The sociopathic MO
I have a friend who lost his wife to cancer a year ago. He’s recently started going out in search of companionship. He knows my history of being involved with a sociopath, in fact, he knew my ex, James Montgomery. So when he had a bizarre experience with woman he dated for a few weeks, my friend had questions for me.
The woman claimed to be separated from her husband, although I’m not sure that was the case. She pursued my friend relentlessly, until they had sex. At some point, she made a comment about “a lion needs fresh meat.” After that, they spent an entire day together, then she unceremoniously dumped him.
My friend asked, was this woman kooky like my ex?
He told me more, and it sounded like the woman had sociopathic traits, although perhaps not the full-blown disorder. So we’ve been discussing this personality type. One conversation went like this:
My friend: “What’s the first thing sociopaths do when they meet you?”
Me: “Evaluate you to see if you have something they want.”
My friend: “What’s the second thing they do?”
Me: “Look for your vulnerabilities.”
That’s it, the sociopathic MO, or modus operandi. First, do you have something he or she wants? Second, how can they manipulate you to get it?
Feeding opportunities
Here is the brutal truth: Sociopaths view the world as predators and prey—they are the predators, everyone else is prey.
Here’s another brutal truth: Sociopaths view all social interactions as feeding opportunities.
So what do they want from their targets? In many cases, the answer is obvious—sex, money, a place to live, someone to support them.
But we also have to remember that sometimes, sociopaths just want entertainment. They want the fun of manipulating someone into doing what they want. They get a rush from getting over on their targets. These cons feed their primal desires that I’ve written about before—the desires for power and control.
My friend is shaking his head over the encounter with the predator female. Like all of us, he’s having a hard time coming to grips with how soulless these people truly are.
Donna Andersen is author of three books, including 
Learning…..
Ya gonna join me in the garden dear?
learning,
believe me, it was not my intention to bring up bad memories to anyone here.
mine is unfortunately, a reality, your poor mothers might have been hallucinatory or something, i am just guessing, no harm or offense intended.
i need all the luck i can get, on this one, and publicity would be a great help too.
just think, why have me put into a mental home and killed, not because i have mental health problems, to keep my story from coming out, why the hit and run to kill me, same thing.
EB… Its raining here and I am dealing with self-tanning lotion gone orange …on my very fair skin ! My sister sold me on the Jergens lotion after I swore I would never ever use it! She said “it will be a nice light golden glow”…. yeah right… I more look like an oompa loompa or a FLYERS souvenier!!!! LOL… Another shower tonight and hopefully Ill be more into the yellow tones at least!!! Going to do some indoor potting and pruning of my topiaries tho 🙂
Anneka – No harm done or offense taken…my Moms story is a novel in and of itself..mostly twisted truthes and inaccurate sense of reality. Again, best of luck to you on your journey.
Learning…..YOUR SCREWED!!!!!
You’ll have to loofa off a layer of skin before that fades……
Sorry….but I’m laughing…it reminded me of the first time I used the tanning lotion….I thought….oh,nobody will be able to tell…..
I was going on a cruise with my gf. First day we were at the pool and she said…..OH, ya didn’t loofa before you applied the lotion! I was shocked….because she wasn’t supposed to be able to notice…..I said…what do you mean…..she pointed at my knees, palms and elbows and said…ya gotta loofa and nail brush it off those areas….
I looked down and saw my knees 10 shades darker orange than my body….like i had been crawling around in clay.
Then….in the pictures….it was hilarious……my knees and palms and elbows looked bruised like I fought for my life!
I never used that stuff again…..I guess we all have our tanning moments!!!!
Scrub away girl……. 🙂
And make sure those topiary’s are nice and shorn.
HAHA HA Erin …. sooooo can relate! This stuff is a total nightmare!!! Yep…got the blotchy spots too and great big orange divider line down the inner thighs and inside arm where i didnt go all the way around with the lotion…. oh and youll love this I stopped at my ankles…so I have bright white feet and maybe an inch of my leg up is an uneven white!!! LOL And how could we forget to mention the smelllllll??? I told my sister “porcelain” skin is the new IN!!!
And bronzer powder does wonders too – in a pinch! Thanks for the laugh! Off to loofa 🙂
I AM ROTFLMAO….in tears!!!!
No….THANK YOU for the laugh!!!
Dear Learning and ErinB,
Ah yes, the “healthy glow” of your ORANGE SKIN, sort of makes you look like a….wellllll…..can’t think of the word…. but maybe some kind of SEA CREATURE pushed out of the gulf from way down DEEP from the oil plumes! LOL Yea, I don’t think I will try that one. I look like one of those spotted eggs they use on the skin cream ads from my PAST EXPOSURE to the real sun! Slather on that sun screen ladies, and you’ll be glad you did!!! If I get any more brown spots I’ll look like a wrinkled PINTO PONY!!!
I need to do some gardening too but I think as hot as it is I’ll go lay on the couch with a good book and a fan instead!!
Oh, gosh……I went oar-eenge only once. I figure, I’m light enough to be clear, so I wasn’t meant to have that savage tan! 😀