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By Donna Andersen | March 18, 2019 0 Comments

People who can ruin your life, and how to deal with them

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BOOK REVIEW: 5 Types of people who can ruin your life – Identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths and other high-conflict personalities, by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Review by Donna Andersen

Yes, millions of people with serious personality disorders have the potential to ruin your life. 5 Types of people who can ruin your life, by Bill Eddy, is the first book I’ve seen that draws attention to the multiple personality disorders that spell trouble for interpersonal relationships.

Bill Eddy is a lawyer and social worker who leads the High Conflict Institute, an organization which educates people about high-conflict personalities and high-conflict disputes. His previous book, Splitting: Protecting yourself while divorcing someone with borderline or narcissistic personality … Read more

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By Donna Andersen | March 16, 2019 0 Comments

Complex PTSD from relationships with sociopaths

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Photo by Merelize at FreeRange Stock Photos.

You’re pretty sure that you’re involved with a sociopath, but you feel helpless to do anything about it. You’re afraid of conflict and you feel a sense of paralyzing shame and loneliness.

You berate yourself for not being able to make a decision and get out. But your issue may not be a character flaw — indecision, helplessness and shame are all symptoms of complex PTSD (C-PTSD).

According to Dr. Karin Huffer, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a psychiatric injury caused by feeling helpless while in jeopardy. It is generally associated with a single traumatic episode, such a car crash, earthquake or sexual assault, or with combat and the atrocities … Read more

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By Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT | March 15, 2019 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, & Rose T to hold weekly conference call support groups Sundays at 5pm EST

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Experience the support of people who know from wherever you are! Join our free support group every Sunday at 5 pm EST. Go to destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining. Do this every time even if you have joined us before! We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call. It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

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By Donna Andersen | March 11, 2019 0 Comments

What do narcissists want?

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At first, narcissists are charming and attentive, but eventually they turn cold and cruel. Many people are totally baffled by the behavior, and come to suspect they’re dealing with a narcissist. They turn to the Internet and ask variations of the question, what do narcissists want?

Here are 20 of those questions — with the answers.

1 . What do narcissists want?

Narcissists want what is called “narcissistic supply.” In her Lovefraud webinar called, Understanding and Recognizing Narcissistic Abuse, Tiffany Kettermann, LPC, CADCI, explains that narcissistic supply is, “Anything or anyone that feeds the narcissistic person’s ego and keeps the person artificially pumped up, protecting their fragile view of themselves.” This could include fame, admiration, compliments, good … Read more

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By Donna Andersen | March 8, 2019 0 Comments

‘Love Fraud’ – FREE online book discussion March 13

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My first book, Love Fraud – How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, tells two parallel stories—the outrageous tale of my involvement with the sociopath James Montgomery, my spiritual journey to understand why it happened, and how it helped me return to wholeness.

I will host a FREE online book discussion, via videoconference, on March 13, 2019, at 8 p.m. ET. Please join me — if you read the book recently, long ago or even if you haven’t quite finished it. (You can choose to participate anonymously if you want.) Discussion questions are below. Register here:

Lovefraud Video Conference Book Discussion

About the book:

What is it really like to be hooked by a sociopath? And … Read more

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By Lovefraud Reader | March 6, 2019 3 Comments

The narcissist discarded me every year for 11 years

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Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call, “Angie19.”

I was involved with my narcissist for a little more than 11 years, for which 4-6 months out of each year he would discard me.

The process would start out with him giving me enough rope to hang myself by pushing the buttons he knew would get me to say something he could later use to “play victim” and claim “it always comes back to this” or “why, every time, do we have to go thru this.” It would be followed up with the standard guilt trip, topped off by demeaning me, which he was very good at doing. He had a talent to … Read more

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By Donna Andersen | March 4, 2019 10 Comments

Can a relationship with a sociopath work?

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You’ve met someone who is charming, charismatic, fun, attentive and, oh yeah, sexy. Your relationship is the most exciting you’ve ever experienced — at first.

Then you see some red flags, and your relationship isn’t as pleasant as it once was. After a few nasty incidents, you Google words like “pathological lying,” and see descriptions that sound like your partner. You suspect your partner may be a sociopath.

The good times are, or were, really good. You don’t want to throw it all away. So you wonder — can a relationship with a sociopath work?

The answer depends on what you mean by “work.”

You cannot have a supportive, sharing relationship with a sociopath

If by “work” you … Read more

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By Donna Andersen | March 1, 2019 2 Comments

Narcissistic manipulation: Patrick Frazee wanted his girlfriend to commit murder

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Patrick Frazee, left, is charged with murdering Kelsey Berreth, the mother of his child.

Here’s one of the worst cases of narcissistic manipulation I’ve ever seen:

Three times, Patrick Frazee, 32, of Florissant, Colorado, tried to convince his girlfriend to murder his fiancée. When the girlfriend couldn’t do it, Frazee allegedly beat Kelsey Berreth, the mother of his child, to death with a baseball bat. Then he called his girlfriend, Krystal Lee Kenney of Idaho, to clean up the mess.

Frazee and Kenney began an intimate relationship in early 2018 — and Frazee probably began his narcissistic manipulation right away. Eventually, Kenney was “under his spell,” as former FBI profiler Pete Klismet said in an interview with KRDO … Read more

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By Donna Andersen | February 28, 2019 2 Comments

Love Fraud book excerpt: One more massive lie from my sociopath husband

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My husband, James Montgomery, convinced me to move to Florida by saying he had a deal to launch our new Titanic Exhibition. He lied. I was broke. Now what were we going to do?

By Donna Andersen

By the first week of February 1999, James had been in Orlando for more than two months. I’d been there for six weeks. I was still working on plans for the exhibition at Wild Bill’s, and needed more information about the facility’s dimensions. I called the dinner theater’s office.

“We have the Titanic exhibition that’s going into Wild Bill’s,” I said to the manager who answered the phone. “I’d like to stop by and take some more measurements.”

“The Titanic exhibition!” … Read more

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By Donna Andersen | February 25, 2019 0 Comments

How to spot a dating scam

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Americans lost $143 million in dating scams in 2018, according to the Federal Trade Commission. That figure probably doesn’t include the more than $2 million that one con artist, Derek Alldred, took from the two dozen women that he, by himself, scammed.

These are examples of the two different types of dating scams: Online dating scams and In Real Life (IRL) dating scams. Here’s what you need to know about them.

Online dating scams

These dating scams take place totally over the Internet, social media and phones — the Internet predator and the target never meet in person. The objective is usually financial.

Many of these Internet predators are based in Nigeria or Asia. In fact, dating … Read more

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