I have a friend who lost his wife to cancer a year ago. He’s recently started going out in search of companionship. He knows my history of being involved with a sociopath, in fact, he knew my ex, James Montgomery. So when he had a bizarre experience with woman he dated for a few weeks, my friend had questions for me.
The woman claimed to be separated from her husband, although I’m not sure that was the case. She pursued my friend relentlessly, until they had sex. At some point, she made a comment about “a lion needs fresh meat.” After that, they spent an entire day together, then she unceremoniously dumped him.
My friend asked, was this woman kooky like my ex?
He told me more, and it sounded like the woman had sociopathic traits, although perhaps not the full-blown disorder. So we’ve been discussing this personality type. One conversation went like this:
My friend: “What’s the first thing sociopaths do when they meet you?”
Me: “Evaluate you to see if you have something they want.”
My friend: “What’s the second thing they do?”
Me: “Look for your vulnerabilities.”
That’s it, the sociopathic MO, or modus operandi. First, do you have something he or she wants? Second, how can they manipulate you to get it?
Feeding opportunities
Here is the brutal truth: Sociopaths view the world as predators and prey—they are the predators, everyone else is prey.
Here’s another brutal truth: Sociopaths view all social interactions as feeding opportunities.
So what do they want from their targets? In many cases, the answer is obvious—sex, money, a place to live, someone to support them.
But we also have to remember that sometimes, sociopaths just want entertainment. They want the fun of manipulating someone into doing what they want. They get a rush from getting over on their targets. These cons feed their primal desires that I’ve written about before—the desires for power and control.
My friend is shaking his head over the encounter with the predator female. Like all of us, he’s having a hard time coming to grips with how soulless these people truly are.
buttons,
i think my good friend diagnosed the executor as such, and i googled, as i usually do, and it led me to websites in america, where a lot more is known about this than here in the uk.
Anneka – I suggest you ACTUALLY contact them about what they CAN do before you write them off. Let us know how you get on:)
blueskies,
as i mentioned, they do not advise on criminal law or wills and trusts, so i dont think they could help, i looked at the website.
Anneka, you won’t know until you CONTACT someone. Looking at a website isn’t getting “information,” only a cursory overview.
All they can do is say, “no, we can’t help you.” But, what if they follow that up with, “But, we DO know someone who CAN?” How will you even know if you just keep dismissing everything as utterly useless? You don’t **have** to do anything, but it sure wouldn’t hurt to try.
buttons,
ALL RIGHT, ALL RIGHT, BEFORE I GET A KICK IN THE CPU, i emailed MIND and said
“i was harassed by the executor to my parents estate, who once had me committed by having me harassed without proof, evidence or witnesses, while there, another of his agents tried to drown me in the bathtub, but was unsuccessful, another attempt was made in the form of a hit and run, which also failed.
i know i will be turned down as i do not have a mental health problem, i just want help to get out of this, but i will not get it here.
if you can point me towards where i can get out of this, it would be appreciated.”
i dont think they can help, as i do not have a mental health problem, just abuse and i need help to get out of.
Dear Anneka,
Anneka, we would like to be able to be supportive and helpful to you, but apparently we have no idea what it is that you are wanting for us to do.
What would YOU like for us to do to help you? We have all given you suggestions for things to try to do, and you either don’t like any of them or dismiss them out of hand. If you will tell us what you would like for us to do for you, if we can do it, we will, but apparently none of our suggestions have been of any help to you.
ox,
if i could, i would like you all to spread my story around for me, in your country, wherever you are everybody, any way that you can think of, tv stations, radio station, newspaper, talk shows, whatever is applicable in the country of the reader, see, i am truthful, the executor is not, i tell the truth about everything, myself included, he does not, a libel suit will involve him getting exposure in some form, i dont think he would risk this, i am deliberately looking for exposure, for i have NOTHING WHATSOEVER to hide, he obviously does.
if i had my way, this is what you all would do for me, but as you have wills and minds of your own, i can only hope this will be done for me.
Anneka, I won’t ever tell another person’s tale. The reason is quite simple – I wasn’t there, I did not have the experience, and for me to talk for someone else would simply be heresay. I can relate what I know to be factual, but I can’t possibly speak for another person. The story must come from your lips, Anneka – from you, alone. And, only you have the power to facilitate a change – others can help you along the way, but no human being has the power to fix this for you or to force your feet to take steps on your healing path.
Brightest blessings.
Hey guys….Did anyone see the Laker game last night…..
THey’ve been kicking some butt!
I’m heading off in a bit to do some gardening. Wish you all could join me….it’s a beautiful day in my neighborhood.
(Hey…..wasn’t that a song)
🙂
Erin – Yes thats Mr. Fred Rogers song.. he would come on after Sesame Street!!!! Not following the Lakers as much as THE BUTT KICKING FLYERS!!!!!!!! Tonight is do or die for us!!! GO FLYERS!!!!
Definitely have been reminded of my Mom with regard to recent posts… same thing happened to her – phones being tapped, people trying to kill her, her grandmothers estate being kept from her and executor selling everything that belonged to her, etc. etc. Every waking moment of hers was devoted to getting the word out too…Gave me chills to read it.
Unfortunately for you, Anneka, it appears to be reality… for my Mom it was something else. I wish you, Anneka, all the best and hope you find a resolution and peace. Its been many many years you have been dealing with this. Starting back in 1992. Good luck to you.