Description
Donna Andersen is an expert on sociopaths and narcissists in relationships. She can help you identify if your partner, family member, work colleague or friend is disordered, and offer you practical advice on what to do — how to escape, or if that isn’t possible, how to cope.
Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. James Alwyn Montgomery, originally of Sydney, Australia, met her and quickly proposed in 1996. In two and a half years, Montgomery defrauded her of $227,000, cheated on her with at least six different women, fathered a child with one of them, and then, 10 days after Donna left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.
Because of her experience, in 2005 Donna founded Lovefraud.com, a website and blog that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths — people who could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorder. Over the years she has collected more than 10,000 cases and helped thousands of people. She’s written seven books:
- Understanding the Sociopath
- Seduced by a Sociopath
- Dealing with a Sociopath
- Recovery from the Sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook
- Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan
Donna founded Lovefraud Education and Recovery. The nonprofit offers online webinars to help survivors and therapists spot, escape and recover from narcissists, antisocials, psychopaths and other manipulators. She is co-author of a scientific paper about therapy for victims of sociopaths, and has presented research to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy.
Donna has appeared on television shows including Insight in Australia, ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for multiple radio shows, print articles and web posts.
According to expert estimates, there may be 30 million adult sociopaths in the United States — and millions more around the world. These people are dangerous to your emotions, health, physical safety and finances. They can be avoided, if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, most of us don’t know the warning signs, and end up entangled with them. Donna can help you escape and recover — and yes, recovery is possible. Donna met her new husband in 2001, and they’ve been together ever since.
Donna offers personal consultations via phone, Zoom or Skype.
A woman who called for advice wrote:
Thank you again Donna for talking with me this evening. I feel so much relief from that conversation. You helped me sort through much of the confusion. I will surely be on your website regularly checking out articles and posts.
One man from the United States who has spoken to Donna on several occasions says:
I had the good fortune of finding Donna Andersen to help in my struggle with sociopathic relationships. I took advantage of her consultation services and she has helped focus my awareness and understanding of where and why my troubles originate.
I can’t say enough about how she’s helped me time and again, despite the fact I’ve failed so often to follow through on her sound advice. Once, when I wrote and told her I’d blocked numbers in my “No Contact” effort, I insisted she let me donate to her cause. She did, and soon after I broke the NC stipulation she’d imposed. Since then she has refused my repeated efforts to donate to her cause until I maintain the NC.
This fact alone has shown me her integrity in looking out for my best interests. She tops the chart in helping me understand, be aware of and repair the damage caused by sociopaths.
Donna offers personal consultations Monday through Friday between 3 pm and 8 pm, Eastern Time (the same time zone as New York City in the United States). You can book your appointment and pay by credit card above. If you need a different time, please call 609-945-1384, or send an e-mail to donna@lovefraud.com.
Andrew Baker (verified owner) –
I spoke with Donna for an hour. She immediately mentioned something about how people can get addicted to a sociopaths’ negative behavior. I was not aware of this and it had me intrigued. I told her I noticed she has some online courses to take so I asked her for her suggestion on what I may want to take given my life experiences. I’ve always been about self-improvement and that’s how I’ve gotten where I am now. After combat I don’t plan on stopping. Life is too short. I’ve been knocked down before by a sociopath and this was my second one. It is not a good experience, and I realized the one thing I have in common with those two sociopaths was me. She suggested I buy her book, the EFT course as well as a 2-for-1 online course. After I hung up with her, I decided to take her 5-for-1 online course instead. It included the two she recommended. OMG! I am finally on the fifth webinar. It has been an intense journey. I am tackling it really fast which is causing a lot of stuff to come up really fast. I am familiar with this since I had to go through some intense PTSD counseling after war. During that counseling I realized I was married to a sociopath, and I also realized I “married my mother”. Through the counseling and healing after divorce I wanted to make sure my propensity to find another disordered partner was healed. Apparently, it was not. After completing four of the five-part series I had to take a two-day break because it was so intense. The silver lining is I can now finally connect all the dots completely to my mother. I also understand why I allow sociopaths into my life. It showed me why I ignored my “gut” instincts and allowed a person with those “red flags” into my life. It also now makes complete sense how I got chemically addicted to my ex-girlfriend. I saw the red flags. I took a mental note of them. I wanted to break free, but I just couldn’t, and I did not understand why. I now understand why! I’ve been searching for these answers for a very long time. She says in her seminars that half the counselors don’t understand sociopaths and she is correct!
Thank you very much Donna!
Andrew Baker (verified owner) –
Each time I speak with Donna the experience is enlightening. She is the subject matter expert on sociopaths. I really appreciate what she does. Her work has helped me connect a lot of dots and make sense of things. Thank you Donna.
Andrew Baker (verified owner) –
Every time I speak with Donna I learn something. Each time it is something new. Thank you Donna.
Anonymous (verified owner) –
excellent advice and highly recommend
hairbiz51 (verified owner) –
Donna Anderson is unbelievable!!! ☺️ Make no mistake…she knows her stuff when it comes to Sociopaths!!! 😈 What a blessing for me to be able to share my experience, and with her help figure out why I attract these creeps!!! (so I can heal my emotional wounds) I also highly recommend her book(s) 📚 LoveFraud and it’s compatible workbook. Thank you Donna! You are a blessing. 🙏🏻
bluesky1970 (verified owner) –
Donna helped me start to unpack my experience with a sociopath who was really important to me at one point….. and I hope that this will be the foundation of a recovery for me. I feel as though a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and that I am on a healthy path. There is work to do, and I know I can ask to talk again when I need some guidance.
I could not be more grateful.
Rob Restituto (verified owner) –
I’m not sure where I would be if I didn’t stumble upon Donna’s videos. I had been struggling for months to understand my wife’s current behavior. How she walked away from (what I thought ) was a very happy marriage. Only to find out she was love bombing her new target behind my back for months. I couldn’t figure out how my wife could look me dead in my eyes and tell me she (convincingly) loved me. All while telling another man she’s falling in love with him the previous hour. Then she a walks out of the marriage one night and moves right in with the target while she’s still married to me. No remorse , no conscious , no empathy. Like her husband and stepdaughter of 7 years meant absolutely nothing. Donna was able to make me understand who my Wife truly was, a full fledged Sociopath. Even though the pain still runs deep, like it would with any man who’s wife left him for another, I’m at least able to understand her behavior…as disturbing as it might be. I never knew these people existed until I started watching her videos. God bless her for educating the world. The only thing i would like to see a little more of is a focus on female sociopaths. I kinda feel like men are the main focus because they seem to be more prevalent in society and are the ones usually incarcerated. However , the females are more covert, the damage they inflict can be unprecedented though. Trust me , I’m trying to survive it right now. My wife is literally trying to destroy every aspect of my life, as well as my daughter’s.
angel12034 (verified owner) –
Talking to Donna was extremely helpful. She listened to me talk about my relationship while offering insight along the way and she answered all of my questions. I now feel like I have every tool to get over this toxic relationship. I highly recommend talking to her if you have a lot of questions like I did. She’s so well versed on the topic of disordered people. I will definitely speak with her again if I’m having trouble along my journey. Thank you Donna!
fiona Flintham (verified owner) –
Donna’s kind and empathetic approach really helped me at a difficult time – her expertise gave me confirmation of my own thoughts. Thank you Donna
Yvonne (verified owner) –
Donna listened to my story and then was able to help me feel that I wasn’t crazy after going through a relationship with a sociopath. She understands and has been in this situation before and there is no judgement being passed. Gave me some helpful advice to putting pieces back together ….thanks Donna