Recovery from a sociopath

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains why it gets worse before it gets better when you start your recovery from the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest You know how it is when you look around your house and realise it needs a good cleaning? And then you realise it needs a good clearing out, too? You start thinking of everything that's stashed away in drawers and cupboards, the basement, the attic, shelves and closets, you just know there's a ton of "stuff" that could stand a good going through. And you think, "Oh, man, what a lot of work," and it's not fun, but it really ought to be …

In Recovery: Why It Gets Worse Before It Gets BetterRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us that sometimes the best thing to do is nothing. We need to lie fallow and recover. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Day after day, she gives without reward. From deep within, she creates. We do not understand the miracle, yet New Life draws nourishment from her, springs forth from her, and she nourishes again. She is driven, relentless, compelled to be the Giver of Life. In silence, she persists, oblivious to her exhaustion, to the harsh storms and to those who would take advantage, ravaging, using, demanding. Still, day after day, she gives …

The Need to Lie Fallow: Taking a Healing BreakRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to indulge yourself. You'll feel better — especially after you've given up so much for the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Abstinence makes the heart grow fungus. Okay, that's not exactly how the saying goes. But it makes my point. abstinence, noun (ab-stuh-nuhns) 1. forbearance from any indulgence of appetite, especially from the use of alcoholic beverages: eg. total abstinence. 2. any self-restraint, self-denial, or forbearance. So...that sounds like a whole lotta fun. Not. So what's the point? Well, I suppose a little …

After the Sociopath, It’s Good to Indulge YourselfRead More

UPDATED FOR 2021. Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call Alfred. The subject line of his email was, "A moral obligation?" I'm two years removed from the brutal break-up with my ex-spath and all in all, can say I'm doing quite well and have recovered nicely! It was a LONG journey to get to the place I'm at and it's a relief to be there after two years of continual obsessing and ruminating - I've finally reached the point where I just don't care anymore. The shock of what I had in my life for 14 years has finally dissipated - the last emotion to go. That being said, I know I still have some work to do on myself as evidenced by my need to periodically check-up …

Moral dilemma: Warning the next victimRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, offers suggestions on breaking toxic relationship patterns by looking closely at your beliefs — especially those that do not support you. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Have you found yourself getting into relationships with sociopaths or others who are toxic or unhealthy in some way? If so, you are so not alone. It's human nature to repeat patterns of behaviour, especially when it involves an unresolved emotional issue that's lying there for us to trip over again and again. It's not even a conscious choice. It's like we're on auto-pilot with old tapes …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, asks you to think carefully about who is really the most important person in your life. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Who is the most important person in your life? Your husband? Your girlfriend? Your best friend? Your mom or dad? Your child? A sports or celebrity hero? If you're like many people, there is probably an extensive list of possibilities and you'll have to think about the question very carefully, trying to weigh up which one comes out on top. And if you're like many people, you won't even have the correct answer on the list. That answer, my …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, advises that it's always important to honour, respect and love yourself, despite what you've endured from the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest My last article, After the Sociopath, Honor Your Perfect Spirit, was about the ways in which you might be hurting yourself and neglecting your Spirit. Although it isn't essential, you might want to have a peek at that post before reading this one, as they fit together rather well. I ended it with these words: "Please. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Honour, respect and love yourself. It is what …

After the Sociopath, Honour, Respect and Love YourselfRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds you that even if you feel crushed by a deceptive sociopath, you should still honor your perfect spirit. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Following on from last week's article, Who Do You See in the Mirror? I'm going to ask you another question. And again, please take a moment or two to consider your answer before continuing to read. Ready? Okay. When's the last time you hurt yourself? Please think about that for a moment... I'm really curious about what your answer was. It will depend, of course, on what the question meant to you. Chances are …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, asks, who do you see in the mirror? Someone you've been conditioned to see — or your true essence? Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I'm gonna ask you a question now. And I want you to be reeeeeally honest with your answer, okay? I don't want you to read beyond the question until you've taken a moment and answered it because I really want you to think about it. Ready? Okay, here goes: Who do you see when you look in a mirror? Stop for a moment and take in that question...This can be a revealing and powerful little exercise if you give yourself a moment to …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how to overcome negative messages from the past, even from your parents, and improve yourSelf worth. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Most of us have stories about the rotten things people have told us about ourselves. Or rather, what they believe to be the truth about us. And this is no more true than if you've been dealing with sociopaths. It's one of their tactics; they find any little chink in the armor, any small weakness or insecurity, and they pick away at it with demeaning, diminishing comments that you believe because you love them and trust their …

How to Overcome Negative Messages and Improve YourSelf WorthRead More