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Is it time to put the sociopath (narcissist, psychopath) behind you, once and for all?

Do you want to heal your broken heart?

Are you ready to feel relaxed and peaceful — perhaps for the first time in your life?

Yes, there is life after the sociopath and I am living proof

I married a con man. James Alwyn Montgomery took $227,000 from me, cheated with at least six different women during our two-and-a-half-year relationship, had a child with one of the women and then married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.

When I discovered my husband’s cheating, I left him. But it took months of detective work to unravel the true scope of his betrayal. 

You see, I wasn’t his only victim. This man lived his life by exploiting women. 

I was shocked.

Luckily, I’d been working with an energy healer for years. As I told her what I’d discovered about my husband’s lies and manipulation, she said, “He sounds like a sociopath.”

A sociopath? What’s that?

A sociopath is someone who preys on and damages almost everyone they spend time with — family members, friends, work colleagues, and certainly spouses and romantic partners.

They could be clinically diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic or psychopathic personality disorder — if they were seen by a professional, which they typically aren’t.

In 2005 I launched my website, Lovefraud.com, to warn people like you about these dangerous human predators living among us. After more than 20 years, I’ve learned a lot about them.

I’ve collected more than 10,000 cases of people who have tangled with sociopaths. I gathered data through six surveys of survivors. I wrote eight books. I co-authored two peer-reviewed scientific journal articles.

Most importantly, I recovered. 

The key to healing, I discovered, is cutting the emotional and energetic ties that bind you to the sociopath. 

This usually means unearthing the old wounds — from prior relationships, childhood, or even generational trauma — that made you vulnerable to the sociopath in the first place.

Working with my energy healer, I was able to identify and release the energetic disturbances and emotional pain of betrayals from the recent and distant past. 

It was a process. But 10 days after I finally let go of my internal battle with James Alwyn Montgomery, I met a wonderful man named Terry Kelly.

Because of the deep emotional work I did to recover from the sociopath, I was able to open my heart to a man who truly loved me.

We’ve now been happily married for more than 20 years.

If I can recover, you can too.

Breaking the trauma bond

Perhaps the sociopath is still in your life. You know this person is destructive to you, but you feel trapped and can’t end your involvement.

Or perhaps the sociopath is out of your life, but you’re still stuck. You keep ruminating about what happened, imagining what you should have said or done.

You are experiencing a trauma bond.

A trauma bond is a highly addictive emotional attachment to people who have hurt you.

Trauma bonds are caused by two features of exploitative relationships:

1. Power imbalance — the sociopath has more power, often attained through coercive control, sometimes through indifference.
2. Intermittent good-bad treatment — sometimes the sociopath is kind and loving, other times abusive. You never know which version you’re going to get.

Trauma bonds create within you emotional wounds and energetic disturbances — which are essentially the same thing. 

But how did you get into this situation in the first place? 

You were vulnerable. 

Why were you vulnerable? 

When you unearth the answer to that question, your true recovery begins.

Healing your own heart

It’s been more than 25 years since I discovered the truth about my sociopathic first husband. Since then, I’ve become an expert on people with exploitative personality disorders and their typical manipulation strategies.

I’ve also learned how to help survivors move forward in their lives and find lasting peace and love. 

The first step is understanding what happened to you, and why the abuse was not your fault. 

Lovefraud.com has thousands of articles that explain this. When we talk, I personalize the information for you — helping you understand how the sociopath drew you in and why the involvement affected you as it did.

The second and most important step is healing your own heart. 

How do you do this? I offer three approaches, all based on energy healing, to assist you: 

• Clinical EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
• Reiki 
• Guided Mindfulness

These three approaches recognize that our bodies, minds and emotions are connected. Experiences affect us physically, mentally and emotionally, and healing involves all these dimensions of our lives.

Are you ready to begin?

Here’s how you benefit from our sessions together

• Detaching from the sociopath (narcissist, psychopath), empowers you to reclaim your life. With Reiki, Clinical EFT Tapping and my “Guided Mindfulness” technique, you break the ties that bind.

• Relationships with sociopaths are addictions. Experts now know that overcoming addiction is not a matter of willpower, but of clearing the emotions linked to it. This is exactly what we do.

• The sociopath creates stress. Stress causes your body to release cortisol. Cortisol causes inflammation, disrupts your sleep and impairs your immune system. Imagine if you could break the cycle and physically feel better. You can.

• If you were to learn that you’re not co-dependent, that your behavior was normal for someone who was traumatized by a sociopath, would that help your recovery? (Hint: It’s true.)

• Time doesn’t heal all wounds — it buries them in your subconscious mind. Free yourself through Reiki, Clinical EFT Tapping and Guided Mindfulness.

• Reiki breaks down blockages within your energetic body, balances chakras and straightens energetic pathways to allow your life force to flow freely. That’s why you feel both relaxed and energized.

• Scientific research with war veterans, victims of sexual violence, natural disaster survivors and others proves that Clinical EFT Tapping relieves the symptoms of PTSD.

• Here’s the truth about change: The first step is to acknowledge what is, the reality of your experience and where you are right now. The second step is to envision what can be. This one simple catalyst helps you take both steps. 

• Why were you vulnerable to the sociopath? The answer is rooted in your past. We slowly and gently uncover old memories, even long buried ones, so that they no longer drag you down.

• What if you could experience the benefits of conventional psychotherapy — only faster? You can with Clinical EFT Tapping — and research proves it.

• This fast, easy and evidence-based stress management technique calms your body and your brain, so you can think more clearly and make better decisions.

• There’s no reason to live with a negative belief like, “I’m not good enough.” Together, we find the root of any destructive belief and release it, so from the center of your being, you feel worthy.

• Through Guided Mindfulness, I help you bring difficult emotions to your awareness. Simply by acknowledging them without judgment, the energetic disturbances dissipate and you feel better.

• A sociopath will never feel your pain, so you might as well let it go. Reiki, Clinical EFT Tapping and Guided Mindfulness empower you to do it.

Who should book this FREE 15-minute Discovery Call?

This free consultation is NOT for …

Anyone who wants to complain about the sociopath — yes, we know they are evil — but doesn’t want to detach …

This free consultation IS for …

Anyone who wants to truly heal their disappointment, betrayal and trauma, and move toward a peaceful life …

Anyone who has been damaged by multiple sociopaths and wants to stop attracting these dangerous, unhealthy people …

Anyone who has sought counseling due to the abuse, but felt that the counselor didn’t understand what they were talking about …

Anyone who realizes that their spouse or romantic partner is just like their cold, critical or abusive mother or father …

Anyone who is ready to finally get to the root of their deep internal pain and release it forever.

Start with your FREE 15-minute Discovery Call

If you’ve read all the way to this point, that tells me you are ready to dramatically change your life. So take the first step. Book your FREE Discovery call today.

Tell me briefly what you’re dealing with. Don’t worry — I won’t be shocked. I’ve probably heard a story like yours before, so I’ll quickly understand how you feel. Then I’ll explain how I can help you overcome betrayal, heal deep emotional wounds, let go of limiting beliefs and move forward to the life you want.

To sign up for your FREE Discovery Call, just click the link below. There is no obligation. You will not be asked to provide any credit card information. 

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P.S. — The Bottom Line

If you’ve scrolled directly to the bottom of the page — Great! 

I’m offering a FREE 15-minute Discovery Call with me, Donna Andersen. You tell me the situation you’re facing with a sociopath or some other difficult person. I’ll tell you how I can help you through Reiki, Clinical EFT Tapping or Guided Mindfulness. If we decide working together is a fit, I’ll invite you to get started. You don’t have to stay stuck. I can help you feel better and move forward.

To learn how I can help you, scroll up and read the section on “Here’s how you benefit from our sessions together.”