half-dozen students came up to me after the presentations. After hearing my information, they realized that they already had sociopaths in their lives.

One talked about a sociopathic mother. Another talked about a sociopathic father. Luckily, both of these teens were living with their healthy parent, and the disordered individual wasn’t a big part of their lives. Knowing what the problem was, however, still pained them.

Several students realized they were already involved in abusive dating relationships, and appreciated my advice for how to end them.

One young man was visibly emotional when he came up to me. He just realized that his former girlfriend was a sociopath. He had been so wrapped up with her, he said, that he wanted to either spend the rest of his life with her, or die. Well, thankfully the relationship ended and he was still there. But he shook my hand three times, grateful that I’d explained what he had experienced.

“Now you know what they are,” I said to him. “You’ll never fall for it again.”

Spreading the word

I am really energized about getting this message out to young people. I’ve taken the first step to publicize the program with a new page on Lovefraud.com. The page provides an overview of the program, and has links to 30 student testimonials from the surveys they filled out, a short YouTube video, and a downloadable information sheet.

You can see the page here:

Lovefraud Education Programs — Teen Dating Abuse

The program is appropriate for high school juniors and seniors. If you would like to bring it to a school near you, please contact Terry Kelly at [email protected]



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PS: I’m really excited for you all to make it over here to west coast. The high school my son’s attend would so benefit. The school is ginormous!


This is truly amazing! That has been one of my dreams for as long as I learned what a sociopath is. Unfortunatly…but thank god…my 4 kids DO know what a sociopath is and will now have the knowledge to run the other way and I want this for all kids!! I would love to give a presentation all over schools in Massachusettes….If they kids today learn about this…since even attorneys and judges dont seem to fully “get it” even remotetly…they can someday be isolated and have to live on their own island like the lepers of the past and they can extinguish themselves out…at least for now!! Count me in..I lived it…and still living with the aftershock…still going to court after getting out 2 years ago..I lost everything I ever worked for and am struggling to raise my kids on my own…It was never a struggle before! The world should know!!!!!

Lesson Learned and Donna…great about expanding to more presenters, Donna! And lesson learned, I agree that it is needed in DV places, and the staff there too. As we know, repeating a hook-up with a sociopath happens, if one doesn’t know who and what they are!

This is SO important! This is wonderful, and such an amazing success, to even get this going. I feel like the word is such a taboo, learning as early as possible to realize, and know HOW to react to individuals who exhibit these traits is so important. The earlier the better!!! Beautiful kudos. Please let me know if I can help in any way. I have years and years of web and writing experience.

Does your training program contain anything about psychopathic teachers, coaches, or other adults who target children via their professions?

Right now, our high school has a female teacher on paid leave because of reportedly sleeping with a senior – again.

There seems to be a lot of that in the news lately, female teachers sleeping with students.

At our middle school, a male teacher was let go a few years ago for being sexually inappropriate with a female student. He is now a convicted and registered sex offender.

I assume that there are teachers and guidance counselors present for your workshop. Maybe if you include information about adult sexual predators who target children, it might raise their awareness.

Do you include a section on sexual predator “grooming techniques”?


I would love to help launch this in my area. Please put me on the list…thanks.


There is a great blog called “female offenders” that you can link to through Love fraud “blog roll” that might give you some good information as well.

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