Description
Donna Andersen is an expert on sociopaths and narcissists in relationships. She can help you identify if your partner, family member, work colleague or friend is disordered, and offer you practical advice on what to do — how to escape, or if that isn’t possible, how to cope.
Donna learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. James Alwyn Montgomery, originally of Sydney, Australia, met her and quickly proposed in 1996. In two and a half years, Montgomery defrauded her of $227,000, cheated on her with at least six different women, fathered a child with one of them, and then, 10 days after Donna left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.
Because of her experience, in 2005 Donna founded Lovefraud.com, a website and blog that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths — people who could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic or psychopathic personality disorder. Over the years she has collected more than 10,000 cases and helped thousands of people. She’s written eight books:
- Senior Sociopaths – How to recognize and escape lifelong abusers
- Understanding the Sociopath
- Seduced by a Sociopath
- Dealing with a Sociopath
- Recovery from the Sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
- Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook
- Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan
Donna founded Lovefraud Education and Recovery. The nonprofit offers online webinars to help survivors and therapists spot, escape and recover from narcissists, antisocials, psychopaths and other manipulators. She is co-author of a scientific paper about therapy for victims of sociopaths, and has presented research to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy.
Donna has appeared on television shows including Insight in Australia, ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for multiple radio shows, print articles and web posts.
According to expert estimates, there may be 30 million adult sociopaths in the United States — and millions more around the world. These people are dangerous to your emotions, health, physical safety and finances. They can be avoided, if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, most of us don’t know the warning signs, and end up entangled with them. Donna can help you escape and recover — and yes, recovery is possible. Donna met her new husband in 2001, and they’ve been together ever since.
Donna offers personal consultations via phone, Zoom or Skype.
A woman who called for advice wrote:
Thank you again Donna for talking with me this evening. I feel so much relief from that conversation. You helped me sort through much of the confusion. I will surely be on your website regularly checking out articles and posts.
One man from the United States who has spoken to Donna on several occasions says:
I had the good fortune of finding Donna Andersen to help in my struggle with sociopathic relationships. I took advantage of her consultation services and she has helped focus my awareness and understanding of where and why my troubles originate.
I can’t say enough about how she’s helped me time and again, despite the fact I’ve failed so often to follow through on her sound advice. Once, when I wrote and told her I’d blocked numbers in my “No Contact” effort, I insisted she let me donate to her cause. She did, and soon after I broke the NC stipulation she’d imposed. Since then she has refused my repeated efforts to donate to her cause until I maintain the NC.
This fact alone has shown me her integrity in looking out for my best interests. She tops the chart in helping me understand, be aware of and repair the damage caused by sociopaths.
Donna offers personal consultations Monday through Saturday, Eastern Time (the same time zone as New York City in the United States). Hours are:
- Monday, Wednesday, Thursday: 2 – 7 pm
- Tuesday, Friday: 2 – 4 pm
- Saturday: 10 am – 1 pm
You can book your appointment and pay by credit card above. If you need a different time, please call 609-945-1384, or send an e-mail to donna@lovefraud.com.
Sara (verified owner) –
Speaking with Donna raised my spirits and gave me a sense of hope. I can’t fully express how nice and reassuring it was to talk with someone who understood what I’ve been going through and also not be judged in any way. I highly recommend the consultation. I’ve been in a pretty dark place and she’s helped me see the light. Kind, caring, and compassionate.
Anonymous (verified owner) –
Donna is very knowledgeable and supportive. She was able to listen, validate and point me in the right direction with helpful resources. We helped me make sense of our family’s difficult situation with our personality disordered young adult daughter, who was adopted as an older child. She helped us understand some of the genetic underpinning of the disorder as well as how to use boundaries/no contact to protect our other children.
Penny G (verified owner) –
I thoroughly enjoyed my session with Donna. It felt good to finally speak with someone that could relate to what I am going through. She was able to give me some validation and I will definitely consider another session with her. Thank you Donna!
carla (verified owner) –
I really enjoyed talking with Donna- she was able to explain some things I did not understand about my situation. Also, provided me with insight on why some of these things happened!
Jill (verified owner) –
Donna was very kind to listen to me, and give me very good counsel on a few matters that were concerning to me! I would also recommend Donna’s books, they have truly been helpful to me, and very educational.
Jenny (verified owner) –
Very helpful and insightful! Donna is a truly wise person with a lot of experience, and offered me a lot of insights into sociopaths — both how i can understand them and lean into healing from my trauma.
Elaine (verified owner) –
Donna is very knowledgeable and helped me in understanding my relationship with a sociopath. I would recommend her to anyone who is struggling with these type of relations.
Paula F. (verified owner) –
I have been to see a counsellor regards this horrific time in my life , however speaking to Donna personally has been the most worthwhile experience. Her calm, soothing and non judgemental approach has definitely helped me.
Anonymous (verified owner) –
Donna was very insightful and provided me with insight into my relationship with a sociopath
Andrew (verified owner) –
As usual Donna is excellent in all that she does. Her personal consultations are extremely valuable for those dealing with people who posses manipulative personalities. I am extremely grateful for all that she and her team has provided me. I’ve completed many classes. Knowledge is power, making all the classes well worth their cost; and then some!
That knowledge is paying dividends allowing me to weed out manipulative people before they burrow into my life. I now communicate using Donna’s personal consultations as maintenance for dealing with family members with personality disorders. Also a valuable asset!
Thank you Donna. I’m extremely grateful!