About Lovefraud

How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths and other exploiters

Approximately 12 percent of people live their lives by exploiting and manipulating the rest of us. They have serious personality disorders — antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic. Lovefraud’s mission is the help you, and everyone, spot these everyday sociopaths — they’re not all serial killers — and get them out of your life.

Lovefraud’s information and services can help you. Here are answers to five questions you probably have, which will lead you to our in-depth content.


1 . Who is the author of Lovefraud?

Donna Andersen launched in 2005 after her disastrous marriage to a sociopath. Because of her experience, Donna has written three books, makes videos explaining sociopaths, and founded Lovefraud Continuing Education, which offers webinars for survivors and mental health professionals. Donna also offers personal consultations to survivors, helping you to understand what happened and figure out how to move forward.

About Donna Andersen

• Donna’s story: James Montgomery — using the Internet to meet and defraud women

• Donna’s books: Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath, the Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook, and Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. More info

• Donna videos: Lovefraud Lessons

Donna’s webinars

• Book a personal consultation with Donna Andersen


2. Am I in a relationship with a sociopath (narcissist, antisocial, borderline, histrionic or psychopath)?

The Number One sign that you’re involved with someone who has a personality disorder is confusion. If your relationship doesn’t make any sense, if your partner sends you mixed signals, keeps changing what he or she wants and is making uncomfortable demands, you need to educate yourself about personality disorders.

• Is your partner a sociopath? Get Lovefraud’s exclusive, FREE checklist.

• 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath

• Quiz: Are you a target?


3. What do I need to know about everyday sociopaths?

Millions of people have exploitative personality disorders — antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic. They are male and female, all races, all nationalities, live in all communities and work in all professions (or not at all). Lovefraud refers to them collectively as “sociopaths.”

• Learn about them here: What’s a sociopath?

• How many antisocials or psychopaths are in your community? Check the Lovefraud Risk Calculator.

• Female sociopaths — read Lovefraud’s blog posts on disordered women.

• Knowledge base — Lovefraud has thousands of blog articles about sociopaths; here are the categories of articles.

Say no to a sociopath

4. Help — I’m involved with a sociopath — what do I do?

Once sociopaths are adults, they do not change. No medication or therapy is proven to cure them, so the best thing to do is get them out of your life. This can be difficult, depending on your situation. Here’s more advice:

• How to leave a sociopath

• Recovery advice in the Lovefraud Blog

• Webinars for survivors 

• Webinars for mental health professionals

• Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide


5. Am I the only one going through this? How can I tell my story?

You are not alone. Hundreds of people have told their stories on Lovefraud — you’ll probably find plenty of articles that sound just like your experience. You are welcome to share what happened to you.

How to comment on blog posts

• Lovefraud Forum — tell your story or ask for advice

• Letters to Lovefraud and SPATH Tales — written by readers like you.

• Write for Lovefraud — submit an article.

• Interested in telling your story to the media? Fill out the Lovefraud Media Survey.

• True Lovefraud Stories —  read these outrageous case studies, written by Donna Andersen


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