Major Lovefraud upgrade this weekend

To all readers: Lovefraud will undergo a major upgrade over the weekend, and will be unavailable. We’ll shut down approximately 9 a.m. tomorrow (Saturday), and will be back up Monday, better than ever.

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I have been on this journey for years. I met my spath in 08 and figured out he is a spath in 09. I am still working on it.

Can I say something? It is SUPER HARD to see the spathy traits when they are in your face very day. They get lost in the mundane facts of life. But if you step back – WHOA – it becomes even more clear. You can see it more clearly in OTHER relationships than you can in your own.

I don’t believe anybody with “spathy traits” would be lead to this site. He is probably a full blown spath, and you’re still in denial, or, maybe you’re just too close to see it clearly.


I left 1 and half yrs ago…..we have 3 kids he has 2 of them and now will not let me see them one is 15 the other 7….never in my wildest dreams did I think I would ever be separated from my kids…he knows this is my weak point we used to talk about how we would deal with things if we split 🙂 mumma bear is well an truly out…. but ill stop myself there! I agree totally with not seeing things until you step away….my problem is “he has my babies and how and when so you stop fighting for THEM????????????

What he has done especially since I left is incomprehensible and at this point he has everyone thinking I am “crazy” even my own damn mother who I live with….

I have a mountain as massive as Everest, I am dealing with him, his mother, brother and 3 of his sisters…..all sociopaths! I have NO hope right? Well I think I do and I know, I just know I WILL WIN! However I am petrified that the worse is YET to come…..

I am on the hunt for a therapist whom A. I can record my sessions with B. WHO LISTENS and “gets it” and C. Help me write a book
This spans for me 17 yrs for them and the mother a life time…..and to my knowledge consists of all but murder!

I thought things were bad for me until I read your ‘former’ plight. Six sociopaths? I guess you could say my whole family consists of them. My mother also was a very disordered and unhappy woman. I am in therapy with a social worker but not sure she is right for me. She expects me to “put it behind me” or “do something every time one of ‘them’ gets into my head.” I believe you have to confront, not ignore or try to forget the evil that was done to you.
She is a cognitive behavioral therapist so I question if this is the right path for me to be on. I told her that my parents did not bother me in my 30’s and that they were included in many of my social events, which were few. It is hitting me now…full force…at age 61 what happened to me and how it dominates my life.
Anyone? Would like an opinion on the right therapist…do you think she is on the right track?


I was married to the “P” for 31 years, left in August after he tried to kill me. fled with the clothes on my back to another state. Thank G*d that I did not have minor children, mine are adults now. You are in the right place- your story will be reflected in so many other’s here. Some of them married the “P”, others just lovers/friends. Whatever way they were impacted- we have all been left feeling abused and tramatized.

Welcome and ((HUGS))

I will be eternally grateful to LF and it’s support when I needed it.
farewell to old gang, I will always remember you..
…… hens, henry, moondancer, and the wiener’s send cyber hugz to all……
“‘if it aint broke dont fix it ”

Oh Hens–please stop by sometimes? I feel so sad you’re going…you will be truly missed. I’ve been here since 2008 but rarely post…LF won’t be the same without your gentle voice and laugh out loud wit. Peace to you.


I’m sad. A lot of good ones have gone…it’s something to mourn about. I miss you, too.

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