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Woman’s new online romance is really her ex with a fake identity

Three months after her divorce, a woman from West St. Paul, Minnesota, met a new man online. She revealed her struggles with her ex-husband. Except the guy was her ex-husband, Brian Matthew Cornelius.

Woman’s online boyfriend turns out to be ex-husband, who now faces stalking charges, on TwinCities.com.

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Corrine,
I agree with you only on one point;that is that we have the right of anonimity if we choose…BUT…no one has the right to take that right and twist it to stalk,and at the very least hurt another person emotionally!!! So yes,that story DOES belong on this website,because a person who would go to such great lengths is more than likely a psychopath!

Blossom knows. Any kind of stalking is a very big deal and it doesn’t get enough publicity. Stalkers get away with so many awful things because unless they do something like break in or stand at your door screaming, they get away with covert things that are even more crazying making to their victims. Stalking is still a crime where there is way to much victim blaming instead of perp scaring.

It is very scary.. he has gotten my ID address several months ago on my old computer and logged into my facebook. I don’t know everything he looked at. He has looked in my windows. He has looked in my windows and showed up here and kicked my fence down.. He has done so much damage. And I have not been able to go to my cell phone carrier yet, I am going to go today and see how much it will cost. I never would have known that I wasn’t alone if I didn’t find this website in the beginning of May when I was searching Sociopath because I did not understand the hold he has on me at all.. I have left alcoholics and assholes before. Never like this I thought I was crazy. And I believed I loved him so much more then anyone else. I still feel like I do. It was definitely a moment when the tow truck driver took the car away. That was the last texts I have received from him. Yesterday. Nobody understands what I am going through. Its really hard. I am very reclusive right now. And I still miss him terribly. I was reading about the stare that they give and I used to tell him his magic was in his eyes. I felt like he controlled me through them. Especially during sex.

I am thankful to have found this website and glad I chose subscribe to it.

Just wondering.Awhile ago I received a msg on my cell phone “***** would like to share private pictures with you”.This has happened before.But this is the first time I extracted an address.It happens on my computer to.I NEVER answer such msgs! Is this just something that has to be accepted with the convenience of technology,or is it a form of stalking when you get such msgs?! I tend to be hypervigilent.

Corinne,
Thank you for posting that link! I added it to the ones I had already bookmarked.

Even though my husband is in a nursing home,I’m quite aware that stalking is still a danger! I know he’s angry that I’ve maintained NC for 7 monthes!

He’s not supposed to have my phone #.But I know 2 people who would give it to him possibly.His sister and a mutual friend.

I just realized that he could have written the IP # of the computer down before I got it,as we had it before I left him.

Hi all, I’ve been looking at spyware information. It’s really unbelievable. The software developers market spyware for phones as a way for parents to keep tabs on their kids. They know perfectly well stalkers are going to use it. Some programmes can be remotely installed. For any of us dealing with a sociopath who knows our phone numbers it’s worth reading up on how go detect the spyware. Ehow and wiki answers both have advice. I use my phone a lot to post on LF but fortunately my stalker has limited English.

I was reading some Ehow articles yesterday on hacking.I don’t know if that’s what you’re referring to or not,Tea Light.

I have virus and spyware protection,that I put on the computer after I left my husband.I wouldn’t think anything could get through.But then I’m a tech-dummy! 🙂

I just know that my husband is showing himself to be very possessive and he’s getting braver at our place of worship.Today he was right at the door as I entered!I just ignored him and walked on in and to my seat!

Blossom, at *your* place of worship, it’s just a change of scenary and a stalking opportunity for him! I think this increased boldness is worrying and that the church leaders need to intervene, love. I would suggest you make clear to them that you have chosen to leave the marriage due to years of abuse although they probably know that much, but also explain that ” no contact” is essential to your mental health and that you have grounds to believe, knowing this man’s personality better than anyone, that he is cynically using the church as a venue to stalk you. That is, to impose unwanted contact on you that distresses and frightens you. Tell them he appears to be testing the boundaries as the weeks go by and that you reasonably predict that he will approach you in the near future unless they intervene. If they are not prepared to ban this violent abusive ” worshipper” then they should intervene and protect you, by acknowledging the risk to your health your estranged “husband”mposes, disabled or not. They should make arrangements to have him seated in a designated place prior to your arrival. That should be the condition of his attendance. Remind them of the brutality this man inflicted on you and explain the trauma his presence causes you Blossom. He is manipulating the church leaders. He needs to be kept away from you. Love to you today.

Blossom:

I believe Tea Light is absolutely right in trying to help you protect yourself. The stalker is getting bolder and that is dangerous.

I strongly suggest that you gather your proof of abuse and stalking and file for a protective order. This means HE has to stay a certain number of yards away from you. If he shows up at your place of worship, the police can be called and he can be escorted out. Otherwise, my personal opinion is that there is no place of worship or higher power worth what your mind and body go through every time you see him. A good place of worship should be a safe place. You may not realize it, but every single time he is there, your brain and body chemistry are changing and it will create illnesses later. Can you start over at a new place of worship for formal meetings and then meet with friends at the current one you are sharing with the stalker outside of church….maybe for lunch or invite them to your home for a visit or small group religious study or something? Stalking, spying, etc. are all dangerous signs that someone is going to keep pushing until they may do something to harm you physically. A higher power is supposed to be a comfort. I don’t believe a higher power would want you to keep endangering your psyche and body to go to one specific place of worship. I hope there are other choices.

My spath Lodger is having his second leg surgery right now. So, I will be resting and probably not on here as much over the next couple of weeks. I need a rest while he is gone…hopefully for 2 days. It feels weird because I don’t want him to be in pain. I want him to be well enough to keep paying me rent. But, he sure has been on his best behavior stuck in a walker!

BTW, Lightsie, feel free to call me fightsie. I just felt the need to change to initials for a while. I hope you are hanging in there.

Thanks love. I’m asleep half the day due to the mirtazapine but no unpleasant side effects as yet. You have a good break.

fight,
If I have no other choice,I have a friend who has offered me a ride to another nearby town.The reason that is a last resort is that most of the time I don’t see my friends here EXCEPT at our place of worship.Our homes are far from each other,and schedules are busy.

But you and Tea made good points and I see the need to do something about this NOW before it goes any further!

I’m glad you’ll be getting some rest! 🙂

Tea,
Thank you for your suggestions.I will talk to the elders and see if they will atleast make sure he is at a designated seat before I arrive.One thing I have already done(and I made copies for two people in the congregation,as well as a copy that is kept in the building),is on my DPA(health care rep&living will,etc),
I noted that spath isn’t allowed as a visitor to the hospital.

I used to know a woman who did this very same behavior. She belonged to an online dating service, but she generated a false ID for herself, including posting much younger pictures of herself to get dates. If a guy responded and asked her out but either wouldn’t go through with the initial date or didn’t ask her out for a second time, she would harass the guy by creating a new false ID and cyber-stalking him.

This woman (a friend from childhood) seemed to get a big kick out of this kind of creepy revenge behavior; she shared this with me like she was proud of herself & clever for thinking it up.

When I eventually broke off our friendship, she subjected me to similar cyber-stalking for over two years. It took me about six months to figure out that the odd posts I’d get from people I didn’t know (that expressed hostility and oblique references to my life history) were actually from this ex-friend. The only thing that worked for me was to completely ignore all attempts at communication by anyone whose ID was unfamiliar, but still it took her another couple of years to give up.

I’m pretty sure that this ex-friend had narcissistic pd, if not full-blown psychopathy.

Hi Babs, It seems that when online, it is a good idea to meet the person sooner rather than later. I’m glad you figured this “friend” out.

She sounds unstable and disordered Babs that’s for sure. As great as the connectivity the internet makes possible can be, it’s a stalker’s playground.

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