Description
Donna Andersen is an expert on sociopaths and narcissists in relationships. She can help you identify if your partner, family member, work colleague or friend is disordered, and offer you practical advice on what to do — how to escape, or if that isn’t possible, how to cope.
Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. James Alwyn Montgomery, originally of Sydney, Australia, met her and quickly proposed in 1996. In two and a half years, Montgomery defrauded her of $227,000, cheated on her with at least six different women, fathered a child with one of them, and then, 10 days after Donna left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.
Because of her experience, in 2005 Donna founded Lovefraud.com, a website and blog that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths — people who could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorder. Over the years she has collected more than 10,000 cases and helped thousands of people. She’s written seven books:
- Understanding the Sociopath
- Seduced by a Sociopath
- Dealing with a Sociopath
- Recovery from the Sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook
- Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan
Donna founded Lovefraud Education and Recovery. The nonprofit offers online webinars to help survivors and therapists spot, escape and recover from narcissists, antisocials, psychopaths and other manipulators. She is co-author of a scientific paper about therapy for victims of sociopaths, and has presented research to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy.
Donna has appeared on television shows including Insight in Australia, ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for multiple radio shows, print articles and web posts.
According to expert estimates, there may be 30 million adult sociopaths in the United States — and millions more around the world. These people are dangerous to your emotions, health, physical safety and finances. They can be avoided, if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, most of us don’t know the warning signs, and end up entangled with them. Donna can help you escape and recover — and yes, recovery is possible. Donna met her new husband in 2001, and they’ve been together ever since.
Donna offers personal consultations via phone, Zoom or Skype.
A woman who called for advice wrote:
Thank you again Donna for talking with me this evening. I feel so much relief from that conversation. You helped me sort through much of the confusion. I will surely be on your website regularly checking out articles and posts.
One man from the United States who has spoken to Donna on several occasions says:
I had the good fortune of finding Donna Andersen to help in my struggle with sociopathic relationships. I took advantage of her consultation services and she has helped focus my awareness and understanding of where and why my troubles originate.
I can’t say enough about how she’s helped me time and again, despite the fact I’ve failed so often to follow through on her sound advice. Once, when I wrote and told her I’d blocked numbers in my “No Contact” effort, I insisted she let me donate to her cause. She did, and soon after I broke the NC stipulation she’d imposed. Since then she has refused my repeated efforts to donate to her cause until I maintain the NC.
This fact alone has shown me her integrity in looking out for my best interests. She tops the chart in helping me understand, be aware of and repair the damage caused by sociopaths.
Donna offers personal consultations Monday through Friday between 3 pm and 8 pm, Eastern Time (the same time zone as New York City in the United States). You can book your appointment and pay by credit card above. If you need a different time, please call 609-945-1384, or send an e-mail to [email protected]
want to love again –
After my final breakup , with a sociopath, after a 7 year relationship, I reached out to talk to Donna by phone. Sometimes I had daily or weekly conversations with her depending on my needs and intense emotions at the time….her conversations were ALWAYS so helpful, enlightening, encouraging and compassionate as I knew she is truly a person who completely understands what I went through in my relationship with a beloved sociopath. She talked to me for months on end always patient and understanding as I worked through my trauma, shock and disbelief. I used the charges for her service in my court case with him and was awarded full restitution by the judge. Thank you, Donna, from the bottom of my heart….your help is immeasurable, I thank God for you.
Wants to love again
Rebekah –
Donna is a godsend for me. I felt lost, alone, and bewildered, looking for some guidance for a successful exit strategy from my current relationship with a psychopath.
Just a few short weeks earlier I had no idea that such a person could exist. I was extremely distressed to awaken to the truth that the person I loved did not care the least bit about me and yet was controlling my life. The person I loved actually didn’t even exist!
It was obvious to me that I was way in over my head and needed some good advice.
The local therapist was nice, asked me about my feelings, and directed me to a book on Women Who Love Too Much. Nice to know, but I needed real help and quickly. I was becoming unhinged. I needed someone who knew what they were talking about, someone who could listen to me, and give me a realistic perspective and plan to move forward.
I highly recommend Donna for anyone who wants an experienced, understanding consultant/partner for giving you a clear view and helping you find a way out of a desperate situation.
I am a different person now. I am relieved and happy, and it has been a while. I am very happy actually, with a way to move forward without my psychopath.
Misha –
Donna is a warm, caring, and insightful advisor who supports you in your recovery from toxic abuse by family members. She introduced me to the concept of the law of attraction, and provided a lot of helpful guidance on rebuilding my self worth, self image, and self esteem in a practical way. By explaining the principles of positive and negative energy, I learned a lot about how to set boundaries rooted in self respect for bad behavior from coworkers, so-called friends, and more. I highly recommend anyone with sociopathic family members and friends consider her services, as her knowledge base is not limited solely to those who have sociopathic husbands.
I no longer feel that I have to take responsibility for other people’s problems, lies, manipulations, and abuse; I have been empowered to consider my own needs and desires. Donna has empowered me to take a new path in life, where I am able to best use my strengths and move forward. I highly recommend anyone use her services.
Eleanor Cowan –
Personal phonecall consultationFirst, Donna listened intently to my concern. She isolated one unacceptable behavior of the person who offended me. I realized, in that instant, that I was indeed tolerating horrible behavior! I realized that no one else in the whole world would treat me the way I permitted myself to be treated by this one individual. At the end of our call, I had some serious homework to do. All I had to do was to change my accomodating behavior. I had to stop allowing abuse. Donna’s excellent comment helped me enormously. Thank you, Donna!
Suelly Oliveira –
I’ve been in a abusive relationship and I was lost for a long time after my breakup, trying to figure out things the best way I could, looking after my self, doing all the great things I believed it was doing it’s work but, as a victim of mental abuse I needed to speak. I was unsure with what I actually dealt with, I was also avoiding the sad truth. Speaking with Donna was necessary for me as I needed someone that knew what I was talking about, I needed someone with experience and knowledgeable of personally disorders that could help me understand and work on the psychological trauma, I have peace in my mind, and that is priceless.I needed to understand
Anonymous –
Donna was helpful by answering my questions and gave me practical advice about the situation I’m dealing with.
Sophie T. –
I got an appointment within few hours, that was a major plus for me!
Great caring listener, Donna gets to the core of the matter. I got very powerful advices and a plan of action for protection. No doubt, it was worth the investment. I Highly recommend! A+++++
Christine Corlett –
I love talking with Donna. For me she is ‘ground zero’ for first hand direct experience and knowledge relating to Love Fraud and Sociopathic Abuse. I recommend Donna to anyone seeking practical, no-nonsense reflection and direction relating to their recovery.
Burnadette P. –
Great to talk in person via zoom. Reassuring.
patricia H. –
As a personal experiencer Donna will understand even the most bizarre of your experiences. A good listener with matter of fact advisement.