Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains that everything in life changes. Then she offers you the secret for how to cope with change when it happens in your life. Read more about Liberty. It always amazes me to consider the wide range of emotions that the word "change" can evoke. Even without context, some people absolutely love it, relishing a new adventure, the next challenge, or an opportunity to expand themselves or their lives in some way. And then there are those people who dread it. They fear it more than almost anything else and do not know how to cope with change. But of course, …
With a sociopath, you can’t just “get over it.” You need to commit yourself to your emotional recovery. Some of these articles are sure to resonate with you.
Empty chair technique to resolve issues with deceased father
By Joanie Bentz, B.S., M.Ed., CCBP, BC As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I have recently incorporated what is called “the empty chair” technique with my clients. This technique is for individuals who have a need to express themselves to someone that is emotionally unavailable, living far away, in prison, or deceased. Commonly this technique is used to resolve a conflict with someone who will not visit a counselor or therapist with the client. Also, if there is an overtly dysfunctional family member (an addict or alcoholic) who will not seek therapy or talk about their problem, this empty chair technique is effective for family members who are witnessing their destructive behaviors and fee …
Empty chair technique to resolve issues with deceased fatherRead More
After 6 months of No Contact, the sociopath wants to begin again
UPDATED FOR 2022: Suppose you successfully get rid of a sociopath and he or she leaves you alone. Then, after months of No Contact, he or she reaches out to you. The sociopath wants to begin again. What do you do? Here's an email exchange I once had with a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Alana." Alana wrote: Donna, I came across ur website accidentally after I left a guy and was searching for some answers on whether he was abusive, I was left totally confused. When I met him 4 years ago, he seemed so crazy about me and he would send me hundreds of texts per day and 10 phone calls, he wanted to see me every day. At first I felt suffocated I wanted to run in the other direction, …
After 6 months of No Contact, the sociopath wants to begin againRead More
A Lovefraud reader’s happy ending
UPDATED FOR 2022 — a reminder to everyone that there can be love after the sociopath. Several years ago, Lovefraud heard from a reader whom we called "Rochelle." After 30 years, she'd reconnected with the first boy she ever loved. It felt like her chance to finally have the love she always wanted. Except that the boy, now a man, was a sociopath, and the love was a mirage. Rochelle knew he was disordered, but still she pined for him. She asked, "When does it get to the point where he stops taking up space in my brain?" Here's her story: Getting the sociopath out of your head She later wrote a Letter to Lovefraud detailing her experience: How sociopaths twist words and a …
Yes, there can be love after the sociopath
Relationships with sociopaths are devastating. At one time we thought we’d found the person we’d been waiting for all our lives. Then we were unceremoniously discarded. Eventually we learned that the whole relationship was a lie. We feel like we are emotionally ruined forever. But I’m here to tell you that there can be love after the sociopath. I know, because I lived it. My first book, Love Fraud, is the story of my marriage to a con artist. I describe in detail how he seduced me, then exploited me. But the book is more than that — it is also the story of my recovery. In fact, the sociopath’s betrayal shattered my emotional defenses, which had the effect of enabling me to truly open my …
Healthy shame, toxic shame and sociopaths
As human beings, we’re not perfect, and sometimes we learn this the hard way. Shame is the unpleasant, unsettling emotion that we feel when we discover a defect in ourselves. Although we feel badly, shame can actually be constructive — it can motivate us to learn, improve, or make amends. This is healthy shame. Toxic shame, however, is destructive; we feel weak, pathetic and worthless. Sociopaths never feel healthy shame, and they push us to feel toxic shame. At the most basic level, shame is a defense mechanism, according to the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM). It enables us to learn how to keep ourselves safe from harm. This was important i …
In the New Year, true emotional recovery from the sociopath
UPDATED FOR 2022: It's the New Year, the perfect time to reflect on what we truly want in life. If you are or have been involved with a sociopath, your most ardent wish is probably for recovery. Here's the secret that will enable you to achieve your desire: All true healing is internal. Therefore, be sure to work on your emotional recovery. You may feel like I'm stating the obvious, because you feel like crap, and you want to feel better. Or worse, you are numb, and you can't feel anything. You may believe that fixing some external problem caused by the sociopath will enable you to feel better. If you can just finalize the divorce, get custody of the kids, move away, get your money b …
In the New Year, true emotional recovery from the sociopathRead More
Should You Fear the Death Card in a Tarot Reading?
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains what the Death Card in a Tarot reading really means, and why it may portend great things for you. Read more about Liberty. As a psychic and medium, over the past few decades I've had many clients come to me because they feel trapped in a relationship with a sociopath. Whether it's a family member or a romantic partner, they feel helpless and don't know how to move forward — which is why they've contacted me for guidance. Sometimes I've used Tarot cards in my readings. Provided the reader is experienced and "in alignment," Tarot is an excellent tool to gain clarity on …
Love Does Not Conquer All
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains why love does not conquer all — especially if the person you love is a sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Love does not conquer all. That's the truth. The story of Romeo and Juliet pretty much sums it up. Sure, it was fiction. But it was a case of art imitating life — if not literally (which is, unfortunately, sometimes the case), certainly figuratively. What we'll do in the name of love...really, it's quite shocking at times. I don't know what happens to our brains when we love someone but the image of putting a plastic bag on a hot frying pan …
The Serenity Prayer: Letting Go of What No Longer Works for You
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us of the beauty and power of the Serenity Prayer, and how it can help us let go of what no longer supports us. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest As you've landed on this site, I'm guessing you've been slammed with a lot of lessons on "letting go." Perhaps you've had to let go of dreams, your home, family members, a relationship, your lifestyle, the past, or a long list of other aspects of your life. It can feel completely devastating. You might even feel like it's more than you can bear. I can relate to that; I've been there myself, many times, so I do …
The Serenity Prayer: Letting Go of What No Longer Works for YouRead More
