By | February 8, 2019 0 Comments

Video: After they’re gone, do sociopaths or narcissists return?

The sociopath is gone. Either you were dumped, or you finally threw him or her out. Now what? After they’re gone, do sociopaths or narcissists return?

You may feel like you’re in shock, especially if your sociopathic partner abruptly discarded you, after days, months, or perhaps even years of saying that you were meant for each other.

Or perhaps you finally got up the nerve to end the involvement. Your partner is gone, but your resolve is unsteady. What if he or she showed up again? Can you stand strong?

I address these questions in the newest Lovefraud Lessons video: Do sociopaths return? I explain why sociopaths may return, and what you should do.

To learn more … Read more

By | February 7, 2019 2 Comments

Love Fraud book excerpt: If my family knew what was really going on in my marriage

Love Fraud book excerptBy Donna Andersen

We married secretly in Australia. Then six months after we met, had another wedding, complete with a reception and band, attended by family and friends. By this time I had already spent more than $53,000 on my husband’s projects, much of it on my credit cards.

My brother’s birthday was in March, and on a Sunday afternoon his wife planned a small celebration in their home. James said he had to work, as usual, so I went alone. Toward the end of the party, my brother cornered me in the family room.

“You know, Donna, Dad is concerned about James,” he began.

“What’s he concerned about?”

“He thinks James doesn’t have any money and you … Read more

By | February 6, 2019 0 Comments

Issues you should consider before taking a sociopath to court

Lovefraud received the following email:

I was previously married to a sociopath, and we have a 4-year-old son together.  I have sole legal and physical custody of our son, but have been fighting to reduce the amount of visitation for quite some time.  I recently read that having a forensic psychological analysis done on the entire family would reveal that my ex is a sociopath and possibly prevent him from having ANY visitation going forward.  Is this true, in your experience?  Do you have any advice for me as I embark on this process?

Many, many Lovefraud readers have realized — to their horror — that they’ve had a child or children with a sociopath. Once you realize … Read more

By | February 4, 2019 0 Comments

Wednesday webinar: What do psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists want?


I’m prepping for my webinar on Wednesday — What did they want? Psychopaths, antisocial and other exploiters in romantic relationshipsand I’m very excited about the material. If you’re trying to understand why sociopaths, narcissists and the rest of these toxic manipulators do what they do, this webinar is where you can get clarity.

I explain the clunky terminology of psychology researchers and mental health professionals (and why I refer to human predators collectively as “sociopaths”). I’ll show you Lovefraud’s research on when most people see the warning signs of exploitative behavior — if it took you awhile, you’re certainly not alone. And I explain how sociopaths become disordered — it’s their basic social motivation systems gone … Read more

By | February 3, 2019 0 Comments

On TV Feb 9 : How Derek Alldred scammed dozens of women in love fraud

Last August, Derek Alldred was sentenced to 24 years in prison for scamming at least two dozen women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars in a massive love fraud. On Saturday, Feb. 9, at 8 pm ET, Oxygen Media will present a documentary of the case, with the women he deceived telling what happened to them.

Seduced by Evil delves into the world of the wickedly smart and dangerously evil Derek Alldred, a criminal mastermind who sought out relationships with unsuspecting women and entangled them in a web of lies to deplete their savings and support his fabricated life. Through the eyes of the countless women he deceived, the documentary will feature exclusive interviews with former victims … Read more

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By | February 1, 2019 0 Comments

Video: When sociopaths say, ‘I love you,’ what do they mean?

Most sociopaths in romantic relationships are quick to proclaim their love. But when sociopaths say, ‘I love you,’ what do they really mean?

In this video, I offer 10 possible explanations — none of which have anything to do with real love.

I will be addressing this topic — and much more — in my upcoming webinar:

What did they want? Psychopaths, antisocials, and other exploiters in romantic relationships
Wednesday, February 6, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of

If you want a primer on personality-disorder partners, here it is. I explain how these people behave, what they want, and why they turn so callous and cold. Their motivations are totally different from yours; … Read more

By | February 1, 2019 0 Comments

Looks like Sen. Joni Ernst was married to a sociopath

Senator Joni Ernst of Iowa endured verbal, mental and at least one incident of physical abuse during her marriage, according to documents filed in her divorce from her husband of 26 years, Gail Ernst.

When they married in 1992, Gail Ernst was 39 and a career Army man. Joni Ernst was 22 and had recently graduated from college.

In her divorce documents, Joni Ernst says:

  • Her husband assaulted her after she confronted him about his “special relationship” with their daughter’s babysitter. She fled to her mother’s house with their daughter in the middle of the night.
  • After the incident, Gail Ernst agreed to counseling, but told her not to discuss the assault in the sessions. She agreed.
  • “Gail
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By | January 31, 2019 2 Comments

Love Fraud book excerpt: Was the relationship moving too fast, or was I just afraid?

Love Fraud book excerptBy Donna Andersen

Not long after we met in person, James Montgomery proposed to me — he was smitten with me, and proclaimed we’d make a great team. But it felt like he was taking over my existence. What was I getting myself into?

Life became a spinning tornado, with James at the center of it. He was working at full speed on all his projects, yet called me many times a day, keeping me apprised of his progress. He told me about his meetings, forwarding reports and faxes. He also asked for my help. James wrote newsletters for the American Legion, Vietnam Veterans Association and his new Lions Club. He wanted me to use my vendors to … Read more

By | January 29, 2019 0 Comments

Wed 1/30 – Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed

Webinar tomorrow:

Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed
Wednesday, January 30, 2019 • 8-9 pm ET
Instructor: Donna Andersen, author of

You’re smart, loving and accomplished. Take this course and learn how your exploitative partner used your good human qualities against you, by targeting your vulnerabilities and hijacking the human bonding system.

Purchase the webinar  Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed for only $25. More info.


Sign up for the Lovefraud Understanding and Recovery 5-part Masterclass, and the webinar is included. You get six webinars for $99. More info.

Highlights of this webinar:

  • Why most of us are clueless about the social predators living among us
  • The
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By | January 28, 2019 4 Comments

To survive a sociopath, we sometimes act like a sociopath

act like a sociopathI almost didn’t recognize myself. There I was, plotting with my cheating husband’s mistress to steal money from his bank account.

Before I married James Montgomery, I never would have considered such an action.  But after he convinced me to blow $227,000 on his ridiculous business schemes, and after I discovered that my entire marriage was a scam, I was angry, broke and desperate. I did what I had to do to survive a sociopath (although at the time, I didn’t know he was a sociopath).

Maybe because of your own entanglement with a sociopath, you’ve found yourself doing things that you never, ever did before. This happened to “Stevie2018,” who just posted her story in the Lovefraud Read more

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