Behavioral Studies/Sociopath

So my ex whom I have been divorced from for almost 5 years now does anything in her power to make my life hell. We both have re-married since our divorce. Her to a much older man and me to a much more attractive younger lady. During our relationship I was not faithful as I had internet flings with a few women who I didn’t know. It was a filler because I was so depressed and unhappy with my sex life and didn’t want anything to do with her. We had 2 kids together and this is the main reason why I married her. I felt like I had to. She filed for divorce and I was so down I agreed to what the custody arrangement was. Looking back on the deal I was so stupid. I agreed to a lot less than what standard was. 2 years ago I took her back to court to get standard visitation and I got that. Both of my kiddos with her were my everything. I changed every diaper, gave every bath, woke up every night when they did, fed them, clothed them for school etc… I was a Mr. Mom. I had huge resentment towards her for not ever being there as a mom. She claimed that her job was important so she stayed at her work until midnight on most nights working on things. Mind you she was a special Ed. teacher. What Special ed. teacher has to stay at school until midnight every night…I was blind. I know now she was screwing around on me. I have phone records that prove it, yet she denies. Its crazy because she now tells my kids how she did (baths, diapers, etc.) all of what I did when they were growing up. They are 14 and 10 now. My kids really have a wall built up with me. She has told them that I am the reason we are no longer married and they have even said I have cheated on their mom. Recently she took my oldest to her lawyer because now both of my kids claim they want less time with me. They tell me that they feel like they are living out of a suitcase too much when they come with me. I live 30 minutes from where they go to school. They do have to get up earlier with me but we are very organized and we make it work. She served me papers a few months back but wants me to pay her lawyer fees. She is trying to get the schedule back to what it was before. There are some issues here. Step dad has been sending my oldest daughter text messages that are inappropriate. He has asked her if she wants “dirty pics” and then sends a pic of her dirty room. He also sent a pic of her when she was younger saying that “here is a pic of your best side” and its a pic of her butt. I have taken these to authorities but there isn’t much they can do. They said to keep monitoring it but they agree its grooming. The crazy ex tells me that I am jealous and that there isn’t anything there and that I am jealous, but if I have an issue with it then I need to approach him and deal with it. Im appalled by such! The history of this story is insane. My ex does some shady shit and I truly believe she is a sociopath but knows how to cover her tracks and make it look legit. She has a masters degree in behavioral studies. Its almost like she uses this to help her. Below is a list of things she has done over the last 5 years to make me think she truly is crazy.

1. She has told me kids that I hug them for an extra long time when I drop them off so it makes them sad and not want to come back home to her.
2. She constantly tells my oldest daughter that she “tried to call her” but their never is any record of her calling.
3. She discounts things we buy (especially clothing) over facetime with my kids. She says things like “why did you buy that, you will never wear it, or why did you buy those earrings you know your grandma Gladys wore earrings like that and her ears hung down to her shoulders”. That’s my gma btw who has passed on.
4. She will text me asking if I am going to certain sporting events when I don’t hardly ever miss them. When I reply yes I am going. She says things like “Im glad to see your going, ______ enjoys you there.” The funny thing is she used to miss almost every event when we were going through a divorce…I was the steady one!
5. She chooses what events and or teams my kids will be on without me having a say in any of it. She flexes her custodial muscles.
6. She immediately got the girls into counseling once a week when she claims the girls wanted more time with her. When I asked her why they were going back she never answered me. (side note- she took me back to court after she caught wind I was going to take her back to court because of the inappropriate texts from her perv hub).
7. She tells me oldest she will help buy her a Range Rover for her 16th bday. We both are middle class people who by no means can afford such. She knows I will shut it down though and it makes me look like the bad guy.
8. She never helps with fundraisers for my kids. I have raised every bit of money for every fundraiser we have done.
9. She bashes me to the parents on my kids teams. When I come around its like I have a disease. They give me go to hell looks and scatter. I have no idea what she tells them.
10. She goes on these luxurious trips probably every 3 months. Usually cruises and hardly ever takes the kids. But she makes sure she facetimes when they are with me.
11. She told me when we were married that in order for us to work out we needed to go on a trip at least once a year. I told her that it wasn’t financially possible. She gets that now.
12. She has bashed my wife to my kids. Telling them that things she does Is “stupid”.
13. She posts things on facebook about me that are false. Long rants about me doing things that are blatant lies. Then she soaks up all the attention she gets from it.
14. Her mom and Gma are both sociopaths/narcissists. Both her mom and Gma didn’t have anything to do with their kids when they reached HS age. Her Gma shipped her mom off to foster care and her mom became a drug addict dating lots of guys never having a stable home. She has a sister too that has given up all of her kids throughout the years. She keeps our kids because it affects me. If we could put a truth serum in her she would give them up in a heart beat if I wasn’t in the picture.
15. She throws a big fit about me taking the girls out of school when she has done the same thing. We left a day early on vacation and they had to miss a day of school. For some reason when I took them out it was a huge deal but not so much when she let them skip a day. (side note- I got a text from her saying her missing was going to hurt my daughters cheer grade and that she would have an F in that class. I contacted the cheer coach and she sent me the exact email she sent my ex. It never stated that. She totally fabricated the story.)
16. Recently my oldest stole a sweater from my wives closet. When I approached her about it her mom was there. After I talked to her about it her mom intervened and said, “Its not like my closet where you can get anything you want anytime you want, you need to ask.” Totally showing my daughter that her mom trusts her and its ok to get whatever you want when you want it from her. Driving a wedge between my daughter and my wife.

These are just a few things that I can think of. Oh and btw she wants more child support of course. Another reason she is going back to court. And another creepy thing is she tries to mimmick my wife and I’s lifestyle. We built a new house and she remodeled hers doing some very similar things to hers. My wife drove a jeep for awhile and so did she. I noticed on her pinterest she has things tagged that are just like our house. Oh and the kicker- she won’t change her name to her married name. Its still my last name! WTF!! She claims its because of the kids, but at least hyphenate it! She even has old pics of us on her facebook but none of her and her husband. So crazy to me!

I have found that not engaging works the best. I have peace with not engaging but get anxious when she is around. I fear what she may do.