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Last words of Rhonda Casto: ‘He is either going to give me a ring or throw me off a cliff’
By June 16, 2018 1 Comments Read More →

Last words of Rhonda Casto: ‘He is either going to give me a ring or throw me off a cliff’

Rhonda Casto (Facebook)

Rhonda Castro fell to her death while hiking on the Eagle Creek Trail in the Columbia River Gorge in Oregon on March 16, 2009 with her boyfriend, Stephen Nichols.

Her last words to her grandmother and aunt were, “He is either going to give me a ring or throw me off a cliff.”

Nichols was originally charged with murder, but eventually pleaded guilty to criminally negligent homicide and coercion in May 2017. He was sentenced to three years of probation, with credit for 19 months of jail time.

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After the sociopath, a man with borderline personality disorder
By June 15, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

After the sociopath, a man with borderline personality disorder

Photo by Alon

Editor’s Note: Lovefraud received the following email from reader Victimcindy. Donna Andersen  responds after the letter.

My first relationship, after my 18-year marriage to a sociopath, was to a borderline personality disordered (BPD) man. Do you find this common as the disordered traits are opposite in some areas?  We think we are getting something new and healthy.

Spath vs BPD: sex

My spath-ex withheld sex as power. The borderline was highly sexual. My spath-ex was charming, but lacked empathy and was emotionally unavailable. He also abused substances, was opportunistic with casual sex outside marriage and secretive.

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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Hooked by a sociopath, Recovery from a sociopath
 
Why didn’t his family warn me?
By June 13, 2018 8 Comments Read More →

Why didn’t his family warn me?

I want to express my deepest appreciation and thanks for this site. I have questions for which I can’t find answers. Admittedly I’m new to this forum and I’m sure my story isn’t unique as I’ve read MY story over and over LOL! I’m clearly among my peeps. I say that with humor and with heartache because my family and friends do not understand my situation by no fault of their own. 1- having never been exposed to a sociopath their advice was based on a normal relationship. And 2- I didn’t share most of what happened out of embarrassment.

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Posted in: Sociopaths and family, Spath Tales / Letters to Lovefraud
Mary Ann Glynn on why a support group helps recovery from a sociopath
By June 12, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Mary Ann Glynn on why a support group helps recovery from a sociopath

Upcoming Lovefraud CE Webinar:

Facilitating Professionally Run Support Groups for Partners in Exploitative Relationships
Friday, June 22, 2018 • 12 noon – 2 pm ET
2 CE credits available for therapists • $49

Confusion — everyone who is romantically involved with a sociopath experiences massive amount of confusion. Support groups offer clarity and validation — that’s why they’re so helpful for recovery.


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Posted in: Lovefraud Continuing Education
 
By June 11, 2018 6 Comments Read More →

Has your ex threatened to take revenge after your divorce?

Dwight Lamon Jones (Scottsdael Police Dept)

Dwight Jones, of Scottsdale, Arizona, was bitter and angry about his November, 2010 divorce. Last week, almost eight years later, he allegedly lashed out.

Jones is suspected of killing six people, four of whom were connected to his divorce:

  • Dr. Steven Pitt, a well-known psychologist who testified against Jones in the divorce
  • Veleria Sharp and Laura Anderson, paralegals who worked in the law office of the divorce attorney retained by Jones’ ex-wife
  • Marshall Levine, a counselor who took over the office space once used the counselor who treated Jones’ son
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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Media sociopaths
Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free support group conference call Sunday June 17th at 5 pm EST
By June 10, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free support group conference call Sunday June 17th at 5 pm EST

  Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, June 17, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to meet you there!

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Sociopathic Behavior Was Trained Into Me
By June 9, 2018 2 Comments Read More →

Sociopathic Behavior Was Trained Into Me

Editor’s note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader acetiger01.

Reverting back to the child self

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Posted in: Spath Tales / Letters to Lovefraud
Strategies to help recover from a break-up — at least in normal relationships
By June 8, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Strategies to help recover from a break-up — at least in normal relationships

In a recent scientific paper, researchers tested three cognitive strategies to help people get over a breakup with a romantic partner. They studied 24 heartbroken people, who had been in the relationship an average of 2.5 years. All were upset, and most still loved their exes.

The recovery strategies:

  1. Negatively reappraise their ex — highlighting the ex’s negative traits.
  2. Love reappraisal — accepting feelings of love without judgment.
  3. Distraction — think about positive things unrelated to the ex.

Here were the results, according to the study authors:

  1. Negative reappraisal decreased love feelings but made participants feel unpleasant.
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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Lovefraud Continuing Education, Recovery from a sociopath
By June 7, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

If your relationship and financial support are gone, services for displaced homemakers may be able to help

If you’re in dire financial straits because you’ve been abandoned, divorced or widowed, there may be resources in your community to help you.

At last month’s Battered Mothers Custody Conference, I met Nancy Howard, director of the Center for People in Transition at Rowan College in Gloucester County, New Jersey. Her social services agency assists displaced homemakers in becoming self-sufficient.

Nancy told me that displaced homemaker programs are available in all 50 states of the United States. To find them, just Google “displaced homemaker” and the name of your state.


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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Recovery from a sociopath
Self respect means not having to say you’re sorry (unless you really mean it)
By June 6, 2018 0 Comments Read More →

Self respect means not having to say you’re sorry (unless you really mean it)

By Eleanor Cowan

In my large family, so many of us were affected by our mother’s personality disorder that over time, our odd behaviors and adaptations became normalized. When neighbors asked about my mother’s terrible shrieking and screaming or her calling her children names such as “stupid brainless idiots,” I’d quickly minimize the damage and offer inauthentic responses. “Oh, our house is so big. She’s just calling everyone for supper.”

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