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UK journalist writes about her experience with a con man

A few weeks ago a Swiss man, Helg Sgarbi, pleaded guilty to swindling Germany’s richest woman, BMW heiress Susanne Klatten, out of $9 million. The story was all over the news around the world.

The incident prompted a British journalist, Rachel Royce, to write about her own experience with a con man. Royce writes for the Daily Mail in the UK. One of our Lovefraud readers forwarded a link. Read the story at:

You don’t have to be a BMW heiress to fall for a charming conman—just desperate and lonely, like me

For many of us at Lovefraud, the story is so familiar.

The good news is that the story is being told. Many of us know the humiliation of being conned. And many people before us also knew the humiliation, but were too embarrassed to speak about it. As more of us tell our stories, general awareness of human predators is being raised, whether we call them sociopaths, psychopaths or simply conmen.

Susanne Klatten and Rachel Royce: You go, girls!

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Yesterday I spent recounting the humiliating details of my psychopathic encounter- I have much respect for this woman.
Sharing your pain and gullibility is humbling, but does wonders for other survivors and hopefully the naive public.

Thank you Rachel Royce


I also applaud the journalist for telling her own story of a lessor con (amount of moneywise, I mean). The comments section under both articles is the really interesting part, especially the comments under the BMW heiress article.


Although big money scams grab the headlines and kudos for raising the profile of the sociopath/conman, really those that don’t make headlines–the woman who is living off of say 15,000 or 20,000 bucks a year and is scammed out of “only” 1000, although it doesn’t make headlines, really in her situation the financial devastation can really have more of an impact on her lifestyle and ability to survive than the big money ones.


I had dinner with a friend the other night and she started telling me about a friend whom I believe is clearly involved with a socipathic conman.

What made me come to the conman conclusion was when I started hearing about how her friend can recite chapter and verse all the regulations and requirements of his business. A little bell went off in my mind.

My friend continued to describe various aspect of the pity play this guy was running when I heard — “Poor [sociopath]. He had to go out and replace a $5000 dollar piece of equipment.” A bigger bell went off as I thought “This is commercial equipment. There are repair men who turn these repairs around on a dime. Nobody goes out and replaces stuff like this.”

Then I learned that her friend has had her salary reduced significantly and is suffering severe financial reverses. Big Ben chimed and I asked my friend – “When did the devalue and discard start?” She said “The day X told him her financial situation.”

That’s when I hear a whole carrillon of bells start chiming and I told my friend “X has lent him money. I suspect a whole lot of money. And now that the well is dry, he’s moving on.”

My friend thought about it a moment and said “you’re right.”

When I read the link, all I thought was “same church, different pew.” Change a few facts and situations, it’s the same story, all over again Matter of fact, it is my story, all over again.


Hi all, My con was a little bit different so I will share the short version. My P had LOTS of $$ and was successful in business. Despite he being criminaly investigated, then acquitted, I believed his “following orders, good soldier” story, believed that his ex was unblanced (which she was – now I get why) and fell for the pity play. We married, had two kids and lived that large life. Then came another serious “investigation” and he lost his career. Moved us away, “too get a better education for the kids” etc.

Cut to the chase, 27 years later, when the torment and chaos has taken it’s toll for years I finally kick him out.

Well, he was generous in the beginning, because he needed a cover, A) to sheild his assets from the tax dept. and others, b) to hide his gay inclinations.

The devalue and discard phase was a very long slow process of emotional abuse and manipulation, almost exclusively about $$ etc.

Having now gone back over the details, he stole plenty especially in the last 4 years. Prior to that he took money out of my business that he claimed was not profitable (he was the wiz bang – I let him do the books)

The purpose of my sharing this is that sometimes the con is not as straight forward as taking directly. Any kind of favor along the lines of sheltering assets etc. should be closely examined. Sure it makes business sense in some marriages to have everything in the wife’s name. But look closely.

I have been devastated financially and have no clear way out, despite my best efforts to date. I have managed to build a case against him, and hope to have my day in court. Without funds, I will need to represent myself. I feel I have no option but to try, having finally seen the man without his mask.

Lovefraud is still my daily med. to keep me strong and focused.

Peace to all,


Yes, this does sound familiar, sadly. I was lonely & desperate too, still am! But one of the comments a reader posted said something about alarm bells should go off if someone asks for money, that one I actually already figured out! I am glad she wrote about it, VERY courageous! I won’t even talk about it to anyone. I wish I had read a lot of articles like this when I was younger so I would have had a clue. Hopefully we will see some articles like this in the US in some of the women’s magazines!! I don’t recall seeing any before, they should be in there every month!

Ox Drover

I wish she had called him a PSYCHO/SOCIO-PATH though.

This woman is courageous for telling her story in the main stream press and she deserves a big HIGH FIVE!


Con men seem to be very much in the news these days! From Swiss heiresses to Bernie Madoff, it’s clear they are everywhere in all different shapes and sizes. One thing we can all take comfort from is that we are not alone in being conned – it can happen to anyone and our stories may save others from the same fate.

Jim in Indiana USA

Like Matt said, “Same church, different pew…” It isn’t the size of the “score” or just money…it’s the game. A predator after prey. The hunt, the capture, sucking the target/victim dry of whichever “supply” can be had. Then devalue and discard…but always checking back to see if anything was missed or recovered, no matter what time has passed.


Has anyone ever gotten any laws passed to protect “US” from these preditors? Matt, You may have some insight here. I am hoping to have lunch with a Senator from my state sometime during the next session. I am currently proceeding with Bankruptcy (due to the $600k deficit my husband= S left me in), but am hoping to get it reversed if possible after the indepth investigation now ongoing re: my S.

Craig B.

Cold-Hearted Tricksters Among Us, James K. Olson @

I’ve been reporting on a bigamist, one James “Jim” K. Olson. Cheaters Among Us, James K. Olson @ and and Also Gun Controllers Among Us, Marin County California Courts @, and where the victim of bigamy files for divorce in Reno, Nevada since that’s where they lived and owned several Nevada houses with Nevada owners or landlord’s Farmers Insurance on them in the title of a Nevada Living Trust but the Reno judge dismissed her divorce action she filed when she found out about her husband’s bigamy. The Reno judge, Frances Doherty, said California had to handle the divorce although no property was owned in California.

Secrets Among Us, Marin County, CA’s James K. Olson @

In my research, I found that the Reno Mrs. Olson is not compulsive, delusional or obsessive. Rather what I found is puzzling, saddening and infuriating that law and justice are arbitrary, changeable, susceptible to the lies and deceit of lawyers and the whims of the judges, defined by mere commercial expediency. Surely the world is ran by higher priorities than deceit and whims and California’s commerce?

Surely it not. Why should anybody be allowed to retain obsolete fashion? Truth and justice must go. They went. California’s commerce and conversance must be served. Lawyers and judges are whores.

The Reno Mrs. Olson protested mightily. But there is a war on, don’t you know? Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson’s War. Mr. Olson’s War to impose silence, destruction, death and annihilation on his Reno Mrs. Olson. Mr. Olson’s conflict is desperate. Evidence for the justification for Mr. Olson’s War is non-existent, but anything can be put over by deceitful smug lawyers when there is a lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent judge.

You listening Nevadan Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook? Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook are the lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent Reno Californicated judges that both threw a Nevada citizen to the California whores and under the wheels of the California bus (DV 07-00352 and FV 07-00748). Let’s see if Reno Nevadan Judge Brent Adams or Judge Greg W. Zive are as lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent Californicators (CV 08-01067 and BK 08-51146). You listening Nevadan Judge Brent Adams? You listening Nevadan Judge Greg W. Zive? You listening Nevadans Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook?

With great amusement do I point out that Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson hides his bigamy, Reno Nevada homeowners and landlord’s insurance, Nevada Trust, Reno Nevada ownership of house, etc. under his hairshirt. Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson emphasizes his lie he’s an innocent victim rather than the truth. Jim Olson and his Marin County, California lawyer buddies, Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels victimized the Reno Mrs. Olson, forging her into a twisted bogeyman. Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson’s California lawyer buddies, Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels, kept whipping the disobedient Reno Mrs. Olson into judicial line when she failed to follow their orders to just shut up and go quietly away.

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