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8 reasons why narcissists create false narratives about their targets

February 3, 2023 // by Joanie Bentz, B.S., M.ED, CCBT, BC// Leave a Comment

By Joanie Bentz, BS, M.Ed., CCBT, BC Have you ever had someone unexpectedly confront you with false narratives about your life, such as your plans, decisions, activities and experiences? Were you stunned by the outrageous lies, or maybe blindsided by how the truth was cleverly mixed in with lies that made this information very believable? Perhaps it was a family member that said these things about you, or a co-worker. Sometimes, it could be an acquaintance that hardly knows you, and you wonder how this person could make such determinations about you with little contact or communication. A false narrative is simply misinformation about a person or situation. Gossip about the false …

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Love Fraud Book Excerpt: For the first time in my life, my heart led the way

January 29, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I’m telling the beginning of my love story — finding real, authentic love after the betrayal by my sociopathic ex-husband. My healing journey is recorded in my book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. For now, I invite you to read: Excerpts describing my husband’s lies and cheating. Excerpts describing my healing journey. By Donna Andersen I made one last attempt to get my money back from my ex-husband by blackmailing him. My intuition told me that I created a lot of problems for him in his latest scam, but I received nothing. The battle was over. At least my love life was moving forward. After our wonderful date a …

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5 steppingstones to true love after the sociopath

January 28, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

If you become romantically involved with a sociopath, sooner or later your heart is broken. The pain is so devastating that you may swear you’ll never love again. Please don’t follow through on that. It is entirely possible to find true love after the sociopath. I know, because it happened to me. I first learned about sociopaths the hard way — by marrying one. I wrote a book about it, called Love Fraud – how marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. Much of the story is about my ex-husband’s outrageous lies and manipulations towards me and multiple other women. His audacity was unbelievable. You can’t make this stuff up. Still, I think the most important part of book is how …

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Researchers seek intimate partners of psychopaths to share their experiences

January 27, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Sara Lapsley is a PhD student at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada, under the supervision of Dr. Adelle Forth. They are conducting a study to improve our understanding of the experiences and impact of being in a romantic relationship with someone who may have psychopathic traits. They are seeking participants 18 years old or over who have had a romantic relationship with someone who may have psychopathic traits. Participants will be asked to complete questionnaires that measure anxiety, depression, and symptoms of post-traumatic stress. There are also questions that ask about the experience of being harmed (including physical, emotional, and financial harm), as well as questions on …

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Love Fraud Book Excerpt: The beginning of true love

January 21, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Yes, it is possible to find true, lasting love after the sociopath. My ex-husband, James Montgomery, proclaimed that he loved me, but he said the words only to exploit me — read highlights of the story starting here. I didn’t know if I would ever recover and find real love, but I did. In fact, this is the most important part of the story that I tell in my book, Love Fraud — the joy of finally connecting with someone whose heart is true. I’m sharing a few more excerpts of my book — read the healing journey starting here. In a Valentine’s Day special, I’m offering you an autographed copy of the original printed book for the very low price of $4.99, plus shipping. Enjoy! And be inspired! Buy n …

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‘A History of a Pedophile’s Wife’ now available on Audible

January 20, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Editor's note: "How could a mother not know?" This is the question often asked about families where incest has occurred, which the Lovefraud author, Eleanor Cowan, answered in her book, "A History of a Pedophile's Wife." Eleanor has just released her book on Audible, and she recently discussed her experiences in the American Conversation podcast. I asked Eleanor about her experience of narrating her story for the audio book. Here’s what she wrote: In 2022, a young man, a long-haul driver, told me he’d wanted to read my paperback memoir, but he only buys audiobooks now. Criss-crossing North America weekly, with no time to turn the pages of a paper book, he listens to two 11- hour narrations a …

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Coerced debt: Financial betrayal by the sociopath

January 16, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// 1 Comment

For sociopaths, the objective of any relationship is to exert power and control over the other person. This is especially true in romantic relationships. One of the things sociopaths want to control is money, which often leaves survivors with mountains of coerced debt. I have experience with this one. My sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery, manipulated me into maxing out all my credit cards, supposedly to support his sure-to-succeed business plans. By the end, he’d wiped out my savings, decimated my business, and left me with $60,000 in credit card debt. I later found out he spent a lot of my money entertaining other women. Using my credit How did James Montgomery get his hands on m …

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Love Fraud Book Excerpt – My first relationship after the sociopath

January 13, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Love Fraud is a story of triumph. Yes, my sociopathic ex-husband betrayed me — you can read a series of excerpts that relay how he did it starting here. But the most important part of my story is the healing journey. I want you to know that it is possible to pass through the devastation to a new life that is happier than you ever imagined. Over the next few weeks, I’ll share some of my journey. In a Valentine’s Day special, I’m offering you an autographed copy of the original printed book for the very low price of $4.99, plus shipping. Enjoy! And be inspired! Buy now. Also, I'll be talking about Love Fraud on the Coast to Coast radio show, featuring George Noory on Feb. 6 at 3 am ET. If yo …

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Love Fraud book excerpt: Meeting my future husband (the sociopath)

January 9, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Next month brings Valentine’s Day, when the whole world focuses on love. But for many of us who have had our hearts broken by sociopaths, Valentine’s Day may bring more pain than pleasure. I want you to know that there can be love after the sociopath, and I am living proof. My story, which I wrote in my first book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is ultimately a story of triumph — heartbreak, then recovery, then the wonderful happy ending. I previously published excerpts describing the betrayal by my ex-husband. The first installment is below — follow the links to read all of them. Next, I'll publish excerpts of my healing journey. In a Valentine’s Day …

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Letting go of the mistake with the sociopath

January 8, 2023 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

When I finally realized that the person who promised to love me forever, James Montgomery, was a lying, manipulative cheater, I was angry with him — and just as angry with myself. Why did I believe his lies and empty promises? I knew he was taking my money; why did I stay? I beat myself up. I couldn’t let go of my mistake with the sociopath. The realization that I’d made a massive error in marrying this man was, of course, just one aspect of my emotional turmoil. I was betrayed — Montgomery cheated on me with multiple women. In fact, he had a child with another woman during our marriage. He also convinced me to finance his business plans, which were really just get-rich-quick schemes, until …

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