Description
Donna Andersen is an expert on sociopaths and narcissists in relationships. She can help you identify if your partner, family member, work colleague or friend is disordered, and offer you practical advice on what to do — how to escape, or if that isn’t possible, how to cope.
Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. James Alwyn Montgomery, originally of Sydney, Australia, met her and quickly proposed in 1996. In two and a half years, Montgomery defrauded her of $227,000, cheated on her with at least six different women, fathered a child with one of them, and then, 10 days after Donna left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.
Because of her experience, in 2005 Donna founded Lovefraud.com, a website and blog that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths — people who could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorder. Over the years she has collected more than 10,000 cases and helped thousands of people. She’s written seven books:
- Understanding the Sociopath
- Seduced by a Sociopath
- Dealing with a Sociopath
- Recovery from the Sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook
- Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan
Donna founded Lovefraud Education and Recovery. The nonprofit offers online webinars to help survivors and therapists spot, escape and recover from narcissists, antisocials, psychopaths and other manipulators. She is co-author of a scientific paper about therapy for victims of sociopaths, and has presented research to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy.
Donna has appeared on television shows including Insight in Australia, ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for multiple radio shows, print articles and web posts.
According to expert estimates, there may be 30 million adult sociopaths in the United States — and millions more around the world. These people are dangerous to your emotions, health, physical safety and finances. They can be avoided, if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, most of us don’t know the warning signs, and end up entangled with them. Donna can help you escape and recover — and yes, recovery is possible. Donna met her new husband in 2001, and they’ve been together ever since.
Donna offers personal consultations via phone, Zoom or Skype.
A woman who called for advice wrote:
Thank you again Donna for talking with me this evening. I feel so much relief from that conversation. You helped me sort through much of the confusion. I will surely be on your website regularly checking out articles and posts.
One man from the United States who has spoken to Donna on several occasions says:
I had the good fortune of finding Donna Andersen to help in my struggle with sociopathic relationships. I took advantage of her consultation services and she has helped focus my awareness and understanding of where and why my troubles originate.
I can’t say enough about how she’s helped me time and again, despite the fact I’ve failed so often to follow through on her sound advice. Once, when I wrote and told her I’d blocked numbers in my “No Contact” effort, I insisted she let me donate to her cause. She did, and soon after I broke the NC stipulation she’d imposed. Since then she has refused my repeated efforts to donate to her cause until I maintain the NC.
This fact alone has shown me her integrity in looking out for my best interests. She tops the chart in helping me understand, be aware of and repair the damage caused by sociopaths.
Donna offers personal consultations Monday through Friday between 3 pm and 8 pm, Eastern Time (the same time zone as New York City in the United States). You can book your appointment and pay by credit card above. If you need a different time, please call 609-945-1384, or send an e-mail to [email protected]
Anonymous (verified owner) –
Donna is excellent, she gave me the reassurance I needed and comforted me. I cannot thank her enough
Nalini (verified owner) –
I can’t begin to say how much it meant for me to be heard and understood by someone. I’ve lost everyone around me through this nightmare. Even my adult daughter whom still works for the narc. $50 was a lot for me during a pandemic when I haven’t worked since March but it was worth it. I explained my situation and was given advice to help me bring all of this to and end. But, as with much of my life, my plans became “lists of things that aren’t going to happen”. Upon receiving the certified letter of termination of lease the narc broke up with me that evening via text after ten years in this relationshit/manipulationship. I made my one and only offer to him after the house is sold in hopes that he won’t destroy it on his way out. I have not had any contact with him in 5 days today. But I’m thankful that I had someone to reach out to who actually believed me. All I can do now is hope that the increase in my insurance policies both on that home and my vehicle shield me from the possible wreckage that may be directed toward me at any time. Definitely recommend a counseling session. Scrape up the money somehow and be heard and given direction. You’ll be glad you did.
Janet (verified owner) –
She advised me on ways to help get rid of the pain & anger that I have that is keeping me from being happy.
Claire (verified owner) –
I was very impressed, but not at all surprised, by Donna’s warmth and wisdom. She was very prompt for our 30 minute appointment, allowed me to talk and then had a conversation with me about her insights and my thoughts on my situation. It was like having a super helpful and validating conversation with a kind supportive friend who could help me move through the confusion. Donna is the real deal and was able to meet with me via Zoom on a same-day appointment! After having enjoyed her audiobook, I was far more familiar with her experience in life than she was with me a complete stranger. Yet, she was as authentic as in her videos and blog. Thank you Donna for all that you do.
Diane (verified owner) –
I had a 1/2 hour consultation with Donna and would highly recommend it to others who are feeling confusion and seeking some validation and clarity. She listened actively, gently probed by asking “tell me more” and then shared insights and a couple of strategies to work on within myself to get a better perspective on things. Her style is warm and professional. I appreciated that she was exactly on time and accommodated my request for a Zoom meeting so that I could avoid international long distance phone charges. If you’re wondering about it and are familiar with her work on Lovefraud, I would highly recommend it. Thank you Donna for all that you do and your generosity with Lovefraud.