Woman with restraining order was arrested when ex violated it

The Denver City Council voted to pay $175,000 to settle a lawsuit filed by a woman who was wrongfully arrested.

In February 2006, Amy Shroff had a restraining order against her ex-boyfriend. When the man violated it, Shroff went to the police station for help. She was arrested instead.

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I can definitely relate to this. I had a PO on the SP once; he violated many times, but stupid me, only had him arrested twice. The second time when he violated it was a phone call he made to me. The police didn’t even want to arrest him for that. The remark made to me was, what’s one phone call?” Another time I called the police on him because he threatened to kill me and my senior citizen neighbor who was trying to help me and yelling at the SP to get away from my door and leave me alone. The police arrived; I told them what he did and that I wanted him arrested. He was arrested for “breach of peace” only. They arrested me too for failure to appear in court the year before. This was already nollied ? spelling, because I was in the hospital and the time, it was dropped. Well because they didn’t have it in their pc yet, they arrested me too. GET THIS: They took me to the police station in my pajamas on a winter night. Then they drove to his apt. (there were two cars). I waited in that car about 30 minutes with hot heat blasting on me, sick to my stomach, while they went to take the SP out. Both officers came out of his apt WITHOUT HIM!!! HE WON AGAIN!!! So I pitched a fit and wanted to know why he wasn’t coming to the station too,, etc.The sergeant in charge yelled at me so loudly, he scared me to the point that I almost went to the bathroom in my pants. He yelled at me, “Don’t tell us how to do our job…if you don’t shut up, I’ll put you in that cell until Monday when you have to go to court. I was upset because this was totally unfair and they treated me like the criminal AGAIN!!! As of today; I’ve been dealing with the same police department for 6 years. Not only did they arrest me, but they took mug shots, fingerprints, HANDCUFFED me to a table, flung a book at me across the table. I didn’t know what was happening. I had never been arrested until I got involved with this SP and it was because of lies he told them, and now this time, because their computer data wasn’t up to date. I didn’t know what the book was for so I asked, and they told me to “pick out a bails bond.” I didn’t even know what to do, how to pick one out, etc. Of course, they were no help at all. Finally, I picked somebody’s name and called him; I honestly didn’t know what I was doing. Then my 84-year-old neighbor who tried to help me and was threatened by the SP too walked across the street to the police station (right across the street) to see if I was okay. They wouldn’t let him see me. He was so upset because of the way they were treating me. He tried to explain that I had serious medical problems and I needed to take my meds. Plus I knew that if I didn’t take any meds, I would not only get physically sick, but I would start having panic attacks, and believe me, I was panicking. Finally, I got out of there. They didn’t even give us a ride. We walked in the middle of the night in the snow and ice. He did not appear in court that Monday, but HE DID NOT GET ARRESTED FOR FTA. My niece, who is a detective in another town, unfortunately, took me to court. I was petrified. I could go on and on about the terrible experiences I’ve had with the police over the past 6 years, but I won’t, for your sake and mine, I get so angry and frustrated, helpless, hopeless, depressed and sick to my stomach. I’ll end with this: About three weeks ago, I asked for copies of all police reports for the past two years only that had to do with the SP and me. It costs me a lot of money. Talk about getting sick to my stomach and getting very, very angry!!! Out of 36 reports, only 4 of them were correct (4)!!! There are so many lies on there about me; I am NOT lying. I know this sounds so crazy and far-fetched and probably like I am the SP, but I SWEAR TO YOU THAT I AM NOT LYING!!! The four were from one female police officer who helped me twice, another female police officer who helped me once, and a male officer. There were reports missing because some of them were not filed, especially the one where one police officer threatened to take me to the psych hospital if I called the police on the SP AGAIN!!! One time he stalked me, followed me to my apt, put his whole body against my door so I couldn’t get in, threatening me, etc…I ran to a neighbor’s and called the police. They didn’t arrest him that day either. They didn’t even go talk to him, and, get this one, the officer wrote on the report that “I walked by his house, he invited me in for a piece of cake, I didn’t want to go, so that is why I called the police!!!” That NEVER HAPPENED. I am so angry about all these lies and the way they have treated me all these years. One of them called me a whore. I was assaulted last month by the SP’s friend for no reason at all, threatened by his brother and yelled at by his girlfriend with the most disgusting language and phrases that shocked me. I am not a prude, but I can’t believe that a woman would say the most disgusting things she said. So now, I don’t know what to do. I need help – a lawyer – that I cannot afford. It’s me against the police department. I wrote to my state rep, she forwarded theletter to the Chief – nothing, except being called a whore and not arrestting his friends for assaulting me, etc. (after the letter). I want justice. I want all those reports changed. What I, my family, friends, neighbors, etc. do NOT understand if that almost every single cop who I’ve dealt with, and had witnesses, said, “we hate him, there is not one officer who likes him, we all hate his guts, he’s crazy, he is a loser, he’s this, he”s that, he’s dangerous, stay away from him, take out restraining orders, protective orders, etc………………,”all of which I did, BUT WHY DON”T THEY ARREST HIM ALL THE TIMES HE SHOULD BE ARRESTED AND WHY DO THEY TREAT ME LIKE A NUTCASE CRIMINAL, PATHOLOGICAL LIAR, SP THAT HE IS?? NOBODY GETS IT!!! I’ve tried to move for the past four years, believe me, but I haven’t found a place I can afford, and there is nowhere for me to go as far as family members. I don’t know what to do. Does anyone have any advice as to what I can do, as far as legally, if I can change these records, does LF know lawyers who help victims pro bono or at a low fee; I want justice. I and others believe that I am entitled to money for duress from the SP and the POLICE for all the mental, emotional, and verbal abuse, the stress overload, the discrimination, persecution, cruelty, which caused me to become more anxious, more depressed, and more physically ill, and had to go in the hospital numerous times, etc…I will use the money to get out of here and donate the rest to charity; I don’t care; I just do not want to let this go because it is not fair and I can help other women too. Domestic Violence in a town near me told me that the police department in my town is ONE OF THE WORST when it comes to dealing with the victims. That was one of the things a police officer said to me the day I was assaulted, “stop acting like the victim here.” I said, “I am the victim,” But no arrest for the person who assaulted me for no reason at all while the SP sat in his chair in front of his apt at his picnic and watched the whole thing happen. I was entering the office building to do my laundry. It was later said by him that “nobody tried to choke me or push me and nobody threatened me or slandered me.” There’s the GASLIGHTING again. Help if you can. Sorry for the long posting. Never mean to do so, but somehow I end up long-winded. I could write a book about the past 6 years, but I won’t; all I want to do is get out of here and forget about everything and not have to see his ugly face one more day or still allow him to have power over me at times. I despise him so much. I find it so hard to believe that I loved this man once and he “loved” me or acted as he did! I can’t believe I even went out with such a monster or stayed with him or kept going back, and sometimes, I still have these feelings that I miss him, and I feel just as sick as he is and then I hate myself for having the feelings. We haven’t been together for 1 1/2 years, the longest we’ve ever been apart, not that he ever stopped bothering me or we stopped fighting, etc., but this is the longest, and that is one thing I’m very glad about. I came close a few times, and I wanted to so badly a few times, but I see him in a totally different view now and he is a disgusting monster who I never ever want to be with AGAIN or see his face. I don’t know what was wrong with me. He was a totally different person in the beginning, as you all have experienced that. IT’S SICK!!! Thanks AGAIN from my heart. I appreciate your feedback and any advice you can give me about the legal stuff.

Ox Drover

Dear Alicia,

I can here the frustratin and anger in your posting, the fact that YOU get called names and HE skates for actually breaking the law. Unfortunately the “criminal justice system” is more criminal than just!

I’m so sorry you’ve had such horrible experiences, but you have landed in a place here at Lovefraud where people WILL believe you, and just because your story is incredible doesn’t mean we won’t believe it–all of us have also lived this CRAZY carp ourselves and understand how insane they can make us feel when we are the ONLY ones NOT lying!

I’m glad you found your way here, this is a great place to help you recover. We can’t change them, but we can make ourselves stronger! Again, welcome! God bless.

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