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January 12, 2020 at 11:40 am #55712Donna AndersenKeymaster
Psychopaths are so totally different from the rest of us, with no heart, no conscience and no remorse. Are they aware that they are missing the parts that make the rest of us human?
In this episode of Lovefraud Live!, I explain just how different they are, why they always were that way, and why they will not change.
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January 14, 2020 at 8:16 pm #55738michellekimballParticipant
How does one deal with Parental alienation by the psychopath (Not been in contact with him in three years), when all the children have been brainwashed by him, and are starting to have narcissistic traits? I wonder if I should go no contact with the children (ages 18-25). They treat me abominably, but we used to be so close with an amazingly loving bond.
January 14, 2020 at 10:33 pm #55739
January 15, 2020 at 5:40 am #55743Donna AndersenKeymaster
Michellekimball – I am so sorry for your experience. Unfortunately, it is not unusual for sociopaths to try to take away that which you love the most – your kids.
Your children are already adults, so many of the strategies to combat parental alienation involving younger children are no longer useful.
The key here is whether or not your children themselves are disordered. Unfortunately, sociopathic personality disorders are highly genetic, so it is possible that your kids inherited a predisposition to the condition.
I would suggest thinking carefully about about each of your children individually. Do they show traits of disorder? Did this start around puberty or earlier? Do they engage in bad behavior with people other than you? If the answers are yes for any one of the children, then there may not be a lot you can do.
But you said that you previously had a good relationship with your kids. This may mean that they are not disordered, but have been fed lies. Usually sociopaths will say you cheated on them, did drugs, are mentally unstable, etc. If you are around the kids, prove this to be wrong through your behavior. Be calm, happy, cheerful, interested in them.
Again, I would suggest considering each of your kids individually, and try to decide who may be most amenable to rebuilding a relationship, and take steps towards doing that.
Also, they are adults now, so you can tell them the truth of your ex’s behavior. At least some of it.
In the meantime, work on your own recovery. We have lots of info here on Lovefraud about that. The healthier you are, the more your kids will realize that your ex is lying. Or, if they are not coming back to you, you will be able to build a new life for yourself.
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