Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story by a reader whom we'll call, "Cindy21." She was with a man who manipulated and swindled her for 10 years, and she is embarrassed about falling for his lies. My story runs the course of 10 years. It involves two cancers, a motor vehicle accident, MS and much heartache. He stole my home and had me finance a business that I was 95% owner to 5% and when my daughter was critically ill and I had no money he threw me out. He said if I didn't sign a contract for $60,000 to buy me out of a home I had over $100,000 and a business that at the time was grossing 300,000, that as he put "If you don't do it you get nothing b*tch." Over the …
Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains that the way to recover from the sociopath and move forward in life is to focus on what you want, not on what you don't want. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest If you're living with a sociopath or the fallout from one, you could well have found yourself dwelling on all the pain, frustration, betrayal, fear, and other emotions that have become "the norm." I mean, when you've been immersed in such a toxic, negative situation, it seems impossible - if not ridiculous - to envision moving past those feelings. Your world has gradually slid into a place that you …
Warn your children about people who enjoy taking from others
Editor's note: Caroline Parsons is an attorney from Queensland, Australia. Today she suggests that one way to protect your children is to warn them about people who enjoy taking from others. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. There’s a game played by primary school children in the Middle East. Each child is given a bucket and a number of blank slips of paper. The child is encouraged to write kind descriptive words (such as “friendly”, “caring” or “smart”) on these slips of paper. They all then go around the classroom, placing these words into other children’s buckets. The teacher asks how everyone is …
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Make It a Beautiful Day…In Spite of the Sociopath
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, offers suggestions for finding moments of joy in our day, in spite of the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest The sun is rising, casting a soft, rosy glow across the cool grey sky, gently warming all it surveys as it quietly welcomes us to yet another new day. Sleepily, we climb out of our comfortable cocoons, yawning and stretching as we shuffle off to the kitchen for that hot cup of tea or that steaming mug of coffee, sliding ourselves into our lives for one more morning, not remotely noticing the glorious New Day that lies before us, brimming over …
Lessons after the sociopath: Real love is easy
UPDATED FOR 2021: On this Valentines Day, if you've been previously devastated by a sociopath, you may wonder if you can ever love again. The answer is yes. And here's a bit of wisdom that will help you decide if a new romantic partner is authentic and true: Real love is easy. I am living proof. In February 2000, I was divorced from James Montgomery, who took a quarter of a million dollars from me, cheated throughout our brief two-and-a-half-year relationship, had a child with another woman while married to me, and then married that woman 10 days after I left him, committing bigamy. I was crushed. After I left Montgomery, I had one nice relationship with a man, although it didn't turn …
When you feel the snap, it’s time to escape the toxic relationship
Editor's note: Caroline Parsons is an attorney from Queensland, Australia. Today she explains how many family violence survivors feel the snap — they're done with the abuse and they're leaving. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. A common but antiquated question in the family violence debate (using gendered language for historical accuracy) is “why didn’t she leave?” Answers include that he convinced her the problems were her fault and he promised to change. Clearly the more important question then is, “why did he abuse her?” But that is the topic of another post. In my view, the better question to be …
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Keep the Sociopath Out of Your Thoughts
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us that an important step in our recovery is to keep the sociopath out of our thoughts. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Yet another day is drawing to a close. You're unwinding, perhaps with a cup of something or a glass of wine. Or maybe you're brushing your teeth, the soft sound of your slippers padding from one room to another as you lock the door, check this and that, or peek in on the tousled heads of sleeping children. Maybe you've already tucked yourself in under the duvet, the lights are out and you're settling in for the night. The day has been …
At 18, she saw but didn’t understand the warning signs of a sociopath
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Larissa21." She met the socioath at 18; she saw but didn't understand the warning signs of a sociopath. I met the love of my life or so I thought the summer of 1994, my mother was suffering from breast cancer and she wanted to bring me on a trip for my senior year graduation present. She asked if I wanted to go to Ireland but I knew she wanted to see my brother in California at the time so we went - my mother was a year in battling cancer (an unknown source that only 3 percent of the population gets). She was given a year to live. On the summer night of July 5th I phoned my best friend to …
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How the movie ‘Frozen’ helps you teach your children about predators
Editor's note: Caroline Parsons is an attorney from Queensland, Australia. Today explains that the movie 'Frozen' can be a powerful tool for teaching your children about the sociopaths who live among us. Learn more about Caroline Parsons on the Lovefraud Announcements page or in her author profile. By Caroline Parsons, Esq. Spoiler alert: if you’re one of the few who haven’t seen the original Disney movie “Frozen,” you may wish to remedy that before reading on. For those of us who have seen the movie 'Frozen' a thousand times, please call to mind Anna’s primary love interest, Prince Hans of the Southern Isles. He is the youngest of thirteen sons, burdened with the inability to ascend his …
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Ease Your Stress with Buddha’s Smiling Meditation – It Works!
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, offers a way to ease your stress of dealing with a sociopath — Buddha's smiling meditation. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest For some time now, I've wanted to tell you about the Buddha's smiling meditation. The Buddha, in all his great wisdom, taught about this many long years ago. In times of stress or emotional upset, it's an especially simple, yet powerful way to lift yourself to a place of peace and calm. And it's always been a favourite amongst my meditation students. If you try it, you'll soon know why. You're going to love this sweet little meditation! It's …
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