Yes, there is life and love after the sociopath (narcissist, psychopath)
Recovery from the sociopath (or narcissist, psychopath) involves two parallel paths forward. The first is solving your real-world problems, like survival. The second path is emotional healing. I offer guidance on both paths, starting with pragmatic advice for dealing with your situation. Then, as a Reiki master, I help you release the energetic disturbances caused by the sociopath, as well as older, deeper disturbances that made you vulnerable. You can have peace, joy, love and the life you truly want. I know, because I did it. You can too.
What you need to know about relationships with sociopaths and narcissists
Is your partner a sociopath?
Learn if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath or another disordered individual.
How to leave or divorce a sociopath
Sociopaths (including narcissists) often get worse when it’s over — make sure you take precautions.
How to recover from the sociopath
Both sociopaths and narcissists engage in narcissistic abuse. Yes, you can recover; Lovefraud will help you.
What’s a Sociopath?
At Lovefraud, “sociopath” is used according to its original meaning, as a term that describes people who are pathological in their social relationships, including narcissists. Clinically, they could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorders. Start here
Three miserable Christmases with the sociopath, and how to heal from the memories
UPDATED FOR 2024. I spent three Christmases with my sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery. Every one of them was stressful, unhappy, worrisome and bereft of joyful holiday spirit. Now, however, I’ve recovered, and my Christmases are happy and loving. You, too, can recover. I promise. Here are my stories of Christmas Past: Christmas 1996 We had …
LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Listen to your inner voice
UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader. She learned the hard way how important it is to listen to your inner voice. When I met my husband, 14 years ago, I owned my own home, had two children, a great job and life was great. I wasn’t looking for …
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Resources for dealing with sociopaths
Recover and rebuild
Yes, you can overcome from sociopathic abuse. Donna Andersen offers you validation, practical advice and reiki to help your recovery.
Lovefraud Podcasts
Listen to survivors tell their heartbreaking stories of deception and betrayal masquerading as love.
How to recognize and escape senior sociopaths
Read Donna Andersen’s newest book on over-50 sociopaths — partners, parents, family members, friends and co-workers.
Lovefraud Bookstore
Books and personal consultations with Donna Andersen, along with money-saving bundles.
Webinars for therapists
Learn how disordered individuals affect survivors so you can better help victims of abuse.
Lovefraud Community Forum
Talk about your experience with a sociopath to people who truly get it in the Lovefraud Community Forum.
Recovery from the Sociopath Sampler
Sociopaths cannot love you; they can only use you. The experience is so devastating that you may wonder if it’s even possible to recover. Yes, it is.
Share your story and help change the world
No one tells us the truth sociopaths and narcissists — that they’re all around us, they look just like us, but they live to exploit us. Let’s break the silence to make the world a safer place for all of us.