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Mental health professionals: Here’s the training you never received about antisocial personality disorder, narcissism and psychopathy

“Crazy-making” that’s how people describe involvements with those who have narcissistic or antisocial personality disorders, psychopathy, and even borderline personality disorder.

After enduring deception, manipulation, bald-faced lies and gaslighting, people who are in these relationships often feel like they’re losing their minds. What they need most is someone who believes their stories and can tell them what is going on. So they go for counseling.

Unfortunately, many times they discover that the therapist really doesn’t understand what they are talking about.

Over the years, I’ve heard this from countless people who have been targeted by exploiters.

In fact, I’ve heard from therapists and other mental health professionals who themselves were hooked into involvements with personality-disordered individuals. They say that nothing in their training prepared them for the experience.

So the question needs to be asked: Why not?

How can psychologists, social workers, and other mental health professionals go through years of training, yet not know what to do with a client who is agonizing over someone who continuously proclaims love but behaves with cruelty? Or when they come across a charming liar themselves?

No one really knows why this happens, but I’ll take a few guesses.

Disordered don’t seek therapy

First of all, people who have antisocial or narcissistic personality disorder, or psychopathy, feel just fine, thank you very much. They don’t see anything wrong with themselves, so they don’t go for treatment. Clinicians, therefore, almost never see personality-disordered individuals in their offices, and therefore have no experience with them.

Only therapists who work in prisons, or deal with clients who are ordered into therapy by the courts, come across antisocials, narcissists and psychopaths.

But these disordered individuals are the ones whose behavior crossed the line, so that the authorities sent them to jail or treatment. Manipulators who are smart or controlled enough to fly under the radar such as the 3.5 percent of corporate executives who are psychopaths, according to Dr. Robert Hare don’t show up in a counseling office.

Unless their spouses drag them in. When that happens, the disordered person presents as cool, calm and collected, while his or her spouse is in meltdown. Therapists are frequently charmed, and conclude that the angry or weeping spouse is the one with the problem.

Skewed research populations

Almost all research on adult personality disorders is done using two populations: prisoners and college students. Why? Because those are the populations that researchers can access.

These groups do not represent the full range of disordered behavior. Prisoners broke the law and got caught. Students are usually young, and early in their careers as exploiters. Disordered adults who have years of experience getting away with their manipulations are not included in the research samples.

Consequently, some commonly held tenets of disordered behavior likely wrong, especially regarding antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy:

They are likely to have criminal records.
What about all those psychopathic corporate executives? These people usually manage to stay out of prison, at least until they decimate the entire company.

They abandon their young.
What about all the abusers who fight for custody of their children?

They don’t form lasting relationships.
I’ve heard from scores of people who only discovered after 20 or more years of marriage that their spouses lead totally double lives.

Protective filters

Maybe mental health professionals don’t understand exploitative personality disorders because something even more basic is at work. It seems to me that society in general just doesn’t want to acknowledge the fact that human predators live among us.

The concept that millions of people are not interested in trust and cooperation, but instead want power and control, and that these people blend so easily into our communities it’s frightening. When information threatens our sense of safety and predictability well, maybe we just want to tune it out.

But when it comes to exploitative personality disorders, ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance creates a target.

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As a nurse I reported a unemployed dangerous man in a Housing situation the hospital owned, they did nothing ,I packed and left. When I filed a law suit the hospital turned me into the board of nursing SIX months later. His friends wrote letters for him with buss words, bizarre, crazy, hysterical, stalked him. Because of their accusations the Board ordered a psych eval, he determined that since I needed six months of counseling for an alleged incident as a child 5 decades earlier that I would not be safe to practice! I had not idea he was a Court Whore for the Board. A prof Hake , so now what do you do when the psychologist is the sociopath? I worked for 25 years in nursing and no problems. The psychologist said couseling because he knew that would get me probation, and it is what the board wanted. I put the puzzle together, the board the administration, at this hospital, in fact one member of the hospital was on the board and allowed to vote against me. This psychologist also “predicted” future behavior, stating such things as “triggers” can happen. But there was no incident of me doing anything ever. I refused to go to counseling for something that never happened (he wrote do sexual abuse, when I was beat up by a brother as a kid) SO basically I am being punished for something some else did to me as a child. When this point was raised, the pres of the board said” I cant help the way you were raised” the v pres , said “we are only doing this for your own good” The judge in the case did not sign the probation, he passed it on to anther judge who passed it on to a third judge. The 3rd judge the pres the v pres the board member from this facility are all members of a cult. I dont think the psych is but he was paid by the board to do the eval. I have since lost my nursing license for failure to have counseling ,when I still feel violated by this psychogist, like being raped mentally and labeled, a stigma placed on me. thank you for this blog.


Basically I believe that he is a sociopath to give a rediculous opinion for money. He was paid $1400 by the state for the eval, and $600 hour to testify. ANd he was allowed in the court room the entire trial as a witness!
I hope that there is a list somewhere we can post the quacks, I did turn him over to CCHR he is on that list.

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